I would like to share a powerful technique with you, something that can change EVERYTHING in a split second. It’s deceptively simple and it’s something you can do anywhere, at any time. It does take a bit of practice to fully master, but after only a few tries you should be an old pro at it.

What is this amazing technique? BECOME WHAT YOU DESIRE. If you desire to be confident, become confident. If you desire to be successful, become successful. If you desire to be wealthy, become wealthy.

You may be furrowing your brow, wondering what the heck I’m talking about. Isn’t this the old “act as if” technique? Like “fake it until you make it”? Not quite.

What I’m proposing is an actual mental SHIFT. Not faking,

becoming. It seems like the same thing, but it’s vastly different.

When you “fake” something, you are aware that you are faking

it. You are an actor playing a role. You are not “becoming”

something or someone else; you are simply pretending to be

something or someone else. Therefore, you are not fully

invested in the process; therefore you do not receive the full

benefits.

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Have you ever noticed that confident people are also certain of their own worth? Not only do they have the confidence to follow their dreams, they know with certainty that they deserve the good things they seek.

As you build your confidence and get reconnected with your inner self, your self-worth should begin to grow in proportion also. However, there are things you can do to help the process along.

As you build your confidence, you’ll notice your self-worth increasing also. As you focus on increasing your self-worth, your confidence will also grow. As you focus on expanding your vision, you’ll begin to believe in your capabilities more, and you’ll begin trusting yourself more, and you’ll feel a deeper connection to your inner self beginning to blossom – and on and on it goes! Doing any and all of these activities will result in growth and healing in the other areas too.

 

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Trusting Yourself 

The exercises in the previous two sections were meant to help rebuild some trust in yourself again. When we fall out of touch with our inner selves, an unsettling sense of distrust begins to brew beneath the surface. We feel wary of this inner awareness, and think we know better about what is best for us (that’s the ego talking). Eventually we begin to ignore the hunches and gut feelings that would otherwise be a great asset in our lives. 

As you begin to spend more time with yourself and reconnect with your inner power, and as you begin to honestly assess your strengths and abilities, you begin to feel more in tune with your authentic self. Little by little you begin to trust her or him again, and rebuild the bonds that form a stable inner foundation. 

Over time, you realize that your inner self is not your enemy but your greatest ally. You begin to understand that any failures or blockages you experienced were a direct result of the disconnection from your inner self, and you commit to bridging the gap you created. 

Throughout this process you may face some challenges, scary moments when you aren’t sure if you can trust your inner self. 

Perhaps you’ll feel a nudge to move in a certain direction and then have doubts about whether it’s a genuine insight or wishful thinking. Or you might feel confused and scattered, still unsure what your inner self is trying to convey to you. 

The best way to overcome these initial challenges is to keep testing the strength of your connection. Start with something small, like asking your inner self to guide you in your decision- making during the upcoming day. Then as you are faced with choices during the day, pause for a moment and turn your attention inward as you consider your options. See if you feel any physical sensations about a particular choice. Does your gut tighten with anxiety when you consider making a move? Or do you feel an inner urging to choose a certain option? If you feel comfortable trusting these hunches, do so. You might be surprised by how accurate your initial hunches are. 

If you do experience problems when you trust your intuition, simply keep working at it. It may seem frightening at the beginning, but in very short order you should be feeling much more confident about making decisions, and you should notice that your choices are becoming wiser and more beneficial every day. 

Besides strengthening your natural inner guidance moment to moment, you should also focus on learning to trust your higher self to know what is best for you in the grand scheme of things. Too often we allow others to direct our lives because it’s easier than forging our own path. We’re afraid to upset someone, or offend them, or hurt their feelings, so we let go of controlling our own lives and let them do it for us. 

As well-intentioned as those people may be, they do not know better than we do what is best for us. The choices they make for us can be unfulfilling, misleading or downright dangerous. 

Make it your mission to trust your inner voice. Again, the more time you spend getting reacquainted with yourself, the more quickly you will gain a greater understanding of who you are and what you really want in your life. 

If you find yourself struggling to rebuild trust with your inner self, consider doing a simple exercise to get the ball rolling: Write a letter of apology to your inner self. 

An apology for what, you ask? If you’ve ever put yourself down because you weren’t good at something, or belittled yourself, berated yourself, or gotten angry at yourself; if you’ve ever insulted yourself or thought little of yourself, or called yourself “stupid,” or refused to honor yourself in any way, you have set a cycle of destruction in motion within yourself. 

Writing a letter of apology to your inner self can help reverse the process and get things moving in a p...

Affirming Your Abilities 

Now that you have a clear idea of your strengths, it’s time to begin affirming your abilities. This may seem like the same thing, but it’s quite different. Your strengths are things you are naturally good at, or have become good at. Your abilities are all about your POTENTIAL. 

