#53: Wild Pregnancy & Free Birth - with Bec Oakaiah

In this raw and activating episode, I sit down with traditional birthkeeper Bec Oakaiah, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper, for a powerful conversation on wild pregnancy, freebirth and reclaiming physiological birth in a culture that has almost forgotten what women's bodies are capable of.

This is a conversation for any woman who is dreaming of pregnancy, preparing for conception, already pregnant, or simply feels a quiet pull that birth could be more wild, more holy, and more hers than the stories she's been given.

Together we dive into:

• The true meaning of wild pregnancy and freebirth beyond the online controversy

• How our own birth imprints become the first lens through which we experience life

• How hospital environments, timelines and authority can interrupt physiology

• The rising caesarean rates and why Bec believes this has "fuck all to do with physiology"

• Using the menstrual cycle as monthly ritual to clear fear and prepare for future rites of passage

• Why unpacking our birth stories, motherline and cultural conditioning matters long before labour

• How unprocessed fears in pregnancy often surface in labour if they're never fully met

• The importance of environment, food, rest, and who you invite into your birth space

• Authority dynamics in medical systems, and why so many women feel they "had no choice"

• Why no professional – midwife, doctor, doula or birthkeeper – is more of an expert on your baby than you are

• Walking with death as a companion through pregnancy, and birth as death-rebirth for mother, placenta and identity

• Postpartum as the true gestation of the Mother, and why postpartum planning is just as vital as "birth plans"

• How long healing can really take, and why sensitivity in the body is a feature, not a flaw

• Unpacking our relationship with authority as essential preparation if we choose to interact with the system at all

• Why Bec believes physiological birth is on the cusp of extinction – and what it means to be part of its reclamation

• Birth, miscarriage, abortion, postpartum and menstruation as one continuous feminine continuum of death–rebirth

About Our Guest, Bec, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper

Bec is a traditional birthkeeper rooted on England's Jurassic Coast. She midwifes the soul through holistic birth, death and all the thresholds in between. Her work centres on the liberation and protection of physiological birth, the remembrance of ancient and indigenous birth wisdom, and guiding women back to unshakeable trust in their own bodies, babies and inner authority.

She walks with women – especially first-time mothers – who are called to wild pregnancy, freebirth and home birth, and also tends to the wider field of birthworkers through education, mentorship and community devoted to the reclamation of birth as a rite of passage.

Connect with Bec

Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/becoakaiah/

Mother + holistic birthkeeper. remembering the ancient ways of sacred birth.

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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever bled, will one day birth, has birthed, has lost, or is simply remembering that her body was always designed for the wild, intelligent mystery of life moving through her.

In this raw, deeply intimate and important episode, I sit down with menstrual artist, feminine embodiment mentor, and founder of Sacred Woman, Jasmine Alicia Carter, for a profound conversation that lives at the intersection of the womb, death, rebirth, grief, power and feminine initiation.

Both myself and Jasmine experienced conscious abortions within the last two years. This episode is a rare and necessary dialogue, one that dissolves taboo, unravels shame, and opens a doorway into the spiritual, emotional, energetic and physical dimensions of abortion as a rite of passage.

This is a conversation for any woman who has walked this path, loves someone who has, or desires to understand the deeper feminine mysteries that live within the threshold between life and death.

Together we dive into:

• The untold emotional, spiritual and psychic landscape of conscious abortion

• How abortion can initiate a descent into the dark feminine, shadow, and underworld

• The difference between cultural guilt and true inner knowing

• Listening to the body's wisdom through pregnancy, grief, and choice

• How to navigate the polarity, projections, and judgments from family, culture, and community

• The mystical dimension of womb consciousness and feminine spiritual awakening

• Meeting death through the womb and returning to the mystery

• The role of ritual, prayer, blood offerings, and conscious completion

• How grief cycles through the womb over months and how to process it safely

• Why abortion is often the gateway that brings many women home to their womb for the first time

• Post-abortion care: nourishment, womb massage, steaming, sisterhood, ritual, and tending to the cervix

