Most of the parents look at videogames as they were pure evil. The feeling of alienation and frustration comes from 2 different elements: memories, and misconceptions. Anger and frustration are fed by memories from past experiences. When you approach your child who is playing your "feeling library" search point out immediately towards anger, your mind starts producing "signs" towards your body.
That's why you probably feel a stomachache or headache. So you approach your kiddo with a heightened emotional state. You're going full "red alert" before saying or doing anything else. And before you realize it, you are blaming that "stupid" game again.
Because of misconception, as we read an article about somebody who did terrible things, or ended his life, that person also played video games! Video games caused all those things! We grasp the outdated patterns of parenting and going into a fight with our children, hoping they will understand this one day.
We might have won the fight but already lost the battle for love and deep connection with them in the future. Later we are wondering why they wanted to leave the family nest so early and eager... A few years later, we recognize the visits from our kids are decreasing. First, it's just the number of phone calls, family dinners. And only 1-2 events are left a year when we tend to see them again...probably on Christmas and/or funerals. Do you want to have this future for your child and yourself?! If not, click on the link and start your journey!
