Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions with the best advice we can! Britt is waving the manifestation wand after receiving a lovely message from one of our lifers! 

Vibes and unsubscribes for the week:
Laura - Unsubscribing shellac nails
Keeshia - Unsubscribing iOS 26 update
Vibing Elizabeth Gilbert “All The Way To The River” 
Britt - Morning Wars Season 4 on Apple TV 

Then we jump into your questions:

HUSBAND DESPERATE FOR ANAL SEX BUT I HATE IT - HOW TO COMPROMISE?
My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5 years, have 3 kids under 5, both running businesses; so chaotic times. This year my husband has been obsessed with getting me to have anal sex to “spice things up”. I have always been a firm no but have recently caved a few times to try it after so much hassling and trying to keep the peace. But I honestly fucking hate it! It hurts, it is not pleasurable and grosses me out. He loved it. My question is how do we compromise on this? I am now fearful of it if he brings it up because if I say no he just throws a temper tantrum. I have tried to have an honest conversation with him about the fact it really hurts me however he feels it’s just something I will get used to. I honestly feel like this is a him problem, he needs to suck it up the fact I’ve had 3 kids and I may not be as tight as it once was. But is there also another side I’m not seeing where I should try to consider his pleasure in this?

 

MY NEW RECEPTIONIST HAS SLEPT WITH MY PARTNER YEARS AGO AND NEITHER OF THEM TOLD ME
I’ve got a sticky situation which I need to unpack. I’ve been with my partner for the past 4 years, we have a great relationship and have just bought our first home together. I work in the medical field and have a new receptionist that started with us 4 months ago. We’ve been getting along really well and it wasn’t until today we had a long conversation making connections about people we knew in town, until she then dropped the bomb that she slept with my partner 5-6yrs ago! Now I’ve been talking about my partner like she didn’t know him and I’ve also been talking about my new receptionist to my partner for the past few months and he never mentioned it.

I was initially shocked and kinda laughed about it. She said she wanted to say something in case someone else ever said anything. When I asked my partner about it, I was laughing the whole time (low key because I’m not good at having tricky conversations) and we both just felt weird at the end. He said he wasn’t ever going to say anything because it didn’t mean anything which I totally get but I kinda feel dumb being the one who didn’t know anything…. I’m after advice on how I should feel because I don’t know if I’m being dramatic in this situation.

MY FRIEND KEEPS LYING TO ME ABOUT COSMETIC SURGERY

So I have a friend that I’ve been friends with since Uni days. For context, we’ve been friends for 15 years now. I know her very, very well and I also know what she looks like. Over the last few years she’s been getting quite a few cosmetic procedures which is great, she looks amazing. The problem is that she always seems to lie about it. Most recently we went out for dinner together and it was very evident that she had her lips done. Now we’re sitting at dinner and I said “oh my gosh, you got your lips done. They look great.” To be fair, they actually didn’t look that great just yet because they were still swollen which is what I mean by the fact that it was very evident. As she has responded to every single other question that I have had around whether or not she’s had any procedures she said “no I didn’t” in almost an offended tone. I don’t care at all. I’m actually all for it if she wants to get anything done; I’ve had my boobs done. But it’s just surprising to me that she feels the need to continuously lie about it. Is it something I should bring up with her or just let it go?

LOSING ATTRACTION
What to do about losing attraction? I have recently realised I have lost my attraction / desire towards my partner. In particular he doesn’t put any effort into grooming, so his beard is always scraggly, and he doesn’t shave his neck. In addition he doesn’t dress well, he doesn’t care about clothes so he often wears clothes that have holes in them (from having them for so long) or don’t look good on him. Now I love him so much, we get along so well, we have the same interests, goals, and he makes me laugh.

We have been together for 4 years and we have a house and a dog together. When we first got together these traits were the same, so nothing has changed other than I think at the start I let it not get to me because I was so happy to have met someone who ticked all the rest off and didn’t want to be superficial. Now however I have lost my sex drive (which used to be high) and we barely have sex - like once a month - and I think it’s because of losing desire towards him. How do I bring this up with my partner without sounding like an asshole… because I truly do love him so much, I just wish he put more effort into how he looked.

