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In this deeply personal episode, Loraine shares her experience of psychological and economic abuse within an intimate relationship in Spain. Drawing on her lived reality and reflecting against the GREVIO report on Spain’s implementation of the Istanbul Convention, she uncovers the systemic failings of legal, judicial, and social support structures meant to protect women. From conflicting legal advice to court-appointed lawyers who failed her, and the trauma of eviction proceedings where her voice was silenced, Loraine exposes how women, especially foreign nationals, can be retraumatised by institutions meant to help them. This episode is a must-listen for survivors, advocates, and anyone seeking to understand the hidden dynamics of financial control and legal manipulation in abusive relationships.

Best Moments

“Stay in the property. Call the police if threatened. Negotiate.”

— The legal advice Loraine received, which contrasts sharply with what she later learned about prohibited mediation in abuse cases.

“You’ll leave with nothing.” A chilling shift from an agreed financial settlement to hostile legal actions by her ex-partner.

“I was denied a voice to speak.” Loraine’s description of the eviction hearing, where, despite securing a translator, no one asked her to testify or present her evidence.

“Imagine you’re struggling in the sea…” A powerful metaphor captures the despair of economic abuse, likening it to an abuser snatching away a lifeline while watching the victim drown.

“He said: ‘Your future security depends on having me on your side." A direct quote that exemplifies coercion, power imbalance, and the emotional manipulation central to economic violence.

Key Takeaways

Legal Systems Often Fail to Protect Survivors - inconsistent legal representation, poor communication, and ignorance of international conventions leave survivors vulnerable.

Economic Abuse Is a Hidden, Ongoing Form of Control - Post-breakup financial manipulation—like withdrawing settlement offers or initiating costly litigation—can trap survivors in prolonged trauma.

Mediation in Abuse Cases Is Prohibited—But Still Happens - Despite Article 48 of the Istanbul Convention, survivors are often pushed into negotiation with abusers under the guise of “amicable” settlements.

Being a Foreigner Adds Layers of Vulnerability - Language barriers, lack of support networks, and discriminatory treatment from legal and social systems increase risks for migrant women.

There Must Be Accountability and Continuity in Legal Support - Survivors need consistent legal help from professionals trained to identify abuse patterns—not just procedural conflict, so they are not silenced or misrepresented.

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Will The Real Victim Please Stand Up?

How can professionals tell who is the real victim after a relationship with the Narcissist ends?

In this powerful episode, Loraine looks at the aftermath of narcissistic abuse—how professionals, courts, and even loved ones often struggle to identify the "real victim" when a toxic relationship ends.

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Narcissists are master manipulators, rewriting history, gaslighting, and playing the victim to evade accountability. Meanwhile, actual survivors are left traumatised, isolated, and struggling to articulate their pain. Drawing from personal experience, expert insights (like Dr. Ramani’s), and harrowing case studies, we expose the stark differences between a "false victim" (the narcissist) and an "actual victim" (the survivor). If you’ve ever wondered why victims aren’t believed—or how abusers weaponise the system—this episode is for you.

Best Moments from the Episode:

1. Dr. Ramani’s Stark Truth: "All domestic abusers are narcissistic. Zero empathy, incredible arrogance—that’s narcissism."

2. The Survivor’s Fog: Why true victims often sound "chaotic" when recounting abuse, while narcissists deliver smooth, calculated lies.

3. DARVO Exposed: How narcissists *Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender* to manipulate professionals.

4. Courtroom Betrayal: The shocking reality of how survivors are re-traumatised by legal systems that dismiss covert abuse.

5. Life After Abuse: Why true victims isolate themselves, while narcissists move on instantly—new relationships, social media bragging, and no remorse.

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Key Takeaways:

1. Spot the Patterns: True victims show PTSD symptoms (anxiety, confusion); false victims appear detached, entitled, and hyper-articulate.

