In this podcast episode, Loraine reflects on her journey to find love after the death of her partner. She shares her belief in writing down goals and desires, including the qualities she wanted in a new relationship. However, as she navigates the world of online dating and explores alternative dating websites, she encounters unexpected challenges and revelations. Loraine delves into her experiences with BDSM and the importance of informed consent in those encounters. As the episode progresses, she begins to realize that the man she thought was her friend, lover, and soulmate may not be who he appeared to be. Loraine reflects on the red flags she missed and the lessons she has learned about trust, honesty, and self-discovery.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Loraine experienced a period of confusion, grieving, and fear after the death of their partner, which is a common response to major life transitions.

• She believed in the power of writing down goals and desires, including what they wanted in a future relationship.

• Loraine engaged in online dating and explored alternative dating websites, including one focused on BDSM.

• Loraine met her next partner, who had a history of being a serial adulterer and had health issues, but she was initially impressed by his honesty and felt a connection.

• She later realized that she had missed important qualities in her list, such as a healthy partner, and learned about red flags and the importance of informed consent in BDSM relationships. Loraine also discovered the love-bombing phase of narcissistic abuse.

BEST MOMENTS
"I have believed in writing down my goals and what I wanted to achieve." 

"It was no different for me... Sleepless nights and restlessness all add to the stress of the situation you find yourself in."

"I was chatting with more than 10 guys... Whenever I would go online to chat, I would have four or five conversations going at the same time."

"I discovered that shock horror... He was still married... She called herself Slave Sena." 

"I felt safe and secure with him... I felt cared for... I felt he was my friend, lover, and soulmate."

HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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