• How to relate to the spirit of the child with reverence, closure, and connection

• The importance of support, from partners, sisters, and bodyworkers, in healing the emotional and spiritual layers of the experience

• Abortion as an initiation into the maturity, depth, and power of the feminine

• How to reconnect with God, intuition, and personal truth through the process

• Why both Melissa and Jasmine see abortion, miscarriage, birth, and menstruation as part of the same feminine continuum

About Our Guest, Jasmine Alicia Carter

Jasmine is a menstrual artist, feminine embodiment mentor, mother, wife and founder of Sacred Woman, a global brand devoted to empowering women to return to holistic balance, womb-centered living, and embodied feminine truth.

She is also the creator of the Menstrual Art Movement, a nonprofit with thousands of women worldwide, and the owner of Sacred Woman Boutique, offering tools for sexual sovereignty and feminine awakening.

Connect with Jasmine Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jasminealiciacarter/ Sacred Woman Website — www.sacredwoman.com Menstrual Art Movement — @menstrualartmovement Sacred Woman Boutique — @sacredwomanboutique Abortion PDF: https://omniform1.com/forms/v1/landingPage/63ca7ff4243dfa1cf3aa6bde/68fb2eee2d00685cde953df8

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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever held life, released life, grieved life, or discovered herself through the womb's deepest mysteries.

In this delicious and deep conversation, Melissa is joined by her dear client, sister and fellow devotee of sacred sexuality, Sasha Lotus, for a sensual and soulful exploration of the link between sexuality and spirituality.

Sasha had just completed a one week 1:1 immersion with Melissa – 6 days of receiving Ceremonial Womb & Yoni Massage, aswell as womb healing work and somatic sexual healing with Melissa as her guide.

Together they dive deep into the energetic and physiological wisdom of the yoni, cervix, womb, and ovaries, and how pleasure becomes a pathway to God.

Melissa shares her experience of touching divine oneness through orgasm, plant medicine, and meditation, while Sasha opens up about her own sexual awakening and multidimensionality as a woman. The two discuss Yoni Massage, pleasure awakening and how sacred touch can faciliate deep healing in the female body.

• The mystical intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and God-union

• How pleasure and orgasm open the doorway to oneness and divine remembrance

• The spiritual anatomy and consciousness of the womb, cervix, ovaries, and Yoni

• Kundalini activation, energetic pleasure, and the multi-dimensional body

• The power of Womb & Yoni Massage for healing sexual trauma, grief, numbness, and shame

• The physiological and energetic benefits of cervical activation

• How the heart–womb connection shape female pleasure

• The importance of self-pleasure, self-massage, and loving devotion to the body

• The energetic and emotional intelligence of the feminine body

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In Part 2 of the powerful return episode of The Spiral Podcast, Melissa shares the most intimate chapters of her recent journey, from the medicine of a ceremonial abortion, through a year-and-a-half-long descent into the underworld, to her ecstatic rebirth into joy, wealth, love, and conviction.

She opens up about the lessons of conscious union, the unraveling of victimhood and control, and the sacred responsibility of birthing her two-year Womb Healer Training. With raw honesty, Melissa speaks on healing, surrender, womb wealth, and becoming the woman capable of holding her fullest mission. This is a vulnerable, unfiltered life update and a transmission of what it means to walk through death and resurrection with God at the center.

• The story of her accidental pregnancy and choosing a ceremonial abortion as spiritual initiation

• How the abortion opened a year-and-a-half dark night of the soul and identity death

• The medicine of surrender, trust, and letting go of control

• Healing postpartum with herbs, womb practices, and sisterhood support

• The unraveling of victim consciousness, scarcity, and addiction to struggle

• The role of mentorship and masterminds in catalyzing her growth

• The birthing of the two-year Womb Healer Training and becoming the woman to hold it

• Why womb healing and womb wealth are inseparable, and the importance of supporting healers to be well-resourced

• The joy of her multiple six-figure launch and deepened relationship with her beloved Frank

• Her 2025 words & intentions: Voice & Erotic Vitality

Instagram: @iammelissasanger Website: www.melissasanger.com

If this episode moved you, please leave a 5-star review, share it with a loved one, and tag Melissa on Instagram so she can celebrate with you!

