Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness, and it’s one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It’s also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.

This week, I’m breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it’s making a claim it can’t possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn’t.

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Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393

Join me on May 14th for a new, free training: Safety Is an Inside Job.

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Why emotional safety is the key to breaking through blocks on the road to your goals, and how to create radical transformation in your life more quickly.

Why your brain has a panic button in the first place, and why it can get louder despite everything else you’ve tried.

An exercise you can do when your brain starts hitting the “DANGER!” alarm so you can get yourself back to clarity and confidence sooner.

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Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship!

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

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Are you stuck in thought patterns, habits, or emotional cycles you can’t break, even though you know they’re not serving you? I promise that it’s possible to pursue your goals without your brain putting you in fight or flight as soon as you start taking serious steps. And that's what I'm teaching you how to do in my new, free training coming up: Safety Is an Inside Job.

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After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.

In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.

For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391

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Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they’re holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It’s simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself.

Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390