In your twenties, it’s easy to feel like you’ll always belong somewhere — a friend group, a workplace, a Saturday night ritual that feels like home. But what happens when those circles fade, and you suddenly find yourself everywhere in the city… yet belonging nowhere?

In this deeply personal episode, Jacob shares the story of poker nights and found-family friendships, the sudden loss of someone who helped anchor his world, and the quiet isolation of gig work that left him feeling like a ghost — unseen in restaurants full of laughter and connection.

And yet… that ghostly invisibility became the doorway to something unexpected: aloneness — not loneliness — but a deeper, more courageous way of being with yourself.

Through grief, silence, and a chance encounter with the teachings of Alan Watts and Ram Dass, Jacob uncovers what it means to lose borrowed belonging… and slowly rebuild connection from the inside out.

This isn’t a story about giving up — it’s a story about remembering who you are when no one is looking.

Topics:

• When community feels like home… until it doesn’t
• The slow erosion of belonging — and why it hurts so much
• How crisis can become a turning point toward a truer life
• The difference between loneliness and aloneness
• Practical ways to reconnect with yourself and others

If you’ve ever felt invisible in a room full of people — this one’s for you.

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