Natalie chats with Toni Jones, founder of Shelf Help book club and author of "You: A Beginner's Guide." They explore the shame stories we carry from childhood, why doing self-help in community matters, learning to hear your inner wisdom, and how slowing down creates space for life-saving decisions.

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Natalie explores life's inevitables — stress, conflict, criticism, disappointment, loss, and rejection — and explains why trying to avoid them is what's really keeping you stuck. She breaks down each one, what it signals, and how facing them is where real self-esteem is built.

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Natalie answers a question that weighs on lots of us: "How do I know if I can trust people?" She breaks down what trust actually means, why ease can feel suspicious when you're used to struggle, the difference between healthy and unhealthy familiar, and why safe people don't feel entitled to your trust or brush off your discomfort.

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Natalie shares what she's learned from managing her fear of disapproval, criticism, and conflict. Where it comes from, how it plays out, and how to shift your relationship with these inevitable parts of life. She shares four key reframes and practical guidance on what to do when criticism actually happens.

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Natalie talks with psychologist Suzy Reading about her book "How to Be Selfish" and reclaiming the right to self-care and self-advocacy. They explore childhood conditioning, toxic resilience messaging, why resentment signals guilt and obligation, and how depletion serves no one while replenishment serves everyone.

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Natalie explores resentment as a signal from your body that you've crossed your own boundaries. She shares two personal stories - one where resentment led to a necessary conversation, another where it didn't show up at all - and explains what to do when resentment appears in your life.

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Natalie talks with coach Gabrielle Treanor about ADHD in midlife, particularly for quieter, introverted women who don't see themselves in stereotypical presentations. They explore late diagnosis, shame, coping mechanisms, grief, and why understanding your brain differently is about self-acceptance, not excuses.

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Natalie explores 'jumping the shark' moments in relationships, those incidents of disrespect or disconnect that signal the beginning of the end.

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Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. In this minisode, Natalie talks about the issue of wanting to go back to the beginning of a relationship instead of recognising the reality of who we're involved with and what that might mean.

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Break The Cycle

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