We’ll be working through the Unmanaged methodology all week, discussing where the systems fail, the importance of regulating yourself and how you can protect yourself, whether you are a manager or an individual contributor. Tonight, we are practicing what we’ve learned about nervous system regulation.

Tonight we’re going to practice identifying when nervous system regulation is needed — and then use two of the tools we’ve talked about this week to actually do it.

This matters because dysregulation doesn’t announce itself clearly. It builds. And if you aren’t paying attention to your body, you can reach the point where your dysregulation is more visible than your competence before you’ve had a chance to intervene.

So let’s start there — with noticing.

You’re working on a project. The goal posts keep moving, shifted by people who aren’t doing the work. Your frustration has been building for days. Then one more email arrives, and something tips. Your heart starts racing. You feel the anger rising. Your stomach turns.

That’s your body signaling. That’s the moment to regulate — not after you’ve responded to the email, not after the meeting. Now.

Let’s practice the 5-4-3-2-1 method together.

Find where you are right now. Feel the surface underneath you.

5 — Name five things you can see. A chair across the room. Your hands. The light fixture. Anything. Just five things.

4 — Name four things you can touch. Your clothes, your hair, the desk, the floor. Whatever is within reach.

3 — Name three things you can hear. Your own breathing. Something in the room. Something outside it.

2 — Name two things you can smell. The room itself. Something nearby. Take a breath to find it.

1 — Name one thing you can taste. Coffee, lunch, anything lingering. It doesn’t need to be strong.

It’s the act of moving through your senses that does the work — pulling your attention out of the spiral and back into the present moment.

Practice that on your own today or tomorrow. The more familiar it becomes, the faster it works when you actually need it.

Now it’s later. You’re home.

But your brain hasn’t caught up to that yet. You’re still hearing the raised voices from earlier. You’re thinking about the thing due Friday that you haven’t started. The usual signals your body uses to wind down aren’t cutting through the noise.

This is where visualization earns its place — not as motivation, but as a bridge to rest.

Close your eyes if you can. Take a slow breath.

Imagine tomorrow at work. You arrive steady. You communicate clearly in the meeting that’s been weighing on you. You handle what comes up without handing yourself over to it. At some point in the day, you step outside — even for a few minutes — and you feel the air.

You finish the day having done what you needed to do. You’re tired, but it’s the right kind of tired.

You come home. Your favorite meal. Your own space. The evening settling around you in a way that feels like yours.

You imagine lying down. The room the way you want it. Quiet, or the sounds you find restful. Your body releasing the day, gradually, without effort.

You imagine drifting into sleep that actually restores you.

Stay with it as long as you need. Move through the details slowly — what does it look like, what does it sound like, what does it feel like in your body when you are at rest? The more specific the image, the more your brain can find real rest inside it.

Work is hard. Some days it’s harder than it should be, and you know the difference.

But your nervous system belongs to you. Your future belongs to you. That’s not a small thing — and it’s not something anyone can take from you, regardless of their title or their power.

Deep breath in. Deep breath out.

You’ve got this.

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