From attitude to gratitude and resilience with Hugh van Cuylenburg

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Welcome back to Ask Uncut, where we answer all of your deep, dark and sometimes deranged questions!
Laura has one of her own first up! If a kid at preschool had taught your kid swear words, would you dob on them?
Vibes for the week:
Keeshia: I Love Linen Mattress Topper
Laura: Koala Couch
& Baby Reindeer on Netflix
Then we jump into your questions:


MY PARTNER CONSISTENTLY WETS THE BED WHEN HE DRINKS & HE WON’T STOP DRINKING
My partner (M37) is a big drinker and also has an overactive bladder which leads him to wetting the bed basically every weekend when he drinks. I’ve expressed my discontent with this numerous times throughout our three year relationship and have tried to help by buying nappies, setting alarms during the night and trying to trick him into sleeping in other rooms. I’ve also pushed him to see a urologist where he now takes medication to urinate less throughout the day however as the bed wetting is primarily a problem from alcohol, he’s still frequently wetting himself. This impact also extends to when we go away with friends, for weddings, on holidays etc and he makes no effort to drink less and I’m left to monitor him throughout the night to make sure he gets up to pee and doesn’t wet the bed as we have no where else to sleep.
I’m at my wit’s end and have even gone to see a relationship counsellor who basically said (long story short) that if I try to change the un-changeable then I’m going to drive myself crazy and I basically need to learn to live with it. My partner has an enormous victim mentality about this and his only emotional response is that “it’s not fair that his mates can drink as much as they want without this problem” and “why me, it’s not fair”. Am I being unreasonable in expecting him to drink less to stop this problem? If he was in his early 20s I’d give him time grow out of it, but at nearly 40, I’m heavily considering leaving the relationship because it’s so sad and unattractive, and I don’t want this for my future. Please tell me if I’m being too hard on him like he says that I am.




IS IT OK TO WANK AT WORK?
I randomly asked my husband when he last had a wank, to which he replied “uh, probably last week?” Me being a stay at home mum who is home…ALL THE TIME, then asked “was I home?” He so casually responded “oh no, nine times out of ten I’d have a wank at work.” Now, I’m NOT here to yuck someone’s yum, HOWEVER, this is NOT the first partner I’ve had to do this! My husband is a tradie, one was in real estate, another was in the medical area. My question is… is this normal? Why not do it at home? Is it a risk kink thing?




HUSBAND NOT REACHING OUT WHILST AWAY
My husband has gone to Darwin for a week for a friend's 40th (we live in NSW) which is fine. I encouraged him to go. I am at home with our 2 children, aged 2 and 4 months. I am feeling a little bit let down with how often he is checking in with me while he is away. I feel like I have been initiating all contact with him, sending messages with updates of the kids etc and he takes hours to respond if at all. He doesn’t bother to send good morning or goodnight messages or calls. And I can see that he has been active online. He is staying at his brother's house and I know for a fact they have just been sitting around drinking for the last few days. Am I being unreasonable thinking he should be checking in on us more? I have pulled back on how many times I initiate contact to see whether he would pick it up on his end, but he hasn’t. Should I bring it up with him or just let it go?




WEARING A BRA TO WORK
Do you always wear a bra to work? I haven’t a couple of times, I have small titties and wear normal neckline tops. I thought I could absolutely get away with it, but I did notice one of my male coworkers looking down and it made me feel a bit weird. I have a desk job and am worried it might not be very professional. Would love your thoughts!


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Ask Uncut - Do You *Self-Pleasure* At Work? 

Joining the podcast today is the wonderful Sam Frost.
Sam is an actress, an author, a mental health advocate and a mum. She originally graced our screens on the bachelor 10 years ago when she was just 24 years old. Sam has had many ‘eras’ and we address all of them in today’s chat!
We speak about:

Being so young when she entered the reality TV world and what those experiences were like
Being so open about the darkness of mental health and mental illness
Becoming an actress on Home and Away, and navigating the criticism of whether she was ‘worthy’ of the opportunity
The vaccination conversation and public backlash that Sam endured in 2021
Why she actually decided to leave Home and Away
The fear of becoming a mum as someone who already experiences mental illness
How motherhood has changed her life 
What’s in line for her and her partner Jordy’s future with their son Ted

You can find Sam’s Instagram here
You can find Sam’s website and book here
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Uncut with Sam Frost - When it's all too much. Talking depression, pile ons and walking away from a career she loved.