 

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It’s likely that you’d recognise Melissa Leong’s face, she was the first female judge ever on Masterchef Australia; but today’s conversation goes into some very personal places that extend far beyond what you might see on prime time TV. She burst onto our screens in 2020 and made us fall in love with food and cooking. Her new memoir ‘Guts’ is a raw, funny and beautifully written look at her upbringing in a Singaporean - Chinese family, the behind the scenes of the food and entertainment world and some personal stories that she hadn’t shared publicly before. 

• Growing up with strict, authoritarian immigrant parents and ending up in a creative profession 
• Being no contact with her dad
• The path that led Melissa to not having kids
• Being single and getting so much connection from other areas of life
• “How to” divorce if you’re in the public eye and the advice she was given of when and how to announce it
• When the opportunity to host masterchef came knocking and Melissa didn’t jump at it
• Dissociating after SA and having memory loss from the time
• Realising that it is not her shame to bear
• Happiness being ‘far too fleeting a concept to hang your hat on’ and finding purpose in being content instead
• Being involved in the UFC - how, why and naked choke holds 
• What’s next for Melissa
  
  

You can get yourself a copy of “Guts” through this link 

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And check out her website 

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Laura has reached a milestone - her sex life has returned after having her 3rd baby but her hip flexors aren’t on board. If you or your partner has had a baby how did you go getting back ‘into’ it?

Britt was in a dilemma with her Uber driver and it resulted in her inviting a complete stranger into Keeshia’s house for a rather awkward reason. Britt has also tried to get in touch with her ‘natural’ side and she has learnt the very real dangers of leaving your crocs behind. 

Ageing Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend Anymore
Last week we briefly spoke about Janette being ‘dumped’ on the bachelor and how being in the life stage that she is may have contributed to having less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to.
A fantastic substack written by Ellen Scherr argues that many women hit a midlife neurological and hormonal shift that makes them suddenly unable or unwilling to people please. This shift is what she calls “The Great Unf*ckening.” It’s not bitterness, but biology: the brain stops supporting the emotional labour and social smoothing that women have been conditioned to perform since childhood.

We speak about how many relationships can break down when women reach this age where they stop taking on as much of the emotional labour of the relationship and stop suppressing their own emotions and frustrations. We also chat about some of the hormonal and neurobiological changes like oestrogen dropping, synaptic pruning and changes to the prefrontal cortex.
Losing relationships because you stopped performing isn’t actually loss. It’s clarity about what was never really there.

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions!

How long do you have to ‘hold on’ to something you’re given? We mean like cards or things your kids have made? Lola made a very nice and very heavy burger… and Laura needs to know how long she has to keep it for!

Vibes for the week:
Laura - The Secret Cellular Repair Night Cream 
Britt - Dr Diamond
Keeshia - Christian Petracca On Trac Cookbook and @on.trac5 

Then we jump into your questions!

CAN YOU LOOK THROUGH PARTNER’S PHONE?
I’ve got a bit of a moral dilemma I’d love your thoughts on. It’s about whether it’s ever okay to look through your partner’s phone — and more specifically, does it change things if what you find actually proves they’ve been unfaithful or untruthful? I’ve never been the kind of person to snoop, but recently I found myself in a situation where my gut was telling me something wasn’t right. I didn’t want to be that person, but the curiosity and the need for reassurance were eating away at me. When I finally looked, I found that my partner had been deceitful. So now I keep wondering — if your instincts turn out to be right, does that lessen the wrongdoing, or is it still completely unjustified to look in the first place? FYI my partner was extremely upset and believes the act of snooping outweighs any wrongdoing.

