Inner Confidence Podcast

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A girl told one of my guys she doesn't kiss on the first date. Twenty minutes later she was all over him in the elevator. She wasn't lying. She was telling him how she wants to be seen, not the rules for the night, and if he'd taken her literally he would have gone home with a hug and a "no chemistry."

This one is for guys who are getting dates and then losing them because they take everything she says literally. Real client stories: the law student who said "you're 10 years older, I'm probably not interested" and kissed him goodnight two hours later, "just as friends," the boyfriend line, what "I'm terrified" means in a text, and why the ick is way overblown.

It works both ways too. Watching what she does means listening when her body says no. If she pulls away, you back off, and when she says no, you stop. The guy who reads her is the least pushy guy in the room.

I finish with the 5-step method: let rule-sounding lines pass, yes-and the comments meant to rattle you, trust her body and her time, stop spiraling over single moments, and lead.

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Most guys pick one, the apps or approaching and whichever one they pick, they end up stuck, because each one on its own is missing half of what you need.

The apps are a texting gym. When a girl matches you, she's already said yes to something, so if you can't turn the match into a date, it's your texting. I break down the four mistakes that kill most chats: sending more than she does, running an interview, waiting too long to set it up, and asking instead of telling. "Would you maybe want to grab a drink sometime?" is a job application. "What's your week look like? I'm taking you out for drinks" is a man with a plan.

Approaching is a confidence gym. It kills the pedestal, makes rejection boring, and teaches you to lead, which is exactly what's missing on most app dates.

Your assignment: set up your profile, get five conversations going, and do three approaches this week.

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Ever seen a woman you wanted to talk to, felt your whole body lock up, and watched her walk away while you came up with reasons it wasn't the right moment? This episode is about why that happens and the only thing that actually fixes it.

Most guys want to stop being nervous first and then go approach. That order has never worked for anybody. The nerves last until you're comfortable, and the only thing that makes you comfortable is exposure. And here's the part almost every beginner gets wrong: the fear wears off before the skill shows up. You don't become calm and good at the same time. First the fear goes, then you get good.

I also break down the weasel, the voice that never says "don't, you're scared" but always has a smart reason this particular girl is a bad idea, plus the four things to do about it: warm up every time, decide your number at home, expect the adrenaline hangover, and don't do the early ones alone.

Your assignment: warm up, do three, write them down. Don't grade them. Just count them.

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If the apps have cost you confidence rather than dates, this one explains why.

Scott McKay has coached men since 2005 and met his wife on Match.com twenty years ago, back when online dating actually worked. He's not anti-app , his point is that the feedback the apps gave you was never real data about you.

Here's what happened. Around 2011, the correct advice was to swipe on everyone and sort it out later. So women opened the app to hundreds of likes from men who had never read their profile. She read that as hundreds of men choosing her, picked ten, and waited. Those ten never answered — they'd swiped on everyone too. You swiped on eighty women, heard nothing, and concluded something was wrong with you. Both sides were reading the same broken meter.

We get into AI-generated photos, why the Hinge founder quit his own app, and what Scott tells a guy who's deleting the apps this week - including why, after almost two decades of taking men out to talk to strangers, he has never once seen the rejection scene every guy is afraid of.

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Guest: Scott McKay - https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/

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Have you ever read a dating book, felt fired up for a week, then noticed nothing actually changed? Or you've got a shelf full of self-help books and the same results you had three years ago.

One of the guys in my community asked for an updated five-book list, so here are the five I'd hand a guy today — and why the order matters more than the list.

He put it best: when he first met me, he was trying to put icing on a shitty cake. Most guys want the texting rules and the date protocol right now. But if the cake underneath is bad, she tastes the cake eventually.

Beliefs, then the market, then purpose, then where your hope comes from, then execution. Plus a bonus book that has nothing to do with women, and how to use the list without turning reading into procrastination.

If you're looking for a book on opening lines, this isn't it.

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Have you ever felt like there's one thing about you that you can't change, your height, your race, your face, your age and that it's the reason none of this is working?

My guest is JT Tran, the Asian Playboy. Former aerospace engineer, 5'4", and coaching men for over 20 years. When he moved to LA, eHarmony refunded his membership because they couldn't find him a single match. At speed dating he ticked yes on every woman in the room and still got zero back.

We get into the Toronto students who swore women were racist against them, until it turned out to be a resting face that looked angry and a broke-student wardrobe. Plus why the best opener in the world fails if you don't believe it, how to turn an insecurity into your opener, and why having no women in your life is usually a symptom rather than the problem.

If you've built your whole understanding of dating around one thing you can't change, this one's for you.

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Website: https://www.theabcsofattraction.com

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Most dating advice tells you to keep female friends at arm's length. Don't get too close, don't be too available, don't become her emotional support guy.

Some of that is real, the friend zone exists. But that advice conflates two completely different things: orbiting a girl you're attracted to while doing her emotional labor, and actually having real female friends who are part of your social world.

I break down the four things genuine female friendships give you - social proof, warm introductions worth ten to fifty cold approaches, access you can't manufacture alone, and honest feedback you'll never get from women you're trying to impress. Plus how to be a cool friend without becoming a therapist, and a client story showing what changed over six months.

If cold approach and the apps feel like grinding, this one gives you a different lens.

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I've got a client worth over $15 million who was seriously looking into leg lengthening surgery over one OnlyFans girl. My guest Dean Raymond's take: that's just a belief and once a guy holds a belief like that, his brain filters out every piece of evidence that says otherwise.

Dean is 45, from a small village in the south of England, and was pushing 265 pounds at his heaviest. Natural introvert, shy, socially awkward. He ranks what makes a man attractive like this: emotional state first, then confidence and self-belief, then charisma, and last, game skill. Most guys work that list backwards and wonder why nothing moves.

We get into the guy with the perfect Instagram who turns out to be the biggest anti-climax of her life, why going out specifically to do day game puts you in the worst headspace to approach anyone, and why Dean still approaches at 45 in Spain, Miami, and Amsterdam.

If you've been fixing your photos and your jawline and still can't get a second date, this one's going to sting a little.

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Most guys who keep getting friend zoned think the problem is they're too nice. It's not. The problem is they're running the wrong business model - they're brokers.A broker makes himself useful, available, and helpful. He says yes to everything. And the moment she doesn't need what he's offering, he's gone. I break down the three forms of brokering that kill attraction, the three shifts that turn a broker into a product - a man women actually want to invest in and a real client story that shows exactly what the change looks like.If you've been doing everything right and still can't figure out why it doesn't translate into attraction, this one's for you.

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"Red pill cuck cope."That's the phrase my guest dropped halfway through this conversation and I haven't stopped thinking about it since.A girl doesn't write you back and you go looking for the reason why. And the reason you land on is always something you can't change. She only dates guys over six feet. There's no good women left in this city.It feels like analysis. What you're actually building is the exact excuse that stops you from talking to the next girl you see.My guest is Joe Ducard. At his heaviest he was just under 350 pounds, 19 years old, been with one girl in his life. He found this stuff while he was still that big, lost over 100 pounds, made Master Instructor at Love Systems, and has run his own coaching company for over a decade.We get into why his best friend is convinced women won't date guys under six feet, the one drop of poison principle for guarding your mindset, why you should never ask a girl why it didn't work out, why making guy friends right now is harder than getting dates, and the client who showed up with a 40-item checklist from another coach.If you've been consuming a ton of dating content and somehow feeling worse about your chances instead of better — this one's for you.───────────────────────────Connect with Joe: https://meetmoregirls.com

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