In this Part 1 opening episode of the new season of The Spiral Podcast, Melissa returns after nearly three years to share a raw and vulnerable life update. She takes us through her journey of death and rebirth, from meeting her beloved Frank in Ecuador, to the profound initiation of a ceremonial abortion, to moving through a year-and-a-half-long dark night of the soul.

Melissa reflects on the recalibration that conscious union demands, the medicine of surrendering to the unknown, and the ecstatic rebirth that followed. She shares the story of how she and Frank met, the spiritual confirmations they both received, and the foundations of their relationship rooted in integrity, honesty, and truth. This episode is both a life update and a living transmission, an invitation to trust your own spiral journey and the timing of your becoming.

• Why the podcast has been rebranded as The Spiral and the vision for this new era

• The magical story of meeting her beloved Frank in Ecuador after six years of being single

• The synchronicities and plant medicine confirmations of their union

• Her journey through a conscious, ceremonial abortion and the identity death it sparked

• The descent into a year-and-a-half-long dark night of the soul and what she learned within it

• The importance of not rushing rebirth, but trusting the void and God's timing

• The foundations of her partnership: honesty, integrity, transparency, and devotion

• How language barriers and cultural differences became part of their initiation

• The medicine of choosing herself fully and falling in love with being single *before* meeting her partner

• The joy, vitality, and erotic aliveness she now feels on the other side of her initiation

• ...continued in Part 2!

Instagram: @iammelissasanger Website: www.melissasanger.com

If this episode moved you, please leave a 5-star review, share it with a loved one, and tag Melissa on Instagram so she can celebrate with you!

In Part 2 of the powerful return episode of The Spiral Podcast, Melissa shares the most intimate chapters of her recent journey, from the medicine of a ceremonial abortion, through a year-and-a-half-long descent into the underworld, to her ecstatic rebirth into joy, wealth, love, and conviction.

She opens up about the lessons of conscious union, the unraveling of victimhood and control, and the sacred responsibility of birthing her two-year Womb Healer Training. With raw honesty, Melissa speaks on healing, surrender, womb wealth, and becoming the woman capable of holding her fullest mission. This is a vulnerable, unfiltered life update and a transmission of what it means to walk through death and resurrection with God at the center.

• The story of her accidental pregnancy and choosing a ceremonial abortion as spiritual initiation

• How the abortion opened a year-and-a-half dark night of the soul and identity death

• The medicine of surrender, trust, and letting go of control

• Healing postpartum with herbs, womb practices, and sisterhood support

• The unraveling of victim consciousness, scarcity, and addiction to struggle

• The role of mentorship and masterminds in catalyzing her growth

• The birthing of the two-year Womb Healer Training and becoming the woman to hold it

• Why womb healing and womb wealth are inseparable, and the importance of supporting healers to be well-resourced

• The joy of her multiple six-figure launch and deepened relationship with her beloved Frank

• Her 2025 intentions: Voice & Erotic Vitality

Instagram: @iammelissasanger Website: www.melissasanger.com

If this episode moved you, please leave a 5-star review, share it with a loved one, and tag Melissa on Instagram so she can celebrate with you.

In this Part 1 opening episode of the new season of The Spiral Podcast, Melissa returns after nearly three years to share a raw and vulnerable life update. She takes us through her journey of death and rebirth, from meeting her beloved Frank in Ecuador, to the profound initiation of a ceremonial abortion, to moving through a year-and-a-half-long dark night of the soul.

Melissa reflects on the recalibration that conscious union demands, the medicine of surrendering to the unknown, and the ecstatic rebirth that followed. She shares the story of how she and Frank met, the spiritual confirmations they both received, and the foundations of their relationship rooted in integrity, honesty, and truth. This episode is both a life update and a living transmission, an invitation to trust your own spiral journey and the timing of your becoming.

