From first impressions to that overwhelmed feeling can happen in a flash can't it! Often we don't even know we have done it because we don't notice that we have created a story. Stories like that look someone had on their face means they are thinking badly of us, that unanswered message means they don't like us anymore or that un-emptied bin means they are lazy and don't care.

But it helps to know the truth that we are making it all up. Beyond the first thing we see, it's all a story. Just knowing can help, slow things down and prevent that overwhelmed feeling. Because, in the moment of realisation, it all just falls away. In the noticing there is freedom.

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