2. Trauma vs. Tactics: Survivors self-blame and grieve; narcissists weaponise victimhood to "win" at all costs.

3. Systemic Failure: Courts often mistake a survivor’s anger for instability while believing the narcissist’s charm.

4. Silence Isn’t Consent: Many victims don’t report abuse due to fear, trauma bonds, or shame—not because it didn’t happen.

5. Healing is Possible: Recovery starts with therapy, community, and the realisation that you were never the problem.

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In this powerful episode, Loraine sits down with bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker Dana Diaz to discuss the harrowing yet transformative journey of surviving narcissistic abuse. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships, Dana shares her story of resilience, healing, and reclaiming self-worth. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who’s experienced manipulation, gaslighting, or emotional abuse—and seeks the strength to break free.

Narcissistic Abuse Follows a Predictable Cycle

• Love-bombing, devaluation, and discard phases keep victims trapped in hope and confusion.

Childhood Trauma Sets the Stage

• Dysfunctional upbringing (e.g., parentification, emotional neglect) primes individuals to tolerate abuse in adulthood.

The Physical Toll of Abuse

• Prolonged stress can manifest as autoimmune disorders, chronic illness, or extreme weight loss (Dana’s lung syndrome).

Financial Control as a Weapon

• Narcissists exploit financial dependence to maintain power, then blame victims for "using" them.

Healing Requires Rebuilding Self-Trust

• Setting boundaries, therapy, and writing (like Dana’s journal-to-book journey) are critical to recovery.

"He was trying to kill me without getting his hands dirty."

• Dana’s chilling realization about her ex-husband’s psychological warfare.

"I internalized the words: ‘Nobody will ever love you.’"

• How childhood verbal abuse shaped Dana’s vulnerability to toxic relationships.

The COVID Journal of Survival

• Dana hid a journal under the couch during lockdown, fearing her ex would murder her and stage it as an accident.

"If my daughter told me this, I’d rescue her—yet I stayed."

• Dana's reflection on the disconnect between self-worth and protecting loved ones.

"Abuse is abuse, and an a-hole is an a-hole."

• The blunt truth about narcissists’ universal playbook, regardless of geography or laws.

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In this episode, Loraine shares her four-year battle with a legal system that failed her as a survivor. Through her lived experience, she reveals misguided legal advice and legal barriers faced by women seeking justice. If you’ve ever felt silenced by the system, this episode is for you.

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5 Key Takeaways:

• Legal Systems Often Fail Survivors: How victims are frequently dismissed, given conflicting advice, or pressured into actions they’re uncomfortable with.
• Advocacy: Without a lawyer who truly listened or advocated for her needs, survivors face bureaucratic dead ends—highlights the critical need for trauma-informed legal representation.
• Hidden Abuse Goes Unrecognized: Her case was downgraded from psychological abuse to minor verbal abuse by the courts, exposing how systems minimize non-physical violence.
• Financial Coercion as a Weapon: Manipulation continued through broken financial promises (reneged offers for a monetary settlement), a tactic many survivors face. :
• Staying Strong: Despite setbacks, Loraine persisted—researching laws, writing a book, and fighting for her rights—proving survival is possible even when systems work against you.

5 Best Moments:

Solicitor’s Shocking Advice (0:13–4:12)

• The lawyer insisted she file a gender violence complaint, ignoring her plea for negotiation—a pivotal failure in the system.

Triggering Legal Threats (10:47–11:17)

• The gut-wrenching email from her ex’s lawyer: "The judge will order your eviction—you have no rights in this country."

Courtroom Betrayal (19:02–20:21)

• A lawyer dismissed evidence, reducing years of abuse to "one minor verbal incident"—a stark example of systemic failure.

Appeal Denied (22:44–23:48)

• The free lawyer wouldn't appeal —another institutional failure.

Systemic Failures (26:09–26:26)

• “These are the systemic failures in the system. There should be a set process in place so that when someone presents with the issue, they can go through this or that. There should be a flow chart of how to proceed.”