BEST FRIEND HAD A BABY AND EXPECTS ME TO OFFER TO TAKE THE BABY (I”M CHILDFREE)
My best friend had a baby this year, and suddenly I’m Public Enemy #1 because I haven’t “offered to take the baby for a few hours.” I told her multiple times I’m happy to help- just tell me when! But apparently, she “shouldn’t have to ask.” Look, I love her, but I work full-time, I don’t want kids, and I’m not exactly out here craving baby cuddles on my day off. Am I supposed to just show up like, “Surprise! Hand me your child”? Am I a bad friend, or just child-free and confused

HUSBAND SLEEP TALKED AND I THINK HE CHEATED
A few days ago I had a sore come up “down there” and I mentioned it to my husband who I’ve been with for 15 years. I just put it down to stress and didn’t think too much about it. That night he woke me up sleep talking and said “no protection! Big mistake! Big mistake!!” It’s worth noting he does sleeptalk about work a lot as he works in a high stress job. Am I absolutely nuts for worrying that this has something to do with me saying I had a sore down there and now he’s sleep talking about it because he’s done the wrong thing and cheated and now he’s worrying about it in his sleep? He has never cheated (that I know about) and we’ve never had issues in the past. But I just can’t shake this feeling. The term “no protection” in his sleep talking has really thrown me as it’s such a randomly specific thing to say after I’ve said I have a sore there… please help! Am I overthinking or is this weird? Also worth noting it’s not like a visible blister or sore lol just literally a sore spot on the labia

FRIEND SHARED PRIVATE DETAILS I ASKED HER NOT TO
My brother recently went to rehab and it was very much in secret - no one knows except for his very close friends who he chose to tell. I told my two best friends in complete confidence and one of them spilled the beans to some of my other friends, despite me making it incredibly clear to them not to tell anyone. This isn’t the first time it has happened, as my same friend also let slip that I had done IVF which my husband wanted kept a secret except for 2 friends so I could have my besties to vent to. I feel my trust has now been completely broken twice - where can I even go from here?

 

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Today’s episode is one that has been so highly requested over the years, we’re surprised it’s taken this long to talk about it! We’re talking about all things skin, skincare and myths about longevity. Joining us is Dr Natasha Cook, one of Australia’s leading dermatologists and the founder of her own skincare range DrNC. Dr NC is particularly straight forward when it comes to breaking down the facts vs the fads of skin.

We want to chat about the things we all want to know but are too scared to ask — like whether saunas are secretly ageing us, if collagen supplements are a waste of money, and why so many Australian companies had their sunscreens pulled from the shelves because they weren't what they said they were!

We speak about:

• The 6 key skin concerns. Most of us want to treat more than one.
• Should we prioritise skincare or nutrition? Dr NC’s answer to this might surprise you
• How much sugar and alcohol affects skin and can cause pimples
• Are collagen powders or gummies worth our money?
• Sleep - what products and routines help our skin
• If you’re serious about skin, saunas/hot yoga & pilates aren’t good
• Skin barriers & barrier function. What’s compromising the barrier?
• Botox - whether you get ‘used’ to it
• Perception drift and ‘preventative’ botox
• At home devices like LED lights, rollers, gua sha etc
• The “SPF Australia Scandal” and how these companies are avoiding Australian testing. Dr Cook “It is deceptive and misleading conduct.”
• How aerosol spray sunscreens are really misleading
• What lasers are best and will give the best results
• Dr NC’s ‘non negotiables’

You can find more from DrNC at her website including her dermatologist designed skincare 

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Hey Lifers!

Laura’s whole extended friends and family have been taken down by various bugs and we all need to calm the heck down and stop socialising. Keeshia has another neighbourly gripe but also a new hobby and we just know you’re on the edge of your seat for the updates 😂What hobby did you succeed at and then bail on?

Laura and Matt have celebrated their 3rd wedding anniversary by watching the finale of the Golden Bachelor. Laura shares some BTS of how you’re told to react if the Bachelor doesn’t choose you and she wants to celebrate Janette for not acting in the way that you’re ‘supposed’ to. Perhaps being in her ‘golden’ years has made her a lot wiser and have less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to.

Should you fire someone if they were found to be cheating on their partner (as their boss)?
Natalie Dawson, who is a CEO, went on Diary of a CEO podcast and shared her controversial take on firing employees that were having an affair. Whilst it’s probably not legal in Australia, how much should a company’s values extend into the personal lives of employees? Would it change your opinion if it was TWO employees of yours cheating together?

