It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
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What's on the show:

• • Britt almost fed her niece dog food because she can't read Italian
  • Laura is worried she's graduated from 'falling over' into 'having a fall'
  • Matty J joins the Pick Up for a live Gender Reveal!
  • A woman DIYed her own mole removal so we chatted with Tilly Whitfield from Big Brother (who famously DIYed her tattoo freckles and it DID NOT go well)
  • Matt had an electric bike-related dilemma
  • Meghan Markle reveals why she and Harry call each other 'H' & 'M'

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It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love?
Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory. 

We unpack:

• The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation
• How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship
• If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past
• Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships 
• The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase
• Navigating different power stages with a partner
• Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most
• What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence
• Can limerence turn into stalking?
• Conscious dating and wired patterns

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Hey lifers!

We really dangled that we had some big news to share today. There was some speculation and it was in one direction. That direction was Britt.

First up we get an update on how Britt’s time in Italy was and what the future is geographically looking like for Britt and Ben.
Keeshia wonders if you’re the person in the relationship/friendship who turns up to the airport 3 hours before the flight or if you just make it through check in by the skin of your teeth?

Then it’s time for our big news!!

 

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep, dark and burning questions!
We missed you! We kind of missed each other 😂
We have some really big news coming on Wednesday morning so set your alarms for *checks notes* 5 am.

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Contour Cube 
Keeshia - Nala Strapless Padded Bra
Laura - App Hey You 

Then we get into your questions!

BF CHEATED ON BOYS TRIP
I have a no win situation- my partner cheated on me last year on an annual boys trip and we worked really hard to move on. He’s just started talking about where he will be going for this year's trip and I’m devastated!! I don’t want to tell him not to go because I don’t think that it’s right to tell someone what they can or can’t do, but I’m so disappointed that he’s choosing to still go after what happened last year. How do I deal with this?

MY BOYFRIEND WON’T STOP PLAYING WITH MY BREASTS
How do I ask my boyfriend to stop playing with my breasts when I'm trying to relax or trying to clean? He adores them, which is great, but they are very sensitive, especially before my period, and I occasionally get turned on when he does it. This is not so good when I'm trying to wash dishes, brush my teeth or literally just watch the tennis! I don't want him to think I don't like it but I’m not sure how to approach the topic around timing?

DO MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS DESERVE TO MEET MY BABY?
I’m currently 6 months pregnant with my first baby. It’s taken my partner and I over 5 years to fall pregnant so it’s a huge deal for us and we’re over the moon for this next chapter. I have, however, noticed that throughout my pregnancy there is a lack of people in both of our lives who seem to want to even be involved in this new chapter with us. I have various friends who have dropped off the radar since finding out I’m pregnant and who have not once checked in to see how I’m going. My partner also has family members who have also not messaged once to ask how we are after we announced or even ask how our pregnancy is going. Everyone seems to comment on how excited they are to meet the baby and have a nephew, grandchild, cousin etc. I’m feeling really upset. I’m of the mind that once our baby has arrived, these people who weren’t there for us during the pregnancy shouldn’t get an open invite to meet our child straight away, if at all…How would you look at approaching this with them and what would you do in this situation? 

DO I TELL HIM I KNOW HE’S GOING TO PROPOSE?
I've been with my partner for almost 4 years. We have always spoken about getting married and wanting kids and when we first started dating he told me he would propose within 2 years. Our anniversary is coming up next month and I'm pretty convinced he is going to propose on our anniversary because I've seen emails from the jeweller and texts to my mum about it on his phone. I haven't gone looking for information or taken his phone, it just always happens to be the case that these notifications come up when I'm sitting right next to him. I feel bad for knowing this information because I've always told him you'll never be able to truly surprise me because in another life I feel like I worked for the FBI. I want to be genuinely surprised when he does it but not sure that will be the case. Should I tell him that I know he’s going to propose?

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Ciao Lifers!

We're coming to you from 3 different locations today. Britt has finally been reunited with Ben in Italy and she's caused a stir about dipping croissants in coffee.
Laura has a positive update about her ovarian cyst. We have a chat about it not being 'normal' to be in pain and how it can be quite anxiety inducing to receive a 'wait and see what happens' type of diagnosis. 