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Wellness, Writing, and Winning: A Conversation with Katie Gauthier #mindset #money #success

In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall sits down with Katie Gauthier, an international bestselling author, wellness coach, and yoga teacher. Katie shares her journey of co-authoring the book Becoming the Manifesting Diva: Making Ripples While You Flow, which became an instant bestseller across multiple countries. Together, they dive into the power of mindset, overcoming trauma, and how to reframe limiting beliefs to create a life of success and fulfilment. Katie also opens up about her unique approach to coaching, blending yoga and mindset work to help clients release emotional blockages and thrive. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, collaboration, and the importance of moving forward, no matter the setbacks.

5 Key Takeaways:

Mindset is Everything: Katie emphasizes that most challenges stem from negative self-beliefs or mindset blocks. By addressing these, individuals can unlock their potential and create lasting change.

Trauma-Informed Coaching: Katie’s approach combines mindset coaching with yoga to help clients release emotional and physical blockages, especially those rooted in trauma.

The Power of Collaboration: Katie’s journey as a co-author highlights the importance of collaboration and how working with others can lead to incredible opportunities, like becoming an international bestselling author.

Reframing Setbacks: Both Loraine and Katie discuss how setbacks can be reframed as opportunities for growth. By asking, “What is this trying to teach me?” you can turn challenges into stepping stones.

Resilience in the Face of Adversity: Loraine shares her personal story of overcoming trauma and legal battles, emphasizing the importance of persistence and self-belief in the face of life’s toughest challenges.

5 Best Moments:

Katie’s Bestseller Journey: Katie shares how she became a co-author of an international bestselling book, Becoming the Manifesting Diva, and the serendipitous connections that made it possible. (00:02:00)

The Intersection of Yoga and Mindset: Katie explains how she blends yoga with mindset coaching to help clients release emotional blockages and reconnect with their true selves. (00:10:00)

Loraine’s Story of Resilience: Loraine opens up about her traumatic experiences, including a toxic relationship and legal battles, and how she found the strength to keep moving forward. (00:25:00)

Reframing Limiting Beliefs: Katie discusses her process of helping clients reframe limiting beliefs, turning self-doubt into empowerment. (00:15:00)

Celebrating Failure: Both Loraine and Katie talk about the importance of learning from failure and how it can be a powerful tool for growth. (00:40:00)

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In this episode, Loraine emphasizes the key role of mindset in achieving financial freedom, particularly for women over 40 facing life-altering events. Drawing from her personal experiences of financial insecurity after betrayal and loss, Loraine identifies common blocks such as fear, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma, and financial dependency. Loraine then offers practical steps and mindset shifts to overcome these obstacles, encouraging listeners to adopt an abundance mindset, hold onto courage, take financial ownership, and develop self-worth. An encouraging guide for women seeking to rebuild their lives and achieve financial independence by focusing on internal strength and proactive steps.

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

* Mindset is the fundamental key to achieving financial freedom, especially for women over 40 navigating significant life changes like divorce, loss, or betrayal. Financial freedom encompasses how we think, believe, and act, not just the amount of money we have.

* Overcoming financial trauma involves recognizing and addressing common blocks such as fear and self-doubt, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma from events like betrayal and loss, and being financially dependent on others.

* Shifting your mindset is crucial for building financial independence. This involves moving from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset, from fear to courage, from dependency to ownership of your financial decisions, and from self-doubt to self-worth.

* There are practical steps you can take to shift your mindset for financial security, including using journaling prompts and daily affirmations, building a supportive network, and actively improving your financial literacy.

* No matter your current circumstances, you have the power to change your financial story by making a conscious decision to shift your mindset and take control of your future. Even amidst trauma and setbacks, focusing on skill development and future plans can be empowering.

5 BEST MOMENTS:

* Loraine's opening, where she shares her personal experience of her planned secure financial future vanishing, immediately highlights the real-world importance of mindset in the face of unexpected life changes.