One major step in building your confidence is becoming aware of your potential for growth. The exercise of writing down your strengths was a good start and likely gave you an insight into your capabilities. Now you need to explore these capabilities a bit further. 

Take another sheet of paper and write down everything you’ve ever attempted (not just succeeded at, but anything you’ve simply TRIED to do). Your list can include the obvious things like walking, cooking, driving, dancing, dating, eating, drinking, working, swimming, and so on. Also include the things you may have tried only once like skydiving, singing, marriage, business, and so on. 

After you’ve written down everything you can think of, look over your list and make a checkmark next to the things in which you’ve experienced success. Even if you were only slightly successful at something, or you only tried it once and it wasn’t a complete disaster, check it. 

(NOTE: Did you know that one definition of success is “a favorable result”? That insight changes your perspective a little, doesn’t it? You’ve probably been successful more than you realized.) 

Now look at your list again. Are the majority of the items on the list checked? I bet they are. Why do you think that’s important? Because it means that simply TRYING something (once or more than once) will result in a certain measure of success. It means you’re not as stupid or ineffective as you may have thought. If you were even moderately successful at the items on your list, doesn’t it follow that you could be successful at other things too? When you really get this, it’s a HUGE insight. 

Now – what if you only have a couple of items checked off, and the rest are unchecked? 

First, reconsider whether you are being too hard on yourself. Is your concept of success in balance? Success doesn’t have to mean perfection. If you were able to do well at something (even slightly well), or receive any kind of favorable result from it – that is success! 

Let’s expand a bit on what is meant by “favorable result”. This doesn’t have to be exclusive to external results. It can absolutely include favorable internal results. Here’s a good example of a favorable internal result: Let’s say you had to give a presentation at work and you were terrified of public speaking. You knew you couldn’t back out of giving the presentation, so you forced yourself to do it. Even if you completely bombed and the presentation was terrible, you would still probably feel a sense of pride that you did it at all! Facing a fear is absolutely a favorable result! 

Secondly, understand that the number of items checked off on your list doesn’t matter a bit. Even if you only have one item checked off, it still stands to reason that if you were successful at ONE THING, you can be successful at others. 

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Honoring Your Strengths 

The more aware of your inner self you are, the more easily you’ll be able to recognize and honor your strengths. By “strengths” I mean the things you are naturally good at, or you’ve become good at through repetition. 

Honoring your strengths is an important part of building your confidence, because your confidence is often based on your perception of your capabilities. If you believe you’re good at communication, you will approach all communication with a high level of confidence. If you believe you stink at athletics, you’ll give them less effort because deep inside you’ll have a little voice telling you not to bother. 

Recognizing your strengths can be challenging if you don’t already have strong self-confidence, because your belief in your abilities is likely low. Even if you do have talent in a certain area, you may not believe you do – so you won’t see it as an asset. What you need to do is start small. 

First, get a clean sheet of paper and a pen, and begin by writing down anything you think you may be naturally good at. Don’t worry if you’re not great at it, just focus on things you can do marginally well for now. List things that seem to come easily to you, or things you feel pretty confident doing. (Examples: sports, organization, writing, event planning, photography, computer gaming, etc.) 

Next, write down anything you’ve become somewhat experienced in, like things you’ve had to do in your job, or activities you’ve gained a certain level of mastery over. (Examples: driving, accounting, dancing, juggling, salesmanship, customer service, etc.) 

Are you surprised that your list isn’t as empty as you feared? It’s going to get better! 

Now, write down your positive character traits, things you believe yourself to be. (Examples: kind, friendly, loving, trusting, patient, etc.) 

Look back over your list for a moment. Pay particular attention to the activities you’ve mastered as you did them over and over. 

Here’s the million-dollar question: If you were capable of learning and excelling at these activities, aren’t you capable of mastering others too? Of course you are! 

Are you feeling a bit more optimistic about your potential now? Are you beginning to see that by expanding your beliefs and honoring your strengths, you can achieve nearly anything you desire? 

As you get into the habit of honoring your strengths and stretching your limits, little by little your confidence will begin to grow. Eventually the process becomes much easier, because the more confidence you have, the more quickly you can build more. 

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Unshakable Self-Confidence 

Confidence is one of those things that seem like a catch-22. If you don’t already have a certain measure of self-confidence, it’s difficult to become more confident. Don’t you need inner strength in order to build your confidence? It may seem so at first glance, but fear not. This guide will walk you through a simple process to build your confidence. (And it will be easier than you think!) 

Connecting With Your Inner Power 

At a basic level, an unconfident person is someone who has lost touch with his or her inner power. How do I know? Because your inner power is where confidence comes from. 

If I asked you to describe yourself, you’d likely start with a physical description, or perhaps mention some of the roles you play in daily life, like mother, wife, brother, employee, business owner, and so on. But those things are not who you ARE, they are what you DO. 

