Welcome to Untangle I’m Patricia Karpas. Today’s guest is Dr, James Cordova, author of the book, The Mindful Path to Intimacy. Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner. James is a Professor of Psychology at Clark University and the Director of the Relationship Checkup Program in Worcester, Massachusetts. In this interview we discuss what it actually takes to maintain intimacy over time.

When we begin a relationship, it’s pretty darn wonderful,.. but as many of us know AS the years go by, the rough patches begin to crop up. We become vulnerable. More real. The prickly porcupine stages come. THIS is when it becomes really important to learn how to be emotionally skillful. How to navigate emotional triggers with self-awareness, wisdom and compassion. How to be truly present with one another. To listen deeply. to understand the impact we’re having on our partner even if it’s not our intention. And to practice repair after conflicts. 

We often forget to do much of this…or it can easily take a back seat to busy schedules. 

He emphasizes the importance of regular relationship check ups…just like our annual healthcare physicals.

Cordova provides insights into navigating the complexities of intimacy with lots of practical tools to help us connect with ourselves and our partners on a deeper level.  

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Welcome to a special edition of Untangle, Meditation Mondays. We’re taking this time to share meditations from our sister app, Meditation Studio. We know that life gets messy and, when it does, Meditation is here to help us find a sense of calm and inner peace. Whether you’re facing daily work or relationships stress, unexpected challenges, or just want to improve focus, we hope meditation Monday’s will be your go to for a weekly guided meditation treat. And if you’re craving more…which I always do…the Meditation Studio app offers over 800 expert-guided meditations from over 75 of the world’s top meditation experts.

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Welcome to an encore edition of Untangle in honor of Valentines day. Many of us spend hours in the gym, or reading books on personal growth, or at mindfulness retreats working on getting stronger and healthier emotionally and physically. BUT, when it comes to working on our relationships, we simply HOPE that our feelings about our romantic partner will magically freeze in that exciting cocoon of the first year we’re together. 

Suzann Pileggi, co-author of "Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love that Lasts," shares what it takes to really grow and deepen love. She provides insights on the connection between our overall happiness and our most important relationships.

Check out Suzann's website at www.buildhappytogether.com.

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Today we’re learning about love with Best-selling Author, Counselor, and Personal Development Leader Thais Gibson. Thais’ most recent book is called Learning Love: Build the Best Relationship of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory.

In this discussion, we learn all about attachment theory and how our early family relationships impact our attachment styles AND how this can impact our relationships later in life. She describes each attachment style, shares how we can reprogram our core wounds, how to identify our emotional triggers and how to communicate our needs and boundaries to our partners. All really important stuff! We definitely have the capacity to change if we become more conscious of what’s driving our behaviors. That’s great news. I learned a lot. I felt like the discussion was a mix of ted talk and a micro dose of therapy. I think you’ll enjoy what she has to say.

Learn your Attachment Style: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_source=google-search&utm_medium=cpc-lead&utm_campaign=18002521894&utm_term=&gc_id=18002521894&h_ad_id=627022430545&utm_content=thais%20gibson&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAACmCs__PjzUZLXpOyoYeWVipJ1Vsi&gclid=Cj0KCQiAqL28BhCrARIsACYJvkfPfiU6R92IygKkF7PHFTE33Xw0YTEeeepf_MzN3WArciUC70MxQFsaAoz7EALw_wcB

Resource: Personaldevelopmentschool.com

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Welcome to a weekly special edition of Untangle, Meditation Mondays. We’re taking this time to share meditations from our sister app, Meditation Studio. We know that life gets messy and, when it does, Meditation is here to help us find a sense of calm and inner peace. Whether you’re facing daily work or relationship stress, unexpected challenges, or just want to improve focus, we hope meditation Monday’s will be your go to for a weekly guided meditation treat. And if you’re craving more…which I always do…the Meditation Studio app offers over 800 expert-guided meditations from over 70 of the world’s top meditation experts.

And best of all, you can now unlock 30 days of Meditation Studio for free at choosemuse.com/meditationstudio.