• Why the podcast has been rebranded as The Spiral and the vision for this new season

• Meeting her beloved Frank in Ecuador after six years of singleness

• The magical synchronicities and plant medicine confirmations of their union

• Her journey through a conscious, ceremonial abortion and the identity death it sparked

• The descent into a year-and-a-half-long dark night of the soul and what she learned within it

• The importance of not rushing rebirth, but trusting the void and God’s timing

• The foundations of her partnership: honesty, integrity, transparency, and devotion

• How language barriers and cultural differences became part of their initiation

• The medicine of choosing herself fully before meeting her partner

• The joy, vitality, and erotic aliveness she now feels on the other side of her initiation

• ...continued in Part 2!

Instagram: @iammelissasanger Website: www.melissasanger.com

If this episode moved you, please leave a 5-star review, share it with a loved one, and tag Melissa on Instagram so she can celebrate with you.

Our guest today is a master coach for men, women, and couples. Stefanos helps to assist individuals in actualizing the fullness of their potentiality. In this episode we cover the misuse of divine masculine, understanding polarity, relationship alchemy, and arguing with a partner. We also speak about journeying through your shadow self and finding a deeper connection between men and women. Stefanos specifically gives a lot of beautiful information on how to best communicate with your partner and I am so excited to share this episode with you. Enjoy!

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Timestamps:

02:45 What was young Stefanos like?

05:39 What does the sacred masculine mean to Stefanos?

09:27 How does Stefanos create relationship alchemy?

15:30 Understanding relationship polarity

22:25 Stefanos shares wisdom around discovering your empowered self

27:41 How do you move past arguing into communication with a partner?

32:32 Some tangible ways to communicate with your partner

43:57 Three pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Stefanos would tell his younger self?

46:02 How to connect with Stefanos Sifandos

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With a name like Sexual Kung Fu I had to hear what Johnathan White had to say about sexual mastery. He is teaching the way in which a man separates ejaculation from sexual pleasure. Through Chi, Qigong, tantra, semen retention, and many other forms of energetic expression Jonathan gives so much valuable advice for men. He speaks on how mastering your sexual energy starts with the breath and releasing negative habits to give space for sexual life force. He also shares how redefining your words and relationship with sex will unlock your potential for full body orgasms. Listen in to sexual kung fu teachings in this episode.

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Timestamps:

02:00 Johnathan leads us through a drop in

04:45 What was Johnathan's younger life like?

11:13 How do we separate ejaculation from sexual energy?

18:40 What habits are required to increase your vibration for this practice?

23:12 Learning your own sexual energy first is key

26:20 When do you start to experience full body orgasms?

33:04 What dictates completion when you remove ejaculation from your experience?

37:58 How to circulate your sexual energy between two bodies?

41:43 Is it unhealthy for a man to not ejaculate for long periods of time?

48:26 Why connecting the heart to sex is crucial

57:20 How to connect with Johnathan

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Today I am speaking with Ian Wilkes. He is here to liberate the hearts and awakening of men. He has been peeling back the layers of this art form through tantra, yoga, and brotherhood. He helps men to feel safe and secure in their bodies by healing the nervous system and keeping in sacred intimacy. His dedication through brotherhood leads him to facilitate retreats all over the world to help men truly feel everything they are and break the patterns that no longer serve them. This and so much more.

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Timestamps:

02:15 Ian Guides us in with a meditation!

04:50 Who is Ian and how does he serve the world?

12:45 How brotherhood changed his path forever

18:45 How Ian works with the fatherhood wound

24:47 What does sacred masculine mean to Ian?

37:23 Discovering the self beyond "what you do"

40:42 How to get into the embodied king

51:31 What were the benefits stepping into his purpose?

57:17 How to find a healthy power for your life

1:02:18 Three pieces of fundamental masculine wisdom Ian would tell his younger self?

1:05:27 Where to find Ian

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