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In this episode of Wedded Wednesday, Pastor Don and Lisa Smith tackle one of the most famous—and most difficult—verses in Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:4 – "Love is patient, love is kind."
It sounds simple. But in the daily grind of marriage, patience and kindness are often the first things to go—especially with the one person we're closest to.
🎭 The Hollywood Trap
Lisa opens up about how soap operas and romanticized Hollywood love stories gave her an unrealistic picture of marriage—all roses, flowers, and grand gestures, with none of the real-life frustrations. That false image left her feeling unappreciated and dissatisfied. The truth? Real love is lived out in the messy, ordinary moments—not just the picture-perfect ones.
🤔 The Real Question
Don flips the script: The question isn't "Is my spouse patient and kind with me?" The question is:
"Am I patient and kind to my spouse?"It's easy to point fingers. It's hard to look in the mirror.
🧠 Why Is Impatience So Natural?
Lisa nails it: "We were born selfish people." Impatience comes naturally because we insist on getting our own way. But genuine love requires intentionality—putting your spouse's needs ahead of your own.
Don points out that if you think of two couples—one with a great marriage and one that's struggling—the major difference is usually this: the thriving couple has developed a genuine practice of being patient and kind.
🛠️ The "Stranger" Problem
Here's a convicting truth: We are often more patient and kind to strangers than we are to our own spouses. Why? Because familiarity breeds complacency. We get so used to each other that we start dismissing each other. The ones closest to us should get our best, not our leftovers.
💡 This Week's Challenge
Sit down with your spouse and discuss practical ways you can show real patience and kindness to each other. But here's the key:
- Ask your spouse what patience and kindness actually look like to them. (Hint: Love languages matter! Don is words of affirmation; Lisa is acts of service.)
- Don't get offended when your spouse shares—receive it as a request, not a criticism.
- And if you're the one sharing, be gentle in how you say it.
As Lisa puts it: "Marriage is about being intentional with all our actions."
🎧 Tune In
Pull up a chair, grab a cup of coffee, and join Pastor Don and Lisa for Wedded Wednesday—a weekly coffee date for your marriage. Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms. Don't forget to share, subscribe, and check the show notes for ways to support the show!
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In this episode of Wedded Wednesday, Pastor Don and Lisa Smith tackle one of the most famous—and most difficult—verses in Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:4 – "Love is patient, love is kind."
It sounds simple. But in the daily grind of marriage, patience and kindness are often the first things to go—especially with the one person we're closest to.
🎭 The Hollywood Trap
Lisa opens up about how soap operas and romanticized Hollywood love stories gave her an unrealistic picture of marriage—all roses, flowers, and grand gestures, with none of the real-life frustrations. That false image left her feeling unappreciated and dissatisfied. The truth? Real love is lived out in the messy, ordinary moments—not just the picture-perfect ones.
🤔 The Real Question
Don flips the script: The question isn't "Is my spouse patient and kind with me?" The question is:
"Am I patient and kind to my spouse?"It's easy to point fingers. It's hard to look in the mirror.
🧠 Why Is Impatience So Natural?
Lisa nails it: "We were born selfish people." Impatience comes naturally because we insist on getting our own way. But genuine love requires intentionality—putting your spouse's needs ahead of your own.
Don points out that if you think of two couples—one with a great marriage and one that's struggling—the major difference is usually this: the thriving couple has developed a genuine practice of being patient and kind.
🛠️ The "Stranger" Problem
Here's a convicting truth: We are often more patient and kind to strangers than we are to our own spouses. Why? Because familiarity breeds complacency. We get so used to each other that we start dismissing each other. The ones closest to us should get our best, not our leftovers.
💡 This Week's Challenge
Sit down with your spouse and discuss practical ways you can show real patience and kindness to each other. But here's the key:
- Ask your spouse what patience and kindness actually look like to them. (Hint: Love languages matter! Don is words of affirmation; Lisa is acts of service.)
- Don't get offended when your spouse shares—receive it as a request, not a criticism.
- And if you're the one sharing, be gentle in how you say it.
As Lisa puts it: "Marriage is about being intentional with all our actions."
🎧 Tune In
Pull up a chair, grab a cup of coffee, and join Pastor Don and Lisa for Wedded Wednesday—a weekly coffee date for your marriage. Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms. Don't forget to share, subscribe, and check the show notes for ways to support the show!
Support the show