The person you are is the very essence of your being. This being might be called your soul, your higher self, or your authentic self. The label isn’t important – just the acknowledgement that you are more than the physical person reading these words right now. 

Your inner essence is wise, powerful, and all-knowing. He or she has a keen intuition and a bottomless inner reservoir of strength. This part of you has a complete understanding of your true potential and constantly tries to bring it to your attention. 

If you’re like the majority of people, you haven’t been listening. You probably identify more with your physical self than your inner self, and you probably focus more on your outer life than your inner life. (I can imagine you asking with surprise, “I have an inner life?” ☺) Yes you do; we all do. 

However, in this modern age of noise and busy-ness, it’s extremely easy to get distracted by external influences and lose touch with our inner power. At first this doesn’t seem to affect us much, if at all. We still continue on with our daily lives, working and playing, taking care of obligations and responsibilities. As time goes on, we may notice that we feel a little more “spacey” and a little less in tune with our lives. Our inner voice (intuition, if you will) seems to dim and grow distant so we can barely hear it anymore. If we ignore these warning signs, they usually grow in intensity – until eventually we feel completely out of touch, confused, fatigued, weary, and powerless over our lives. We realize too late that we’ve forgotten who we once were. 

However, all is not lost! It is very simple to reconnect with your inner self, tap into your inner power, and blast your self- confidence through the roof. When you do, you will be able to create a life of such passion, joy and purpose that you’ll be sure not to repeat the mistakes that led to your disconnection in the first place. 

In order to reconnect with your inner power, you need to take a little trip to the very heart of yourself. You need to turn away from outer distractions on a regular basis so you can be reunited with your authentic self. (You’ll be surprised to learn that this process doesn’t take a lot of time, so don’t let the words “on a regular basis” throw you off track.) 

There are several ways to reconnect, and all of them involve spending some quality time alone. Here are a few good ways to start: 

A new spiritual awakening is occurring in human culture, an awakening brought about by a critical mass of individuals who experience their lives as a spiritual unfolding, a journey in which we are led forward my un explained coincidences.

Synchronicity is the entry point, the measure of whether we are connected spiritually. These meaningful coincidences are tiny miracles steering us toward the good life.

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Five core values that I hold that helps define my Spirituality are honesty, authenticity, openness, love and the requirement to evolve. Theses are values that I have learned in my experiences in life and through meditation as well as reading books from some of my favorite authors.

First you must be honest with yourself and your reality and every detail in it. That means accepting the things that are hard to accept, be honest with yourself about your faults that may have a negative impact on your spiritual growth.

Second is authenticity. When you are honest with yourself you can begin to be authentic with yourself. To be authentic is to know your desires, needs and intentions and from where your impulse originates from.

Third is openness. The authentic self knows that to become more refined, one must be open to new experiences. Openness an important aspect to living authentically.

Fourth is love. Love is a force that has been described in many cultures as the most powerful emotion of humanity. Honesty allows you to see yourself for who you really are. Authenticity helps you live in a manner so you can pursue a resonating path. Openness grants you the ability to interpret more information. Love allows you to harmonize with your environment. It is by expanding your capacity to love that you grow to your highest levels of enlightenment. Love is positivity, and brings your reality to a higher vibration. Love allows for new opportunities to grow.

Fifth is self evolving. There is a need to continuously evolve. The first four core values will only get you so far. It is your duty to course yourself to evolve on as many planes as possible. By doing this you will gain higher level of consciousness that opens the door to manifestations.

Click Here for a pdf core value work sheet to help you define your personal core values.

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The only thing holding you back from awakening is your lack of knowledge about who you are.

You feel that your life has no purpose, and you’re probably right. You think you deserve more, and you are right.

When you discover you Spiritual Core Values you discover, everlasting energy and motivation. When you discover you core values you discover a new sense of direction that gives you meaning and purpose. You will have the ability to make choices aligned with your deepest core.

Abundance Acceptance Accountability Achievement Advancement Adventure Advocacy Ambition Appreciation Attractiveness Autonomy Balance Being the Best Benevolence Boldness Brilliance Calmness Caring Challenge Charity Cheerfulness Cleverness Community Commitment Compassion Cooperation Collaboration Consistency Freedom Love Adventuress Willingness Kindness Integrity Passion  Authenticity Loyal Beauty Gratitude  Independent Helpful Peace Power  Success

 

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Edward and I have an impromptu conversation about intuition. (Some Adult Language Used)

Intuition is the ability to acquire knowledge without recourse to inference or conscious reasoning. Different writers give the word “intuition” a great variety of different meanings, ranging from direct access to unconscious knowledge, unconscious cognition, inner sensing, inner insight to unconscious pattern-recognition and the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning.

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