A big part of being more boundaried is knowing the difference between doing things from a place of desire versus doing them from a place of obligation. Natalie shares the insights she learned from a recent decision where she's deviated from her own and other people's expectations. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Ep. 268: Get Out of the Field of Shoulds by Choosing Desire Over Obligation

All humans have emotional baggage, and yet, so many of us are unaware of what we're carrying until we hit a low point, experience a health crisis, or recognise that we're in a painful pattern with our relationships or how we feel about and treat ourselves. 

Natalie Lue expands her popular blog Baggage Reclaim into podcast form with a weekly show about how to live and love with more self-esteem by unpacking, decluttering and tidying up our excess emotional baggage. It's time to reclaim yourself and experience more love, care trust and respect.

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In the final episode of the podcast, Natalie is joined by her husband Em where they chat, answer listener questions, and say goodbye to this show which has been such a huge part of her life.  Natalie's Substack The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want is out now. Purchase it from your favourite bookseller. Shownotes

Ep. 278: The One Where We Say Goodbye

Natalie shares some of the realisations she's made after making a big decision. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want 

Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop

New Year, New No! Natalie shares quick reminder that The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes To the Life You Want (HarperCollins/Harper Horizon) comes out this month and that when you pre-order on or before the 9th January 2023, you get her online course, Reclaim Your Work Boundaries worth £195/US$240, plus an exclusive bonus episode included.  Pre-order at Amazon, Waterstones, Bookshop.org, Barnes & Noble, Indigo and more.  Ordered your book? Claim your bonuses by forwarding your receipt to book@thejoyofsayingno.com More info at thejoyofsaying.no.com Release dates: 4th January, Australia and New Zealand, 10th, U.S. and Canada, 19th, UK and Ireland. 

Get a bonus online course when you pre-order The Joy of Saying No

In the final episode of 2022, Natalie shares a deleted chapter from her forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No. She breaks down how, to escape the chains of the roles we play and trying to keep up with our and other people's often unrealistic expectations and projections, we might act out behind the scenes, go rogue on the version of ourselves that people have come to expect from us, lash out, or experience the toll of the chronic stress of our people-pleasing habit. Pre-order The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want in audiobook, hardback, and ebook formats. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/joy-of-saying-no-book/ Not sure what "pre-order" means and why it matters? Check out my handy video.

Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing

Natalie explains why our biggest imperative post-breakup isn't to be bosom buddies with our ex and how we don't need to force ourselves to be friends if we're not ready yet or we don't *want* to.

Ep. 268: Get Out of the Field of Shoulds by Choosing Desire Over Obligation

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