Randy Rae’s journey to the mats wasn’t easy—but it’s one of resilience, reinvention, and relentless grit.

In this episode, Jenn and Mallory sit down with Randy to talk through his story—from growing up with no supervision, battling addiction from a young age, and cycling through the juvenile justice system—to building a life rooted in purpose, fatherhood, and Jiu Jitsu.

After getting sober at 20, Randy spent the next decade helping others do the same. He’s open about what that kind of emotional investment looks like, how he protects his own mental health, and the pressure and heartbreak of watching people he cares about struggle.

Now a purple belt and seasoned competitor, Randy shares how Jiu Jitsu became a new lifeline. From daily discipline to competition wins—including a recent gold at the IBJJF Virginia Summer Open—he’s found community and clarity on the mats.

This is an episode about grit, growth, and giving back. If you’ve ever felt like it was too late to change your life, Randy’s story will show you otherwise.

Guest: @randyjrae

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Hosts: @jennholmberg and @itsmaltime