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episode 27 starts with meg saying one thing slightly wrong and somehow spirals into a deep, hour-long conversation about individualism in australia and how it quietly shapes (and strains) friendships.

we unpack how australian culture approaches friendship, flakiness, planning, and emotional distance, and contrast that with growing up in more collectivist cultures, particularly hungary. we talk about unspoken social rules, why being “low maintenance” is often praised, and how that can leave people feeling isolated, unsupported, or disposable.

the conversation also touches on capitalism, neglect of community, neurodivergence, and why being different can feel especially hard in australia. erica shares personal friendship breakdowns, what she’s changed for other people in the past, and where she’s no longer willing to bend.

it’s a raw, thoughtful episode about belonging, cultural mismatch, and what real friendship actually requires.

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chapters:

00:00 intro

01:39 friendship in australia

17:16 how individualism started

18:49 growing up in a collectivist culture

20:46 unspoken social rules in collectivism

28:09 flaky vs planning chart

32:01 country being neglected

35:20 mild rant on capitalism

38:17 being different in australia

39:11 the rat study 

45:03 neurodivergence and individualism

51:37 comparison between australia and hungary

55:05 erica’s friendship breakdown

01:00:38 another traumatic friendship breakdown

01:09:56 changing for other people

01:18:44 final thoughts

01:24:49 outro