Should we be giving babies their mother's surname? There's an Italian politician who has proposed a law that would automatically give babies their mother's surname at birth. Britt's still making up her mind of what both her and her husband to be will do with their surnames when they get married. Laura questions why it's such a 'norm' for us to not even think about giving kids their mum's last names. 

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions.
We recorded this a few days early as Britt is currently on her way to Italy to have a very close quarters catch up with her fiance, sister, brother in law and niece!
We’ve really realised that we are in the next age bracket with our vibes this week!
Vibes for the week:
Britt - Podcast Stalked 
Keeshia Contour Cool Gel Knee Pillow
Laura Instagram Sydney Plant Guy Instagram 

Then we get into your questions!

HUSBANDS MUM HAS HIS LOCATION SETTINGS ON
My husband’s mum has his location settings on, so basically she is able to track him at all times. She isn’t necessarily controlling or making a big deal about it but I often hear her saying things like “I saw you were at the pub the other night” or “why were you at work on Saturday”. It makes me feel a certain way. I just find it a bit odd but I feel like I can’t really just ask him to turn it off because she’ll ask questions and I don’t want it to come back on to me. I guess my question is, am I being ridiculous to be annoyed at this?

HOW DO TWO AVOIDANTS MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK?
I’m 29 and have finally got my hands on the man I've been plotting about for 10 years. We’ve always had a strong connection, but life has led us in different directions over the years. We’ve been seeing each other as exclusive ‘fwb’ for the last year, but things have evolved recently. We spend hours chatting, planning our future, our communication is great, and we’re super compatible. The spark is strong; it may as well be fire. But we have both realised that we have avoidant attachment styles, which has prevented us from going ‘all in’. Recently, we’ve both admitted that we’re in deep and would like to try to be together. So my question is, how do ‘regular’ people do this? I can’t get my head around how to ‘be’ a girlfriend.. and what that might mean for my sense of self, and my lifestyle. I’m hyper independent, falling in love and absolutely terrified.. Help!

IS IT WEIRD FOR BRIDAL PARTY WEDDING TO SLOW DANCE?
What’re your thoughts on a bride making the bridesmaids and groomsmen slow dance together at the start of the night? My boyfriend is in a wedding this afternoon and he has to slow dance with his partner for 5 MINUTES!! Is this normal, am I overreacting that I find this weird? My heart rate is resting at 120 right now, I'm that anxious.

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.

What's on the show:

• What did your kids eat that they shouldn't have? 
• Laura has been rage-baiting on her reno + mean comments
• The Block Judge Darren Palmer gives Laura's reno an official score
• What did you discover from the DNA test? 
• The White Lotus pays all their stars the exact same wage
• This trendy wedding sign has been slammed as 'tacky' and 'a red flag'
• Did your kids prank you?

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When it comes to politics, it can be particularly tricky to navigate political conversations with the people you love — especially when they sit on the opposite side of the fence. We have a very important federal election coming up on May 3 so we’re expecting these conversations to increase more and more in the next few weeks.
Today we wanted to dive into how pop culture has become increasingly political, why the divide between left and right feels so extreme, and perhaps most importantly, how do we actually vote for what matters to us, beyond what’s trending on Instagram or TikTok?

Today we’re joined by Zara Seidler — co-founder of The Daily Aus.  The Daily Aus are particularly tapped into what young people are asking and what they care about in the political landscape. Zara has experience in the political world and also has a degree in political science. 

We cover:

• How politics has become embedded in pop culture
• Why there is a push towards independents
• What the upcoming election actually means for us
• Cost of living is the number 1 thing people care about now
• The issue with receiving political info from just one source
• Algorithms, outrage culture and how it’s impacted politics
• How to have conversations with people who have different politics
• Tools to help you find what you align with 

You can find the resources Zara shared here:

Build a ballot    Vote Compass

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And Zara's Instagram

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Hey lifers!
Did you grow up in a house where you could openly chat about things like s3x?
We’re on opposite ends of the scale on this one!
Britt has reverse manifested and ended up with a pretty grim case of food poisoning.
We end up having a chat about how we each feel about manifesting and goal setting.

If you have kids, do you experience ‘mum guilt’? Laura has a work commitment that means she can’t make something that is important to Marlie Mae. We speak about the expectations on parents these days when they’re also trying to juggle work. 