Can You Spot AI In Videos? Are We So Used To Seeing Fake People On The Internet That We Don’t Know What Real Ones Look Like Anymore?

Body confidence content creator @em_clarkson posted a video with 9.6 million views where she is in a bikini on the beach but as the video plays out, certain parts of her body change back and forth between her actual video and the AI version. Her hips move in and out, her skin colour changes and the texture becomes softer, her boobs become bigger and more perky etc.

We speak about how AI has progressed to the point that we can’t spot it and whether we are so used to seeing ‘altered’ people online that we’ve forgotten what real people look like.
We also speak about an article by Mary Madigan titled ‘Baffled by natural breasts’: Men have forgotten what real boobs look like written about Millie Bobby Brown’s natural cleavage on a red carpet promoting Stranger Things.

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Hey Lifers!

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions.

First up, an Aussie celeb has said that he loves dogs so much, he had two of them that passed away taxidermied. They live in his current house alongside his dog that is still alive. Would you ever taxidermy your pet? What’re your thoughts about Scotty’s stuffed pets?
Vibes for the week:
Keeshia - @Emilydbaker 

Britt - Chilli and Charli PJs 

Then we jump into your questions!

SOMEONE TOLD MY DAUGHTER THEY’RE HER HALF SISTER - HELP
Ok strap in for this one. A little background I have a daughter, she’s 12 and in highschool. Her dad unfortunately was murdered and passed away 8 years ago, big trauma for both of us etc.. So fast forward to this week, my daughter has a friend at school. She's known her since primary school but they’ve gotten quite close this year. My daughter came home Wednesday and told me her friend told her a big secret and not to tell me or anyone else. This friend proceeds to tell my daughter that she’s her half sister because her mum used to be with my daughters dad’s best friend and when they were trying to get pregnant he couldn’t so my daughters dad “donated sperm”. Now while this sounds insane and like an episode of home and away, there were some key facts that were too correct to ignore, for one they knew the name of my daughters dad’s best friend so at a minimum they knew each other. After doing some digging I found out that this best friend had a kid with a woman who my daughter’s dad was friends with, and it was a girl and would be around the same age as my daughter. My question is WTAF do I do? I’ve given the school my details and asked them to pass it on to the mother because they won’t give me her details. Do I ignore this and move on? But I can’t, my daughter goes to school with this child. Also if it is true me and him would have been together at the time, either pregnant with our daughter or planning it when he “donated sperm” to someone and didn’t tell me. This has severely rocked my kid (she’s in therapy) but still. Help!!

 

UNDERWHELMING PROPOSAL
My partner recently proposed, and I wasn’t expecting anything big or over the top, just something thoughtful and meaningful. But the moment felt rushed, unplanned and unromantic, and now I feel disheartened and oddly disconnected. I dread when people ask the proposal story and I find myself embellishing it. I feel shallow for feeling this way, but I can’t shake it. Am I horrible? Should I tell him how I’m feeling, or is that unfair? I would really appreciate some guidance, because I feel guilty, confused and alone sitting with this.

NORMAL TO THINK ABOUT EX?
I am 32 and have been with my current partner for 5 years. We have always had a solid stable relationship and have a one year old baby boy together. I love my partner - he is very kind, loyal, and reliable. I feel safe and secure with him. He is a great dad and very committed to our family. However, our relationships lack intimacy/physical connection (has since before the baby) and it often feels like we are more friends and co parents. We rarely have sex and minimal kissing/cuddling. My ex and I were together for 6 years from 19-25 (so we broke up 8 years ago). I was deeply in love with him. We had a really strong connection and were absolutely crazy about each other. We had an amicable breakup because he had to move for work and we decided to go our separate ways.

As hard as I’ve tried to move on, I still think about him often after 8 years (I’m so sick of it lol)! I find myself looking back on our relationship and longing for that connection we had. As much as I love my partner and our life together, I have this niggling feeling that my ex was the one/the loml /penguin etc and it makes me sad that I’m never going to feel that way again with my partner. Is this a common feeling to have? How do I finally get over my ex? 

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

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Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
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