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Today's encore episode is with the lovely Daphne Rose Kingma, best selling author of 12 books, primarily on love and relationships. Her books have sold more than a million and a half copies and been translated into 16 languages. The San Francisco Chronicle called her the love doctor. In this episode, I was excited to ask her my many questions on love and relationships, but I also asked several from our listeners who shared them with me before the interview. Here’s a preview of some of the questions she answered…. What are the biggest challenges people have in relationship? How would you define falling in love or even just love? Does marriage require a leap of faith or is it a choice or what? Why do some relationships work and to others not so much. I truly believe that loving others is one of the greatest gifts we have and relationships are a mirror into what we each need to learn in our own lives. But as Daphne clearly said…relationships are not for sissies. 

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Todays encore guest is the lovely Emma Seppala. She’s a bestselling author, Psychologist, Research Scientist, Lecturer at Yale and Faculty Director of the Yales Women’s Leadership Program. In this interview we talk about her new book, Sovereign: Reclaim Your Freedom, Energy, and Power in a Time of Distraction, Uncertainty, and Chaos.

She explains that sovereignty is a state of self awareness that allows us to see how and when we are standing in our own way. It also gives us the courage to free ourselves from the ways we are bound so that we can change and move forward.

Sovereignty helps us to optimize the most important relationship of all; the one we have with our selves.

The quality of our lives is dependent on the state of our minds. This is THE one thing that we really do have control over. 

You can be doing all the happiness and wellbeing practices, but if you're still buying into thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that no longer serve you, then you're not going to reach your full potential despite your best efforts. She shares many tools and techniques to help. 

As always, we’re Untangle, the podcast from Muse, the brain sensing headband dedicated to unlocking your brains potential AND Meditation Studio the five star app. 

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Today’s episode is focused on resilience, emotional intelligence and self regulation with Authority Guide author, business psychologist and leadership trainer, Robin Hill. He shares what resilience is and is not and how we can be more emotionally intelligent in the workplace, and perhaps with our families and personal relationships.

We talk about the importance of self awareness and how to acknowledge and understand our emotions without having them rule us. He shares how certain emotions have the power to drain us— to drain our resilience actually, but the more we understand that this is a natural part of being a whole person, the more we can manage it. 

As always, we’re Untangle, the podcast from Muse, the brain sensing headband dedicated to unlocking your brains potential AND Meditation Studio the five star app. Unlock 30 days of Meditation Studio for free at choosemuse.com/meditationstudio. 

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Welcome to a weekly special edition of Untangle, Meditation Mondays. We’re taking this time to share meditations from our sister app, Meditation Studio. We know that life gets messy and, when it does, Meditation is here to help us find a sense of calm and inner peace. Whether you’re facing daily work or relationship stress, unexpected challenges, or just want to improve focus, we hope meditation Monday’s will be your go to for a weekly guided meditation treat. And if you’re craving more…which I always do…the Meditation Studio app offers over 800 expert-guided meditations from over 70 of the world’s top meditation experts.

And best of all, you can now unlock 30 days of Meditation Studio for free at choosemuse.com/meditationstudio.

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This was such a fun interview — our encore guest today is Dr. Robert Waldinger, a Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, a practicing Psychiatrist, Zen Master and author of the book The Good Life, Lessons from the Worlds Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. This study, which began in 1938, reveals what it takes to build a good life. What does that exactly mean, I wondered…fulfilling, satisfying, meaningful, happy? All of it. There's no one size fits all. BUT…the one thing that was consistent? Relationships. All kinds of relationships. The quality of the social connections that we make throughout our lives means everything. He says…Human connection is our superpower. Good relationships help us get through life’s inevitable challenges, and they keep us happier and healthier. and the research shows that they actually help us to live longer. Robert reminds us that we should pay attention to the things that we really care about…the things and people that energize us. AND pay attention to the things and people that deplete us. He shares the keystones of healthy relationships — things like safety security, emotional closeness, fun and relaxation, learning and growth…and there’s more. 

Resources: The Good Life is available at all major booksellers.

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