In this episode, Loraine reads a chapter of her self-published book, where she describes the emotional and psychological abuse she experienced during her time living in Spain. Loraine recounts the challenges faced post-separation and highlights the gaps in legal protection for victims of abuse. Through her retelling, she aims to raise awareness about hidden abuse in relationships, the impact of post-separation abuse, and the need for better legal provisions to safeguard individuals in such situations. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• This episode discusses the author's experience of emotional and psychological abuse during a relationship in Spain.

• Loraine highlights the challenges faced in seeking legal help and protection in cases of emotional and psychological abuse.

• This chapter sheds light on the impact of COVID lockdown in Spain in March 2020 on the relationship dynamics.

• Loraine emphasizes the importance of raising awareness about hidden emotional and psychological abuse in relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

"All I wanted was what was promised and he went back on all the promises that he made."

"A lot of solicitors, a lot of lawyers out there don't understand what it is to be in a situation of emotional and psychological abuse."

"I finally felt that I was leaving behind the terrible memory of the past infidelity and I started to recover lost self-confidence again."

"Victims of abuse often know that what has been happening to them isn't right, but they didn't understand or don't understand that it is domestic abuse and that it is now illegal."

"He expected to be able to put another £100,000 into his retirement fund, telling me it was so that we could be secure in our retirement here in Spain."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the transformative power of embracing the principles of success as outlined by Napoleon Hill, Catherine Ponder, and Randy Gage. Through the stories of individuals like Edwin C. Barnes, Catherine Ponder, and Randy Gage, Loraine emphasizes the cyclical nature of success and the profound impact of adopting a giving mindset. She also reflects on their own journey of personal growth and resilience in the face of challenges, underscoring the significance of incorporating timeless principles of giving, gratitude, and abundance into one's life. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Embrace the law of giving and receiving to shift mindset from scarcity to limitless possibility.

• Success is a journey, not a destination, intertwined with the growth of those around you.

• Plant seeds of giving, cultivate gratitude, and believe in abundance for profound transformations.

• True success is a win-win proposition where personal growth aligns with the growth of others.

• Incorporating timeless principles of success can lead to rising from poverty to prosperity.

BEST MOMENTS

"One of the famous stories in his work was Edwin C. Barnes, a man who had dreamed of becoming a business partner with Thomas Edison. Barnes had no money, no influential connections, but had a desire and unwavering faith to be successful."

"Catherine Ponder introduces the divine law that brings about greater returns and encourages individuals to cultivate a mindset of abundance through affirmations, retraining the brain away from fear mentality towards giving and service."

"Randy Gage advocates for giving setting the stage for receiving, emphasizing that abundance flows to those who create value for others. His powerful story of transformation from lack to abundance showcases the impact of giving and creating value."

"Many personal development speakers speak about the universal laws or spiritual laws to success. The keys to life-changing transformation lie in rewiring our brains or reprogramming our mindsets, shifting away from the hustle culture towards giving, growing, and gratitude."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine delves into the transformative topic of "10 Rules for Success," specifically tailored for female survivors of domestic abuse. Through practical steps and insightful guidance, Loraine explores how survivors can harness their inner strength and resilience to rebuild their lives and achieve their dreams. From believing in oneself to managing finances wisely and giving back to the community, each rule is designed to empower survivors on their entrepreneurial journey. With a focus on self-care, adaptability, and celebrating achievements, this episode serves as an inspiration for survivors looking to create a new successful chapter in their lives. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Empowerment for female survivors of domestic abuse: The podcast episode focuses on empowering women who have survived domestic abuse to rebuild their lives and achieve their dreams.

• 10 Rules for Success: The episode provides a guide with 10 rules for success tailored specifically for female survivors of domestic abuse, offering practical steps to help them on their journey to success.

• Importance of self-belief and resilience: Believing in oneself and embracing resilience are highlighted as crucial steps towards achieving success after experiencing abuse.

• Practical tips for success: The episode offers practical advice such as setting clear goals, educating oneself, building a support network, prioritizing self-care, managing finances wisely, and staying adaptable in the business world.

