Part 1: Dating In Medicine
Navigating the dating world can be difficult, especially as a doctor. With long work hours and intense demands, finding the time and energy to pursue authentic relationships can be challenging. But having a fulfilling romantic life is an essential part of self-care and can help you maintain your mental health while continuing to make a difference in the lives of others. As a doctor, people's lives are in your hands, but you’re also a human who deserves to be happy.
In this episode of the Behind the Scrubs podcast, we’re joined by Dr. Michael Renda, a trauma and acute care surgeon; Dr. Linda Velazquez, a surgical resident; husband and wife Drs. Dr. Kojo Marfo and Tammy John, both orthopedic surgeons. In this conversation, we discuss dating in medicine, misconceptions about it, our experiences as doctors, and how you can make your experiences and choices better and enjoy your journey.
This is an exciting conversation. Tune in!
What You Will Learn:
[00:00] Intro and a bit about our guests today
[07:46] Balancing your career with relationships and dating
[12:36] The misconceptions around the financial side of being a doctor
[17:01] Dating inside or outside the medical field
[28:25] Women’s and men's biological clock’s unnecessary pressure
[32:19] Why online dating is a science experiment on the internet
[36:19] The paradox of choice and the unlimited options of perfection
[39:02] How to overcome dating difficulties in residency and enjoy your journey
[44:27] Self-care: setting boundaries and being okay with it
[48:58] The baseline for dating and building healthy relations
[58:28] A tour of Alexis Lauren's facility
[59:44] How to follow us and check out our events and projects
[01:00:54] Advice to young medics
[01:05:27] Ending the show
Standout Quotes:
“The biggest lie of all time is seeing red flags in a relationship and thinking you cannot end it because there is nothing better for you out there.”- Dr. Velazquez [28:18]
“There is so much that is tailored to what people want on Instagram that it isn't real, and everyday options of different variations of perfection are negatively affecting us.”- Dr. John [35:59]
“The Paradox of choice is the most numbing thing, and what we use to date or meet our significant other is the epitome of the worst paradox of choice possible.”- Dr. Renda [36:23]
“Have controlled empathy when you’re at work, don't take it home with you; be present at work and leave it there; when you go home, be present with your loved ones ”- Dr. Coombs [51:05]
“Love what you're doing and do what you need to do to help others, don’t think about the money aspects.”- Dr. Marfo [55:48]
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