Ep65

Frustration…What a Challenge

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Hello and Welcome

to the Way of the Emotional Warrior Podcast.

My name is Kai Ehnes and today we will be answering the question of :

What lesson

or lessons can Frustration offer us?

I truly had

all good intentions of continuing my segment on love and The One for today’s

episode. However, I am experiencing quite a bit of frustration over the past

few days so I thought it might be of some value to dive into it a bit and see

how being an emotional warrior helps in these times.

Let’s start

with what frustration means. It starts with the feeling or state of being

frustrated. Ok circular logic only increases frustration. So what is

frustration? Psychology defines it as an emotional response to opposition. What

is this opposition? It has to do with our goals and our will not being

fulfilled or met. The research says that

the typical responses to either internal or external conflict are often anger, violence,

or passive aggressive behavior.

I often

mention David Hawkins’ work on the levels of consciousness. He assigns number

values to different emotions. 200 is the magic level that separates the lower,

often damaging emotions from the higher level positive helpful expanding

emotions. The definition of frustration shows that we easily get pulled or

pushed into the lower emotional levels.

Well, that’s

just great. You make a plan, execute the necessary tasks, lets say you even do

everything right and something externally blocks you. Let’s assume it’s a block

that you can not break down. The only choices are to stay or back up, or get

around.

Let’s go through

the options. First…you can stay put and keep running into the block. It will

not give, only you get hurt. Second you can go backwards. The only way I read

this option is that you end up hiding. Still the block remains. Blowing up the

block is not an option. What’s left is to get around it.

As an

emotional warrior, you have some tools available to you. First, do something

physical like a workout. Get your energy moving in a healthy constructive way.

With that edge of raw energy brought down a bit try going to the other side.

Practice heart-mind coherence. Find a place where you can be alone for a few

moments. Sit comfortably, take your hand (either one) and touch your chest where

your heart is, with your fingers. Now try to settle in and focus on the area

you are touching while breathing. Try to do it for 5 minutes. More if you can

do it.

This should

settle your system down so that you can take yourself from the red zone to a

calmer place.

Now…can

getting around this block bring something better? Sometimes the block may be

showing you something that has been broken or in need of attention but you were

not dealing with it. By problem solving from a heart-mind coherent place you

can come up with more creative and beneficial solutions.

Your mindset

is what you have control over. Your responses are something you have control

over. Maybe you can even get to the place, after you solve the block, where you

can address larger questions and issues in your life.

Yes we all

get frustrated. Going to the Red Zone of the lower emotions like anger and

violence are completely counter productive. We all have to deal with these

situations.

Remember

that you are an emotional warrior. Leave yourself clues to that mindset so that

when you get into crisis you can find yourself able to reach into your

emotional toolkit and move into positive constructive thoughts and behaviors.

When your

heart-mind grid is in coherence, you get master your emotional turbulences.

Good luck.

~Peace