• Encouragement and inspiration: The episode encourages female survivors to celebrate their achievements, give back to their communities, and remember that their past does not define their future, inspiring them to create a new successful chapter in their lives.

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BEST MOMENTS

"The scars of domestic abuse can run deep. It can steal your confidence, isolate you, and leave you feeling like your dreams and success are out of reach."

"Knowledge is power. Invest time in learning about your chosen field, business management, personal development."

"Financial stability is a key component of success. Create a budget, track your expenses, save for the future."

"Digital products can generate passive income and the key steps are develop a high quality product, Create a sales funnel and promote through social media and email marketing."

"You are a survivor, a fighter, and an entrepreneur in the making. Embrace the journey. Use your scars as a source of strength and rise to the success you deserve."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine delves into the topic of unlocking one's full potential through mindset transformation. She breaks down the process into three main parts: awareness, beliefs, and action. Loraine emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, identifying limiting beliefs, and engaging in mindfulness practices to increase awareness. She discusses the power of positive affirmations, visualization, and surrounding oneself with positivity to reshape beliefs. Loraine also highlights the significance of setting clear goals, developing a plan, and taking consistent action to bring about change. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Self-reflection, journaling, identifying limiting beliefs, and mindfulness practices are essential for becoming aware of your current mindset and making necessary changes.

• Positive affirmations, visualization, surrounding yourself with positivity, challenging negative beliefs, and replacing them with empowering ones are key to shaping your reality and achieving your goals.

• Setting clear goals, developing a plan, taking consistent action, celebrating successes, seeking support, learning from failure, and keeping motivated through affirmational videos and motivational speakers are crucial for turning your dreams into reality.

• Consistency is emphasized throughout the podcast as a key factor in achieving success. Taking small steps regularly can lead to significant progress over time.

• Joining communities of like-minded individuals, seeking support from mentors or coaches, and having someone to guide and encourage you can make a huge difference in your journey towards unlocking your full potential.

BEST MOMENTS

"Awareness is the foundation of any transformation. You need to be aware of your current mindset and how that affects your life."

"Our beliefs shape our reality. If you believe you can achieve your goals, you're already halfway there."

"Changing your beliefs takes time and consistency, but it's a powerful way to transform your mindset."

"Even small steps taken regularly can lead to significant progress over time."

"I had an idea. I wanted to publish my story. I didn't even know where to start on even writing a book. So I had to take action."

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Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode Loraine delves into the healing power of writing after experiencing emotionally abusive relationships, divorce, and the loss of a spouse. Through personal experiences and expert insights, listeners are guided on a journey towards rebuilding confidence, finding their voice, and reclaiming power through writing. She explores how journaling, reflective writing, and letter-writing can help individuals process complex emotions, navigate grief, and ultimately move towards healing and empowerment. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Writing can be a powerful tool for healing from trauma, such as emotionally abusive relationships, divorce, and loss of a spouse.

• Different types of writing, such as journaling, free writing, and letter writing, can help in processing emotions and gaining clarity.

• Writing about experiences can help in identifying patterns of abuse, understanding emotions, and rebuilding self-worth.

• Connecting with others through writing can foster a sense of community and mutual support for those facing similar challenges.

• Writing can aid in releasing pent-up emotions, letting go of the past, and envisioning a positive future.

BEST MOMENTS

"Writing is a way to heal, finding your voice and reclaiming your power."

"By putting your feelings into words, you can start to dismantle the internalised negative messages and rebuild your self-worth."

"Many people expect to experience denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance in that order."

"Writing about your journey can connect you with others who understand, creating a supportive community of shared experiences."

"Writing is more than just putting words on paper. It's a journey towards healing, self-discovery and empowerment."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine delves into her personal experience with a precarious eviction situation in the civil court. Loraine recounts the challenges she faced, including emotional trauma, legal complexities, and post-separation abuse. She highlights the gaps in laws concerning cohabiting couples and the need for legal protections in such relationships. Loraine also touches on statistics related to domestic abuse and gender violence, emphasizing the importance of awareness and support for victims.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Couples living together without marriage or civil partnership may face legal challenges in property ownership and inheritance rights.

