This episode got cut a bit short because Meg’s sister went into labour but it’s still got some good stuff:

• People critiquing Sandra Bullock for prioritising her husband over her career
• we get stuck into shame and specifically how we both suffer shame around our bodies
• having shame/fears disproven
• meg’s sister kept calling her phone for some reason 

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan.

chapters:

00:00 intro

01:12 sandra bullock critique

05:16 shame around body

17:58 shame being disproven

25:53 shame vs disappointment

30:10 meg’s sister goes into labour

In this episode, we cover:

• Meg giving an update on her mental health, dealing with GLP-1s, a dietician and therapist
• some of the habits that changed our lives
• gen z vs millennial problems
• healing the relationship with your parents
• some of our thoughts on the pros and cons of ageing

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan.

chapters:

00:00 intro

01:48 meg recovery update

9:43 life changing habits

23:11 gen z vs millennials 

30:31 healing your relationship with your parents

46:19 pros and cons of ageing

54:47 outro

We start with the way so many women are hypervigilant about occupying space and what it feels like to move through the world constantly managing how much room you take up. That opens into a conversation about feeling safe around men, and Meg reflects on growing up in a house with slamming doors and how that shapes your nervous system long term.

Erica shares a big realisation from therapy: her lifelong high achieving is actually a chronic fawn response, not just ambition. We get into what that means and how survival patterns can disguise themselves as strengths.

From there we cover anxious attachment and the tricky habit of justifying everything as a "need" in a relationship, plus tangents on bedroom vs living room mums, boomers with no filter, Erica missing extended family, and her plan to start a regular games night (tips very welcome).

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan

chapters:

00:00 intro

01:04 female hypervigilance

04:45 feeling safe around men

09:34 chronic fawn response

19:49 bedroom vs living room mum

32:40 games night

35:11 lacking family

40:08 boomers with no filter

44:55 anxious attachment and “needs” in a relationship

58:27 outro

Erica's back in therapy, so we dig into some of what's come up. We talk about polyvagal theory and what it actually means for regulating your nervous system, the work of healing your inner child, and what it looks like to start living by your core values rather than on autopilot. 

We also cover lighter ground, sharing our thoughts on proposals and how they should go, revisiting the separate bedrooms debate, and getting into the Drew Afualo fallout and where things have landed since. 

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan

chapters:

00:00 intro

00:34 proposals

06:08 student drummers

09:06 drew afualo fallout

16:07 separate bedrooms

22:51 erica back in therapy

35:49 inner child healing

45:02 life purpose

52:18 outro

We get into the drama between Drew Afualo and ER Fightmaster and the wider conversation it sparked around cis and trans women. We talk through the different perspectives at play and what the discourse reveals about how these conversations tend to go online. Erica also has a special surprise for viewers this week, so you'll want to stick around for that one.

From there we tackle a tender question: how much time is actually appropriate before moving on after a partner passes away, and why there's no clean answer. Meg shares a dating app update as she keeps navigating putting herself out there. We close on Ariana Grande's petal music video and her recent appearance, and the wave of comments it triggered around her body.

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan

chapters:

00:00 intro

01:18 drew afualo er fightmaster drama

07:08 tiara time

13:37 how soon to move on

21:21 meg dating app update

25:59 ariana grande music video petal

31:58 outro

There's a new addition to the family. Erica got a papillon puppy named Vivienne, or Viv for short, and she and Meg made a big road trip to South Australia to bring her home. We talk all about the trip, the new puppy chaos, and the joy of a little one entering the picture.

Meg has also joined a dating app, so Erica steps in with some advice as she navigates putting herself out there. 

We then get into a deeper conversation about avoidant attachment and the memory issues that can come from emotional neglect in childhood. 

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan

chapters:

00:00 intro

03:45 road trip to get a puppy

19:31 meg joined a dating app

30:20 avoidant attachment and memory

41:08 outro

We're getting into some of our favourite things and some of our least favourite this week. We kick off with the ASMRtists we can't stop watching and what makes a good one, before Erica launches into a full rant about skincare and everything that winds her up about it. From there we talk BBLs and where we land on the whole conversation around them.

The back half is all about the stuff that gets under our skin. We share our most irrational fears and rational ones like erica’s valid fear of ghosts and some ghost stories and the pet peeves that drive mostly meg up the wall. It's a lighter, funnier episode with plenty of tangents, so settle in.

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan.

OUR MOST / IRRATIONAL / FEARS

chapters:

00:00 intro

03:51 asmr

06:30 skincare lecture

16:21 hormones and neurodivergence

21:40 BBLs

25:47 irrational fears

41:30 clairs 

44:12 pet peeves

51:15 outro

This is a tender one. Erica recently had to make the heartbreaking decision to put her beloved German Shepherd Raffy down, so we spend some time talking about grief, what pet loss actually feels like, and why the love we have for our animals runs so deep. It's an honest conversation about loss and letting go, and the particular ache of saying goodbye to a companion who was there through so much.

From there we move into a gold digger debate from reddit and what it really says about relationships and money, share our thoughts on male gynaecologists and talk about being comfortable with affection, where that comfort comes from, and why some of us find it harder than others.

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megan.

chapters:

00:00 intro

04:47 losing a pet

16:16 story from reddit

31:05 alex reads tarot drama

33:19 male gynos

36:44 being comfortable with affection

41:06 outro

It's our 50th episode and the week after our one year anniversary, so we're taking some time to look back on the year that was. We talk about our favourite moments, what we've learnt, and how we've each changed along the way. Meg opens up about her fear of being seen, which launches us into a bigger conversation about why so many women are afraid of initiating in relationships and where that hesitation actually comes from.

We get into how someone can be deeply spiritual and still wrestle with insecurities, like tying self worth to appearance, and why those two things aren't as contradictory as they seem. It's a reflective, honest episode about growth, visibility, and the parts of ourselves we're still learning to accept. It's also a bittersweet one, as it's the final episode with Erica's dog Raffy by her side.

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megs.

📩 email us your thoughts: [email protected]

chapters:

00:00 intro

01:07 raffy update

04:42 our favourite moments

07:56 avoidants laughter coping mechanism

09:45 fear of being seen

27:20 3 things we’ve learnt in the past year

46:30 how we’ve changed

58:44 outro

We can't believe it, but Fingers Crossed is officially one year old. To celebrate, we've pulled together all our funniest moments from the past year in one very best of episode. The unhinged tangents, the uncontrollable laughing fits, the takes that made no sense, and the bits that still make us laugh every time we think about them.

It's an hour of us at our most ridiculous, so if you need a proper laugh or you want to relive the chaos, this is the one. Thank you for spending a whole year laughing along with us. Here's to many more.

🎙️ Fingers Crossed is a female friendship podcast with honest chats about mental health and life, hosted by Erica and Megs.

📩 email us your thoughts: mailto:[email protected]

chapters:

00:00 intro

00:16 ep 1

03:50 ep 3

05:25 ep 4

08:06 ep 5

09:32 ep 7

12:40 ep 9

16:05 ep 12

16:40 ep 13

19:40 ep 16

21:34 ep 17

22:40 ep 19

25:58 ep 23

27:12 ep 26

29:52 ep 28

31:50 ep 30

37:57 ep 34

42:14 ep 37

44:56 ep 38

48:10 ep 40

49:21 ep 46

55:07 ep 48

56:00 outro