Show Notes: In this episode I interview Dr. Garland Vance about how to free up your time and avoid the busyness trap. He is the author of Gettin’ (un)Busy, which Forbes named as “one of the seven books everyone on your team should read.” What is busyness? Why do you say busyness is killing us? [...]

173: Garland Vance – How To Get (un)Busy

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Intro:
Today's episode takes us on a deep dive into the transformation of the dating and pickup industry into what's now known as the red pill movement and beyond. We'll explore the nuances of male and female aging and discuss why it may be easier for older men to date younger women.
Robbie opens up about his initial skepticism toward self-help dating advice and how "The Game" by Neil Strauss sparked a pivotal change after a breakup. We'll hear riveting tales of Robbie's days partying it up in Eastern Europe, hosting soirees that painted the town red, and the introspective journey that led him from casual flings to finding fulfillment in coaching men on relationships and self-acceptance.
Touching on the delicate topic of men's belief in their ability to improve dating success, we will dissect perceptions, realities, and the pivotal "player zone." We share our own transformation from the world of casual relationships to searching for meaningful connections, echoing the collective journey many of us take.


Timestamps:

 00:00 Dating advice, pickup industry, and self-confidence discussion.
 08:33 Engaging in personal growth through landmark education.
  15:58 Learning to converse with women transformed me.
  18:16 Boosting masculinity through pickup strategies, but self-improvement.
  24:36 Lifestyle of partying and networking with models.
  30:55 Novelty of new experiences wore off, taxing.
  36:05 Experienced college flings, followed by self-discovery and dating.
  41:26 Internet pickup culture evolves into red pill movement.
  47:09 Lance Mason founded body language for dating.
  50:27 Confident body language reflects self-esteem, mirroring others.
  56:05 Involvement in esoteric teachings, skepticism, and disillusionment.
  01:03:12 Coaching, dating, and finding friends in Ukraine.
  01:07:45 Repeating toxic patterns in relationships, seeking counseling.
  01:12:17 Partying in Europe, with models and friends.
  01:15:51 Group of friends met at music festival.
  01:20:35 Online dating is tough, unless wealthy or seeking.
  01:25:17 2016 mystery involving derelict and chalkboard lesson.
  01:35:05 Using quotes for inspiration, friends, and motivation.
  01:40:44 Struggling with interviews, unclear about achievements.
  01:43:34 Encouraging review and invitation to exclusive community.



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The Evolution of Pickup to Purposeful Connections

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Intro:
Today, we'll be diving deep into a topic that touches many relationships - dealing with boredom. We all know that relationships can lose their initial spark as the lustre of new love fades. But what lies beyond the excitement? Can we find a richer, more nuanced form of connection?
In this episode about dealing with relationship boredom, we'll analyze the intricacies of long-term commitment and how the initial rush of passion can transform into a comforting sense of home and security. 
We'll hear from two of our clients as they navigate their own challenges, from anxiety over labeling a relationship to knowing when it's time to seek variety or move on to new horizons. 
And I'll share some of my personal journey from prioritizing sexual conquests to recognizing the value in deeper, more intellectual connections with partners.
We'll also explore how societal norms and mental health intertwine with our concepts of monogamy and commitment.
So, whether you find yourself pressured to define a relationship, wondering how to maintain attraction over time, or simply searching for ways to reinvigorate your partnership, this episode is tailored for you.


Timestamps:

 00:00 Navigating casual dating, monogamy, and relationships with women.
 05:17 Unwilling to address uncertain relationship and feelings.
  07:35 "I doubt I'll care much about family."
  12:37 Struggle with boredom, prefer monogamy for happiness.
  15:16 Wealth loses appeal; pursue meaningful experiences instead.
  19:00 Mutual commitment essential; communication and understanding vital.
  21:50 Humans tend towards polygamy with periods of monogamy.
  23:39 Overcoming lust and desire leads to freedom.
  29:26 Struggle with intimacy, find balance in rejection.
  32:55 Seek power through emotions, not just accomplishments.
  34:05 Transition from business success to personal fulfillment.
  36:52 Honor intelligent part, accept lack of knowledge.



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Bored with your partner? Discover if true joy lies in monogamy or beyond (Ep 267)

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Timestamps:

  00:00 She invited me, I made new friends.
  03:52 Reversing dating protocol leads to successful outcome.
  09:41 Puppy dog failure led to embarrassing outcome.
  10:52 Few slots open in exclusive men's community. Apply now.



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  Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to helping you build your inner confidence and achieve success! 
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Date Game Tactics: Navigating the Invite to Meet Her Friends on Date One or Two (Ep 266)

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  Guest Link: Ryan's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theryan.black/




Throughout this episode, we'll highlight the transformational potential of social freedom exercises and mindset shifts that go beyond traditional pickup strategies. We’ll encourage you to find power in vulnerability and build a social circle that reflects your true values. 
Together, we examine the fascinating dynamics between high-status men, "bad boy" images, and the pursuit of authentic connections. 
So, whether you're well-versed in the dating scene or simply seeking to enhance your social prowess, this episode promises a wealth of wisdom to help you foster genuine connections and move towards a life of inner confidence.


Timestamps:

  09:16 Differentiating between wants and needs, especially in dating.
  11:13 Traditional approach to social freedom and seduction.
  16:06 Dependence on others for self-worth is detrimental.
  21:11 Last minute parachute, thrilling but not transformative.
  28:59 Early negative experiences shaped my relationship views.
  36:44 Realization of copying others' experiences, social status.
  41:01 Signal fun, not seriousness, in dating life.
  43:08 Success in dating depends on personality type.
  49:37 Achieve success with $10K a month.
  54:41 Achieve high status, attract women, overcome fear.
  01:00:39 Life transformed through personal development program investment.
  01:07:25 Mystery method reinforces bad social conditioning.
  01:13:10 Be present, let subconscious guide interactions.
  01:15:11 Javier Bardem's character makes bold, clear advance.



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Ditching the Script: How Traditional Seduction Fails Men w/ Ryan Black (Ep 265)

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Today, we dove into the power of humor on first dates, the essential role of quality photos in online dating, and the subtle balance of sexuality and wit in crafting unforgettable profile prompts. We unpacked tips on personalizing that first message to stand out and the clever use of Instagram to connect and build a genuine social circle.


Timestamps:

 00:00 Building social circle key to dating success.
 05:59 Debate over online dating scripts and effectiveness.
  09:34 Personalize messages for better online dating success.
  10:09 Personalized content can be simple yet effective.
  16:18 Rare to be overly gamey, avoid sex talk.
  18:29 Playful spirit animal question leads to intimacy.
  20:47 Advising clients on innocent, fun conversation topics.
  25:19 2024 focus: Social media growth, join Instagram.
  28:39 Ideal online dating photos: attractive portraits, candid lifestyle.
  29:46 Scientific approach to online dating profile photos.
  34:02 Unique photo on dating profile creates curiosity.
  39:07 It's okay to have polarizing marketing prompts.
  41:10 "Instagram key for dating, showcasing high value."
  42:47 Online dating tips for dating Gen Z.
  47:21 Showing off on Instagram is better than in-person.
  49:55 Online dating is not the best strategy.
  52:42 Take courageous romantic risks to find love.



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173: Garland Vance – How To Get (un)Busy

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