EZ Conversations

From Crime to Compassion


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In this episode of the EZ Conversations podcast, listeners can dive into the multifaceted life of Aidan Gabor, who shares his incredible transformation from a crime-ridden past to finding solace and purpose through the Baha'i Faith. Aidan recounts growing up in a violent crime family, working with the DOJ to take down corrupt officials, and facing profound psychological impacts due to his upbringing. His story explores themes of intergenerational trauma, the struggle with empathy, and the battle between loyalty and justice as he worked as an undercover informant. Personal anecdotes highlight his journey through violence, spiritual awakening, and redemption. The narrative also sheds light on the broader implications of trauma in military and law enforcement careers, the importance of spiritual insight, and the quest for global unity. This gripping testimony offers a compelling look at human resilience and the possibility of transformation despite a dark past.


Aiden Gabor was still a teenager when Department of Justice agents approached him with an ultimatum: spend his life in prison for racketeering, embezzlement, extortion, and conspiracy to commit murder, or become an undercover agent.


Conflicting Loyalties is a sharp, honest memoir in three parts: the bloody life of a mob soldier from outside la famiglia; the death-defying, paranoid existence of an informant bringing down corrupt politicians and police departments from the inside; and unexpectedly finding peace late in life through the Baha’i faith while coping with an ALS diagnosis.


Conflicting Loyalties is a visceral tale of a man who gambles with his own life in order to save it, dodging his fate while searching for an identity, a father, and a family. It is for readers of Gianni Russo’s Hollywood Godfather, Joe Pistone’s classic Donnie Brasco, and anyone interested in mob life, police and political corruption, and finding peace after a life of violence


03:28 Introduction and Guest Background

04:13 Early Life and Family Ties

06:18 Childhood Lessons and Early Involvement

07:47 Teenage Years and Rising Through the Ranks

10:20 Violence and Lack of Empathy

13:31 Intergenerational Trauma

14:13 Marriage and Family Challenges

18:26 Transition to Law Enforcement

20:20 Becoming an Informant

25:28 Undercover Operations

32:42 Unexpected FBI Raid

34:54 The Blue Line and Its Consequences

35:16 Struggles with Alcohol and Hallucinations

35:45 Facing Suicidal Thoughts

36:51 Taking Down Corrupt Officials

38:31 Conflicting Loyalties and Personal Turmoil

40:30 Understanding Trauma in Law Enforcement

46:59 Spiritual Awakening and the Baha'i Faith

1:00:20 Final Reflections and Advice


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