Everyone says they’re protecting kids. But what does real protection look like?

Inspired by elephants during a San Diego earthquake, this episode offers a five-part “elephant test” for adults on all sides of the gender-affirming care debate. Whether you're supporting or opposing care, are you truly protecting the children you claim to defend?

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Why is gender-affirming care expected to be flawless when no other area of medicine is? In this episode, we unpack what “perfection” really means in this context—the idea that even one bad outcome is treated not as an individual case to learn from, but as evidence that the entire system is broken.

In most areas of medicine, unusual outcomes are examined as outliers. But with gender-affirming care, those rare exceptions often overshadow the thousands of positive, life-saving experiences. We explore how that double standard fuels fe

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The common misuse of the term “Spanish” to describe any Spanish-speaking patient stuck with me—and years later, it became the perfect analogy for a much deeper misunderstanding: the difference between sex and gender. In this episode, I explore why definitions matter and how neither public opinion nor executive orders change the biological and social realities these terms represent.

What happens when the facts stay the same, but the language—and the laws—don’t?

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In this special episode, I step away from my usual format to share a personal story that lives at the intersection of visibility, history, and love.

What does it mean for a young transgender person to see themselves reflected in the world? And how can families, even those who don’t share the same identity, offer connection through shared learning?

Join me at my computer—literally—where years ago, I sat with someone I love and explored the lives of transgender pioneers. This quiet act became a powerful bridge between past and future, between uncertainty and pride.

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We all know numbers can be misleading—but what happens when distorted facts are used to justify taking away people’s rights?

In this episode, I break down some of the most common narratives used to stir fear and confusion about transgender people—from bathrooms to sports to military service. Many of these stories aren’t just misleading—they’re factually incorrect. Still, they continue to shape public opinion and policy.

Rather than offer quick answers, this episode invites you to look more critically at how information is presented. Because when it comes to transgender rights, the truth often gets buried beneath sensational headlines and selective storytelling.

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A recent change to Homeland Security policy has raised serious concerns for transgender individuals and their families. In this episode, we explore how the removal of gender identity from protected categories could impact privacy, safety, and trust—both in society and within medical spaces.

For healthcare providers, this shift isn’t just political—it directly affects patient relationships and the information patients feel safe disclosing. We’ll discuss what physicians need to know, how past policies have already harmed transgender patients, and what you can do to maintain trust in your practice.

Are you thinking differently about medical privacy after this episode? Listen now and share your thoughts.

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When discussing transgender girls in sports, accuracy matters. No matter your stance, one correction is essential: transgender girls are not "boys playing girls’ sports." This distinction isn't just about respect—it’s about scientific accuracy.

In this episode, I break down why this mislabeling is biologically incorrect and how it has fueled broad bans on transgender athletes. I also discuss recent research on physical differences among transgender and cisgender athletes and why precise language is crucial in both science and policy.

📝 Correction: The study mentioned in this episode was published in April 2024, not October 2024 as stated.

📖 Referenced Study:
Hamilton B, Brown A, Montagner-Moraes S, et al. Strength, power and aerobic capacity of transgender athletes: a cross-sectional study. British Journal of Sports Medicine. 2024;58:586-597.

Listen now and share with colleagues—because integrity in medicine starts with getting the facts right.

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Does Your Hospital System Need to Reassess?

Sex markers are everywhere in healthcare—from ID bracelets to patient boards—but does their constant presence actually help deliver better care? Or does it do more harm than good? In this episode, I challenge the assumption that displaying sex everywhere improves patient care. You’ll learn how this overlooked detail leads to misgendering, incorrect assumptions about anatomy, and discomfort for many patients—cis and trans alike.

It’s time for a reassessment. What would happen if we only displayed sex where it’s truly needed? Listen in to explore how a simple change could improve patient experience and medical excellence.

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Think your department has gender competency covered? What if the very confidence that you're "good" is the biggest red flag?

In this episode, I break down the common pitfalls of assuming gender competency is a one-and-done achievement. How do you measure real progress? What’s missing when your efforts aren’t reflected in patient experiences—or even on your website?

Listen in to challenge assumptions, adopt a growth mindset, and discover how improving gender competency benefits all patients. Because medical excellence requires continuous learning.

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When an executive order threatens gender-affirming care, emotions run high—for patients, families, and providers alike. It’s easy to feel frustrated, villainized, or even ready to walk away. But how do you stay committed to your values when the system makes it harder to do so?

Whether you directly provide gender-affirming care or simply support those who do, this episode offers insight into navigating frustration, staying grounded, and continuing to advocate for transgender and nonbinary patients. 

I also share a helpful resource: the Mindful Healers Podcast with Jessie Mahoney, MD (https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast).

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