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From Fault-Finding to Fulfillment
How to Train Your Mind to Notice Goodness as Easily as Imperfection
In this episode of Resilience Across Borders, host Rachid Zahidi explores why we tend to focus on flaws and how to retrain our perception to see the full picture instead of just what's wrong.
Our minds are wired with a negativity bias designed for survival, but in modern life, this habit often leads to stress, strained relationships, and dissatisfaction. Learning to stop looking for flaws doesn't mean ignoring reality; it means developing balanced awareness and emotional resilience.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
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Why fault-finding is a natural survival response and how it backfires today
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The difference between judgment-based thinking and growth-based curiosity
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How perception shapes emotional reactions and relationships
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Why perfectionism is often disguised as flaw-finding
Practical Strategies Covered
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Practice "Both/And" Thinking Learn to see strengths and imperfections at the same time, instead of labeling situations as all good or all bad.
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Shift from Judgment to Curiosity Replace assumptions with questions to build empathy and understanding.
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Retrain Attention Through Gratitude Actively notice what's working to balance the brain's negativity bias.
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Replace Self-Criticism with Self-Compassion Learn how softer self-talk reduces shame and increases growth.
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Use the Zoom-Out Perspective Step back to see progress, effort, and intention—not just isolated flaws.
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Reframe Perfectionism as Progress Let go of "perfect" and define what "good enough" looks like.
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Recognize the Emotional Root of Criticism Understand how fear, control, and insecurity fuel flaw-finding.
Key Takeaway
The goal isn't to become blind to flaws, it's to stop fixating on them. When you train your perception to see nuance, effort, and beauty alongside imperfection, you cultivate peace, resilience, and genuine connection.
Connect with Rachid Zahidi
🌐 Blog & episodes: resilience.com 📘 Author of: The EMO Gym Journal - a guide to emotional clarity, focus, and better habits 🎧 Follow the podcast: Resilience Across Borders 💬 Share your thoughts: Leave a review or message Rachid with your feedback
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By Rachid ZahidiHow to Train Your Mind to Notice Goodness as Easily as Imperfection
In this episode of Resilience Across Borders, host Rachid Zahidi explores why we tend to focus on flaws and how to retrain our perception to see the full picture instead of just what's wrong.
Our minds are wired with a negativity bias designed for survival, but in modern life, this habit often leads to stress, strained relationships, and dissatisfaction. Learning to stop looking for flaws doesn't mean ignoring reality; it means developing balanced awareness and emotional resilience.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
-
Why fault-finding is a natural survival response and how it backfires today
-
The difference between judgment-based thinking and growth-based curiosity
-
How perception shapes emotional reactions and relationships
-
Why perfectionism is often disguised as flaw-finding
Practical Strategies Covered
-
Practice "Both/And" Thinking Learn to see strengths and imperfections at the same time, instead of labeling situations as all good or all bad.
-
Shift from Judgment to Curiosity Replace assumptions with questions to build empathy and understanding.
-
Retrain Attention Through Gratitude Actively notice what's working to balance the brain's negativity bias.
-
Replace Self-Criticism with Self-Compassion Learn how softer self-talk reduces shame and increases growth.
-
Use the Zoom-Out Perspective Step back to see progress, effort, and intention—not just isolated flaws.
-
Reframe Perfectionism as Progress Let go of "perfect" and define what "good enough" looks like.
-
Recognize the Emotional Root of Criticism Understand how fear, control, and insecurity fuel flaw-finding.
Key Takeaway
The goal isn't to become blind to flaws, it's to stop fixating on them. When you train your perception to see nuance, effort, and beauty alongside imperfection, you cultivate peace, resilience, and genuine connection.
Connect with Rachid Zahidi
🌐 Blog & episodes: resilience.com 📘 Author of: The EMO Gym Journal - a guide to emotional clarity, focus, and better habits 🎧 Follow the podcast: Resilience Across Borders 💬 Share your thoughts: Leave a review or message Rachid with your feedback