Fleurine Tideman recently wrote a substack titled 'Enough with the boundaries; losing my stepfather showed me the community we're sacrificed for our so called 'boundaries'.
She told the story of her step father who was battling terminal cancer when she noticed how much the neighbours and friends stepped up without even being asked to. 

We spoke about our shift towards outsourcing everything so we don’t feel indebted to others and how we all seem to focus more on convenience.

We asked:

• Do you think our inclination to set boundaries has removed our sense of community?
• Does the idea of someone dropping over unannounced feel warm or anxiety inducing?
• Do you know your neighbours?
• Do you agree that in order to have a village, you have to be a villager?

You can read Fleurine’s substack here.

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Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!
Did you have a terrible haircut? Em Rata is rocking what she’s labelled as ‘the worst haircut in the world’. Laura repped the shaved undercut bob and Britt looked like a mix between Lego Man and Lord Farquaad.
We have a follow up on how many of you are in long term relationships and are still making out without having it lead to anything more.
Some of our team have homework.

Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week:
Britt: Number 1 On The Call Sheet 

Keeshia: DOAC - Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!  

Laura: Unsubscribing April Fool’s Day

DATING GUYS WITH IG PRESENCE
I’ve freshly started dating again but after being treated pretty poorly in my last relationship I am unfortunately a bit scared and always preemptively looking for reasons why a relationship won’t work out (before we even have a first date). One thing that I find really strange is men who have quite public profiles on social media * are very  into creating content and curating photos. it’s weird because the traits I am attracted to (motivated, inspired, outgoing, active etc) tend to be the kind who post lots on social media so it feels like something I may need to get over. I wonder how Laura found navigating her relationship in the public eye at first and if she ever felt the ick from any of Matt's posts when they originally started dating? Does having an Instagram/Tiktok presence imply anything about someone that I should avoid?

MY HUSBAND BOUGHT A D*LDO
I've been with my husband for 3 years. A couple of years ago he opened up to me about enjoying prostate stimulation and told me he'd never told anyone or done it with a partner. He said he wasn't comfortable doing it with me at the time. A while later he told me he decided he was ready to try it. I was really happy that he felt comfortable and was really open to do anything that made sex even better for him. He said he'd like to go to a sex shop to get a toy but I didn’t push it. Last night when we were having sex, he suddenly brought out quite a large dildo (about 6 inches and a replica of a penis and balls). I was quite taken aback as there wasn't much warning but I was still okay for him to use it while we had sex. Afterwards, he told me he went by himself to buy it a couple of weeks ago because he felt more comfortable going to a sex shop without me and he was open about trying it out a couple of times by himself. There is a lot I'd like to ask him about; like why would he select a dildo that is quite phallic as opposed to an anal plug or plain dildo? But even asking him about when he bought it made him quickly get shy and uncomfortable and I don't want to undo any of the progress he's made to do something that I imagine would have been difficult for him. What would you do in this situation?

I DON’T LIKE MY PARTNERS PARENT’S BEHAVIOUR
How much should I take into account my partner’s parents in my relationship? I love my partner and feel like he’s the one, but I’m concerned about his father, who he’s very close with and we see often. My partner’s father is a misogynist—constantly making derogatory comments about women, supporting Trump, being homophobic, and commenting on people’s bodies/weight. This is particularly triggering for me, as I’ve struggled with an eating disorder in the past. My partner doesn’t make these comments, but when his dad says these things, he doesn’t respond, and it bothers me. He never brings it up with me afterward either. I’m worried my partner might have similar views deep down because that’s how he’s been raised, but I’m scared to bring it up because he’s close to his dad (close Greek family) and I don’t want to be offensive. Am I overthinking it/what should I do?

HOW SOON IS TOO SOON?
How soon is too soon. I just came out of a 6 year relationship with my ex. We ended it on good terms as it was a mutual agreement things weren’t working. He is definitely more upset about it than me. I’ve known for over a year we should end it but was just holding on hoping things would improve. Now 1 month on from our breakup, I met someone who I’ve instantly clicked with. And I get the feeling he is “the one”. But is it too soon? Should I take more time to heal and move on? I was not expecting to find someone so soon and I met this guy completely by accident, I had no intention of seeing anyone so soon. No one ever felt so perfect for me. But I’m worried it’s happening so fast after my breakup.

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