Hey Lifers,
Producer Keeshia is still here... she's clinging on like a turmeric stain. Britt is spending the week with her mum over in South Africa. We get an update on Laura's kitten Raspberry and who her preferred parent seems to be!

In today's episode we take a bit of a shallow dive into the world of #smut, #smuttybooks & #booktok. If you've been wishing your libido would wake the f*ck up and resurrect itself, 'cliterature' might be for you!
One of us has been doing some homework and has entered the world of erotic romance novels. We discuss how these books have been hugely popular amongst women, how they've helped pleasure back into their lives and explore worlds of fantasy in a safe environment. 
Taylor Swift dropped two albums over the weekend and we know that everyone is talking about the feud with Kim, and which songs are about Joe Alwyn & which are about Matty Healy. BUT, fewer people are talking about Taylor admitting to still tracking her ex's location on Find My Friends because he forgot to disable it! We have a chat about whether we use location tracking services and how it can feel when you're the one in the break up who doesn't move on first. 


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Low libido? Try Cliterature 

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
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The Best Of The PickUp - There's a button up my nose

Hey Lifers!
Welcome to the episode where we unpack your deep, dark and burning questions. Britt's still in the jungle eating pig nipples. There's a sentence I never thought I'd write... Please keep voting to keep our girl in the jungle!  VOTE HERE

Laura's brought her extra 4 legged child home. Buster is terrified and Matt is still in the 'dad who doesn't want the pet' phase. We all know that there's no one who will love a family pet more than the dad who initially said they didn't want them.
Vibes:
Keeshia: The Daily Aus Podcast - Bruce Lehrmann lost his defamation case. What does this mean?
Laura: ToniMay Mother's Day collection
Questions:

FRIEND CUTS PEOPLE OFF MID SENTENCE

One of my best friends constantly cuts people off while they are mid-sentence, sometimes when the person is answering the questions that she has asked them. She also will cut into other people’s conversations and start talking about something completely unrelated and making it hard to get the original chat back on track. Now that I’ve noticed she does this it drives me mental and makes me not want to have a deep engaged conversation with her, as it seems like she’s not properly listening or interested in what I have to say. Is there a way to politely tell her that she does this? Or is this a quirk of her personality that I need to let go?

ACCIDENTALLY PREGNANT AND HE'S NOT BEING SUPPORTIVE

I’ve recently moved interstate to a brand new city and I’m loving it. I met a guy pretty soon after arriving here, and he is amazing. Turns out on the first night we slept together, I fell pregnant. I am not in a position to keep the baby, and we’re aligned on that decision. However he hasn’t been as supportive as I would’ve hoped. I have been super sick, unable to work, bed ridden, and he hasn’t been replying for my messages for days on end. He hasn’t offered to bring me anything, or even just pay for appointments or supplies, or even just ask how I'm doing. I know we’re not together but I can’t help but feel disappointed in the way he’s handled this. What would your tips be before going forward in this situation?  Should I keep seeing him after?

IS IT OK TO PEE WITH YOUR PARTNER IN THE SHOWER?

Please help me settle this debate between my boyfriend and I! Is it okay to pee in the shower when I shower with my boyfriend? For context, we shower together every night and he always finds it weird and gross that I have to pee in the shower. But I think It’s fine as it ends up going down the same pipes and to the same destination as the toilet. Should he just get over it or should I stop peeing in the shower when he is in there with me?

DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY FAMILY CONDITION?

I lost my dad when I was a teenager from a neurodegenerative disorder. This disorder is genetic and each child has a 50/50 chance of inheriting it with it being a dominant gene. There is no cure or treatment so it is essentially a death sentence. My sister is in the later stages of the disease having been diagnosed in her mid 20s. I haven’t been tested due to not feeling ready but I’m starting to look into testing now as I’ve started to realise how much it has held me back in things such as relationships and career. At this stage from our family history, it’s looking like I don’t have it. I have been single for a long time because of this and not wanting to bring someone in just in case I have it or for them to have to witness what my family is going through. I’ve been on a few dates recently but a lot of the time people ask why I’ve been single for so long. At what stage do I tell them my family history? I don’t want to scare people straight away but also don’t want to misinform them.
Here is the link to the episode that we mentioned with Megan Marx
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