• Highlighting the emotional and psychological abuse that can continue after a relationship ends, and the gaps in legal protection for victims.

• Controlling behavior, mental health issues, substance abuse, and relationship separation are identified as risk factors for domestic violence.

• The eight-stage homicide timeline provides insights into how coercive relationships can escalate to violence and murder.

• Encouraging individuals concerned about domestic violence or suicide to reach out to crisis hotlines or support organizations for help.

BEST MOMENTS

"I just want to read a chapter or go over a chapter from my first self-published book because for me it's important to get this message out."

"The judge banged down the hammer and that was it. There was no questions. I didn't get to speak. There was nothing."

"The law does not have specific remedies in cases like these, a dispute between two people who were previously in a relationship."

"In the UK, a total of 242 domestic abuse-related deaths were recorded between April 2022 to March 2023, including 93 suspected victim suicides following domestic abuse."
LINK: https://news.npcc.police.uk/releases/report-reveals-scale-of-domestic-homicide-and-suicides-by-victims-of-domestic-abuse

"Professor Jane Monckton-Smith, a former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection, has developed a groundbreaking research into an eight-stage homicide timeline."

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HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine focuses on the topic of keeping a money mindset and how to release money blocks. She discusses the importance of understanding and overcoming subconscious beliefs that hinder financial security and abundance. Loraine explores various types of money blocks and provides practical tools to help listeners break free from these mental barriers. Through exercises like the money story exercise and actionable steps such as setting clear goals and using affirmations, she guides listeners on a journey towards transforming their financial mindset.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Understanding money blocks: Money blocks are subconscious beliefs and attitudes that shape how individuals perceive, earn, save, and spend money. These mental barriers can stem from various sources such as childhood experiences, societal conditioning, or past financial struggles and traumas.

• Importance of releasing money blocks: Money blocks can limit earning potential, sabotage financial goals, and create stress and anxiety. By identifying and releasing these blocks, individuals can boost confidence, make smarter financial decisions, and reduce stress related to money.

• Actionable steps to overcome money blocks: Educate yourself on personal finance, set clear financial goals, seek professional help if needed, and use affirmations focused on abundance and financial success to reprogram your mindset from scarcity to abundance.

• Case study on overcoming financial struggles: The journey of Sarah Blakely, founder of Spanx, from a struggling salesperson to a billionaire entrepreneur, demonstrates how positive mindset and resilience can help overcome financial obstacles and achieve significant success.

• Recommended books for mindset shifts: "Money, Master the Game" by Tony Robbins and "The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" by T. Harv Eker provide valuable insights into financial freedom, wealth creation, and changing subconscious beliefs about money to achieve financial success.

BEST MOMENTS

"Money blocks are subconscious beliefs and attitudes that shape how you perceive, earn, save and spend money."

"By understanding the root causes and taking proactive steps you can break free from these mental barriers and build a healthier relationship with money."

"Money comes to me easily and effortlessly. I receive lots of money from the universe."

"Sarah Blakely practiced visualization and maintaining unwavering belief in her product and herself, which helped her navigate financial obstacles and ultimately achieve significant financial success."

"Create a budget. Knowing where your money goes is empowering. Track your income and expenses."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today's episode, Loraine speaks to Carrie Bower on the topics of trauma, domestic abuse, and gender violence, particularly in regard to women in mid and later life stages. Carrie, who works in the aging sector and as a freelance trainer for Victim Focus, shares her passion for raising awareness about the pathologization of trauma in women affected by domestic abuse. 

Their discussion delves into the complexities of recognizing and addressing emotional and psychological abuse, the challenges faced by victims in seeking legal support, and the societal beliefs that perpetuate victim blaming. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The importance of raising visibility for women in mid and later life affected by trauma and domestic abuse was highlighted.

• Training and education are crucial in understanding and addressing trauma, particularly in cases of domestic abuse.

• Economic abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse are often hidden forms of abuse that need more awareness and support.

• The challenges faced by women in midlife and later life in escaping abusive relationships, especially when financial dependence is a barrier, were discussed.

