Pam and Erin unpack the “boss babe” era—how what felt like empowerment was often survival mode in disguise. They share the moments that taught them softness isn’t weakness, why we armored up in the first place, and how to rebalance masculine and feminine energy (in ourselves and our relationships). Expect real talk on resentment, invisible expectations, why control is a sneaky addiction, and how to make requests that invite partnership instead of power struggles. Metaphors you’ll love (hello, river & riverbanks), practical examples (socks on the floor, anyone?), and a permission slip to exhale.

In this episode:

• The rise of “boss babe” as armor vs. authentic power

• Why softness started to feel unsafe—and how to change that

• River & riverbanks: a simple map for masculine/feminine balance

• Resentment as self-abandonment (and the RAS trap that keeps it alive)

• From complaints to clear requests: scripts that land

• Rest as a strategy, not a reward

• Creating a safe inner “container” so you can flow again

Try this: Reflection prompts

• Where am I leading from fear or proving?

• What part of me is ready to soften?

• What unspoken expectation am I holding (that could become a clean request)?

• Where can I practice surrender without losing power?

One simple script
“When X happens, the story I make up is __. The impact is __ and I notice myself pulling away. What would help me feel respected/seen is __. Could we try that?”

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