* The article's direct acknowledgment that fear in these situations can stem from external sources beyond negative thoughts, adding a layer of complexity to the common advice to "feel the fear and do it anyway".

* The powerful and relatable statement: "Betrayal, abandonment, and loss can shatter our sense of security and self-worth", which underscores the significant emotional impact on financial well-being.

* Maya Angelou's impactful quote: “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them,” offering a message of resilience and empowerment in the face of adversity.

* The inclusion of concrete, actionable steps like specific journaling prompts and practical tips for improving financial literacy, providing listeners with tangible ways to start their journey towards financial freedom.

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In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall dives into the inspiring story behind her Amazon Merch t-shirt collections under the brand Success With Loraine. With two powerful collections—Narcissist Aware and Self Care—Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming emotional and financial abuse, and how she turned her pain into purpose. These collections, available on Amazon ES, UK, and US, are more than just apparel; they are wearable messages of empowerment, awareness, and self-care. Tune in to learn how Loraine created these collections to support her podcast, YouTube channel, and website while raising awareness about hidden forms of abuse.

1. Raising Awareness Through Wearable Messages: Loraine’s t-shirt collections, Narcissist Aware and Self Care, are designed to spark conversations about hidden forms of abuse, such as emotional, psychological, and financial manipulation.
2. Personal Healing Through Creativity: After experiencing a toxic relationship, Loraine channelled her pain into creating slogans like "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person" to empower victims and help them recognize their worth.
3. Multiple Streams of Income: Loraine emphasizes the importance of diversifying income streams, especially for those rebuilding their lives after trauma. Her merch collections are one way she supports her podcast and online presence.
4. The Importance of Boundaries: One of the slogans, "Boundaries Begin Here," highlights the need for setting clear boundaries in relationships to protect oneself from emotional harm and manipulation.
5. Self-Care as a Path to Healing: The Self-Care collection encourages victims to prioritize their well-being through activities like journaling, yoga, and painting, reminding them that happiness is the highest form of success.

1. The Story Behind "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person": Loraine shares how this powerful slogan reflects her experience of being treated as an object in an abusive relationship and how it resonates with many victims of hidden abuse.
2. Creating the Narcissist Aware Collection: Loraine discusses the emotional process of designing t-shirts like "Narcissists Destroy Lives" and "Enough is Enough," which reflect the pain and empowerment of leaving toxic relationships.
3. The Importance of Multiple Income Streams: Loraine opens up about her financial struggles after leaving her business and how creating the merch collections became a way to rebuild her life and support her podcast.
4. The Healing Power of Self-Care: Loraine explains how the Self-Care collection was born out of her own healing journey, with slogans like "Remember You Are Amazing" and "Happiness is the Highest Form of Success."
5. A Message of Empowerment: Loraine closes the episode with a heartfelt reminder that victims of abuse are stronger than they think, and every small step toward self-care and self-love is a step toward reclaiming their power.

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In this episode, Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming significant setbacks, including betrayal, legal battles, and emotional trauma. She offers practical advice and key lessons on how to stay motivated even when progress feels slow. Loraine emphasizes the importance of focusing on your "why," celebrating small wins, reframing setbacks, building a support system, and taking things one day at a time.

Key Takeaways:

1. Focus on Your "Why":

Remembering your core reason for pursuing your goals can serve as an anchor during tough times. Loraine shares how her "why" kept her motivated through legal battles and emotional trauma.

2. Celebrate Small Wins:

Acknowledging and celebrating small victories, no matter how insignificant they seem, can boost your confidence and keep you motivated. Loraine celebrated moments like publishing her book and successfully delaying eviction.

3. Reframe Setbacks as Opportunities:

Instead of seeing challenges as obstacles, view them as opportunities for growth. Loraine reframed her legal battles as tests of her strength and determination.

4. Build a Support System:

Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your journey. Loraine found strength in online communities and support groups, which helped her feel less isolated.