• The need for societal awareness, professional training, and support systems to effectively address and prevent domestic abuse was emphasized.

BEST MOMENTS

"So many women in mid and later life who've been affected by any form of trauma, but domestic abuse specifically, will often receive a diagnosis of some sort of mental health condition."

"People learn to exert power and control in a variety of ways and it can be really insidious and drip by drip before you know it."

"Red flags are very easy to spot in hindsight or when you're in it, you know? It's mixed with love, isn't it?, and all that and an erosion of your confidence because they've done a great job at completely breaking you down."

"It's really insidious, I think. So there's the money, the humiliation, and there's a lot of different things that they can do." - Carrie Bower

"It's the training and the raising awareness and people and professionals as well to actually understand what the crime is and what the laws and what it's meant to be because otherwise you can't really help a person can you really."

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HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In this episode, Loraine considers the financial challenges which are faced by women after significant relationship endings; she refers to these ending as the three D's: Divorce, Death of a spouse or partner, and Discard after a narcissistic devaluation. Drawing from her personal experiences, Loraine discusses the emotional and financial hurdles that come with each of these situations, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's rights, seeking professional advice, and rebuilding credit. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Financial challenges after significant relationship endings can be emotionally and financially devastating, requiring time to rebuild and start over.

• Divorce is not just the end of a marriage but also a financial upheaval, involving legal fees, asset division, and lifestyle adjustments.

• The sudden death of a spouse can lead to immediate financial struggles, especially if the deceased was the primary breadwinner.

• Dealing with a narcissistic discard can involve financial control, hidden assets, and emotional trauma, necessitating legal protection and support.

• Seek professional advice, create a realistic budget, surround yourself with emotional support, protect your assets, rebuild credit, and utilize community resources to navigate financial challenges effectively.

BEST MOMENTS

"Financial challenges after significant relationship ending can be fraught with emotional fears, anxiety, grief, and in some cases, significant trauma."

"The worst possible scenario is to lose the main income earner leaving you in grief while you are also struggling to make ends meet financially."

"In cases of financial abuse, ensure that you take legal steps to protect your assets and credit."

"I have experienced three D's in relationship endings. Divorce. We separated. My choice to leave."

"For 30 years, Jane Monckton-Smith has been fighting to change this. A former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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In today’s episode, Loraine explores the question of how many ways there are to earn money. She delves into the concept of the cash flow quadrant, discussing the four quadrants - employed, self-employed, business owners, and investors. In this episode, she covers various income streams, including active, passive, and portfolio income, highlighting the importance of creating multiple sources of income for financial stability. Loraine also emphasizes the significance of diversification and empowering women through financial independence.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• There are four main ways to earn money according to the cash flow quadrant: E for employed, S for self-employed, B for business owners, and I for investors.
• Income streams fall into three categories: active, passive, and portfolio. Active income involves trading time for money, passive income comes from assets, and portfolio income is from investments.
• Having multiple income streams can provide financial stability and peace of mind, with the average millionaire having seven streams of income.
• Diversifying income sources is crucial for mitigating risk and ensuring financial resilience, especially in the face of unexpected disruptions.
• Financial independence is essential for everyone, particularly women, to combat systemic barriers and achieve empowerment, security, and the ability to pursue personal aspirations.
  
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BEST MOMENTS

"Income streams fall into three categories, active, passive and portfolio. Active income is time for money, working for yourself or an employer, starting a side hustle, providing a service, earning commissions and creating content around your passion."

"Having multiple income streams can give you peace of mind with your finances. When you aren't relying on one single job or investment for your money, most millionaires have several streams of income."

"Diversification not only mitigates risk but also unlocks opportunities for greater financial stability and flexibility. Relying solely on one income stream leaves individuals vulnerable to unexpected disruptions."

"Achieving financial independence is a vital pursuit of everyone regardless of gender. However, women should think seriously about their financial independence, even within the circumstances of marriage or relationships."

"By championing economic empowerment, women can challenge traditional gender norms, advocate for equality and pave the way for a more inclusive and equitable future."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.

A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

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