5. Take It One Day at a Time:

Focus on the present moment and take small, manageable steps. Loraine emphasizes the importance of breaking down goals into daily tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Best Moments:

1. Loraine's Personal Story of Betrayal and Resilience:

Loraine opens up about the emotional and financial betrayal she faced from a former partner, setting the stage for her journey of overcoming adversity.

2. Reframing Setbacks as Opportunities:

Loraine discusses how she turned her legal challenges into opportunities to learn Spanish law and take control of her situation, proving her strength and determination.

3. Finding Support in Online Communities:

Loraine highlights the importance of finding support through online groups like "Griefhab," which helped her connect with others and even contributed to a collaborative book.

5. The Power of Affirmations and Visualization:

Loraine shares how she used affirmations and attended motivational seminars to stay positive and focused during her recovery journey.

Practical Tips:

• Create a daily routine with small, achievable goals.

• Use affirmations and visualization to stay positive.

• Keep a journal to track progress and reflect on your journey.

• Seek inspiration from books, podcasts, coaches, or mentors

Motivational Quote:

"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop"

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In this episode, Loraine focuses on managing stress and improving mental well-being. She explores the negative impacts of stress on physical and mental health, offering practical advice such as exercise, diet, journaling, and meditation to alleviate it. The creator also discusses the importance of positive affirmations and mindful responses to criticism, promoting self-improvement and the Law of Attraction. The piece concludes by suggesting seeking professional help if needed.

Key Takeaways

• Stress Reduction is Essential: Stress can negatively impact both mental and physical health, potentially leading to depression, anxiety, and physical ailments like heart disease. Managing stress is crucial for overall well-being and achieving personal goals.
• Multiple methods for stress relief:  Physical exercise, a healthy diet, journaling, social interaction, setting boundaries, and meditation. A combination of these strategies may be the most effective.
• Mindset Matters: Maintaining a positive mindset and focusing on what is important in life can help to navigate stressful situations. Reframing negative thoughts and practising gratitude can reduce stress and improve emotional well-being.
• Dealing with Criticism Constructively: Learning to accept criticism and using it as an opportunity for growth can be beneficial. When facing criticism, it's important to consider the source, ask for factual evidence, and avoid reacting emotionally.
• Self-Awareness is Key: Recognizing when stress is overwhelming and seeking help from professionals, such as therapists, can be beneficial. Understanding one's emotional state and identifying the need for support is crucial in managing stress effectively.

Best Moments

• The Importance of Movement: Physical activity as a potent stress reliever. Even small amounts of exercise, like chair yoga or dancing, can help to release tension and increase energy levels.
• The Power of Journaling: Focusing on the positive and gratitude, when journaling, can shift your mindset from negative to positive. This practice is noted as a tool for reducing stress and anxiety.
• The "I Am" Affirmations: The "I am" affirmations, combined with meditation or deep breathing exercises, can be a powerful way to circulate positive energy throughout the body.
• The Value of Social Connection: Having strong social ties can provide support during stressful times and reduce anxiety. Socialising can include meeting new people in person, networking online, or engaging in group activities.
• The Need to Say "No": Setting boundaries and avoiding overcommitment is a way to control stress and prioritise one's well-being. Learning to say no when your workload is too much is crucial.

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- Finding love again after loss or abandonment.

- It is absolutely possible to find love again, and not just any love, but the right love.

- identifying the kind of relationship you truly want

- feel hopeful, empowered, and ready to take your next step toward love.

- The Impact of Trauma on Relationships

- Shifting the Mindset: Believing in Love Again

- Your past does not dictate your future.

- The right relationship is about quality, not quantity.

- Healing doesn’t mean waiting for someone to rescue you.

- “What do I need to do to prepare myself for the right relationship?”

- "What Type of Relationship Do You Really Want?"

- Practical Steps for Dating After Trauma

- Love is possible for you.

- The most important step? Believe in yourself first.

- Takeaway for today: Write down three qualities you truly want in a partner and three ways you can start preparing yourself for that kind of relationship.

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