You don’t need to fix your sex life — you just need to expand it.
 In this episode, Shari dives into what it really means to broaden your sexual range: moving from performance and people-pleasing into authentic exploration, curiosity, and connection. She shares vulnerable personal stories (including her journey with anal and kink) and offers tangible tools to communicate, de-armor shame, and turn on curiosity as your compass.

 🎧 The free Cosmic Menu of Pleasure is available around the 7th of November. Drop me a DM on Instagram with "MENU" or email me on [email protected] to be the first one to receive it.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
💋 The real reason many women feel “numb” or disconnected from desire
💋 Why curiosity is more powerful than confidence in bed
💋 How communication creates deeper erotic safety
💋 A free tool — The Cosmic Menu of Pleasure — to map your desires

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Most people think being a better lover means learning new positions, lasting longer, or performing better.
But the truth?
Epic lovemaking starts long before you’re naked.

In this solo episode, Shari takes you back to a moment that changed everything — a conversation in a sun-soaked jungle cabin in Nicaragua that sparked the very idea for this podcast.
 When a fellow traveler asked her, “What would you tell me if I wanted to be a better lover?” … she realized it’s not about technique. It’s about connection — with yourself, your body, and the person in front of you.

Inside this juicy, heart-opening episode, you’ll learn:
 ✨ Why being an epic lover begins with how you love yourself
✨ The 5 bodies that come together during true intimacy — physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and spiritual
✨ How to communicate your desires and create emotional safety in bed
✨ The secret to rewiring shame around your genitals and feeling confident in your pleasure
✨ Why following the path of pleasure leads to more connection, deeper orgasms, and pure embodiment

This isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.
 It’s about bringing your full self — body, heart, and energy — into every moment of intimacy.

So if you’ve ever wondered how to become a more connected, magnetic, and unforgettable lover… this episode is your invitation to slow down, feel more, and fall back in love with your own body.

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Follow @shari.vandecraen on Instagram for sensual tools, embodiment practices, and weekly turn-on inspo.
 Listen to more episodes, explore workshops, and download your pleasure guides at → www.sharivandecraen.com

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Most of us grew up learning that sex was either dangerous, shameful, or mechanical. But what if sex could be healing? Empowering? A path to deep embodiment?

In this powerful episode, Shari is joined by Dr. Saida Désilets, a pioneer in feminine embodiment and sexual sovereignty, and Aaron Michael, co-founder of Suction Sex and Embodied Love University, to explore the truth about the kind of sexuality education we actually need.

Together, they unravel the myths around “normal” sex, break down the difference between friction sex vs. suction sex, and invite us into a new paradigm of relaxed arousal, co-regulation, and embodied love.

You’ll learn:

• Why most sex education is missing the most important piece—pleasure
• The mechanics of suction sex and why it leads to deeper intimacy
• How to move from stress or numbness into turn-on through your breath and body
• The difference between sexual literacy, sexuality education, and sexual embodiment
• Why your body deserves to be led by pleasure, not pressure
• A powerful guided practice to help you feel connected to your heart, genitals, and nervous system
  
  

This isn’t just another conversation about sex. It’s a reclamation of your erotic power, your body’s wisdom, and your right to feel fully alive.

🔗 Mentioned in This Episode:

• Embodied Love University – Free Foundational Videos: https://www.embodiedloveuniversity.com/
• Follow Dr. Saida Désilets on Instagram: @drsaidadesilets
• Follow Aaron Michael on Instagram: @suctionsex

Let’s Stay Connected
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→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

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Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review—it helps more women find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

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What does it take to stop abandoning yourself and start living from desire?

In this juicy episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with the radiant Nadine Hamilton — a VITA-certified sex, love & relationship coach and somatic sexologist whose erotic aliveness practically drips through the microphone.

Together, we dive deep into:

• Why intimacy begins with YOU (and how self-pleasure sets the tone for everything else)
• The hidden ways people-pleasing sneaks into sex and love
• A simple 3-minute practice to reconnect with what you really want
• How longing can become pleasure instead of pain
• The power of one-way touch and devotional intimacy in relationships

And — in true Get Sexy with Shari style — Nadine guides us through a luscious “Honeypot” practice to drop into your body, stir up your erotic energy, and taste what happens when you give yourself permission to want.

This conversation is an invitation to stop apologizing, stop performing, and step into the juiciness of your own desires.

🎧 Listen now and get ready to drip with honey.

Resources & Links:

• Connect with Nadine on Instagram: @iamnadinehamilton
• Nadine’s Website: bloomwithnadine.com
• Nadine’s Podcast: The Sensuous

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What does it really mean to be embodied?

In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with the radiant and wise Amanda Biccum—my own teacher and co-founder of Temple of Radiance—to unpack the five bodies every woman holds: the mental, physical, emotional, energetic, and spiritual. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, “in your head,” or like something is missing from your self-care routine… this conversation will light a fire under your ass and inside your heart.

Together, we explore how embodiment isn’t about doing more, but about being deeply aware and deeply present with what’s already here. Whether you're craving more aliveness, deeper intimacy, or a stronger sense of self—this episode is your invitation back home.

Amanda also guides you through a mini embodiment practice you can do right now to drop into your body and feel your own presence on a whole new level.

 In this episode, we explore:

• What the term “embodiment” really means (and how we misuse it)
• The difference between looking embodied and being embodied
• Why the emotional body is the secret to your magnetism
• How to access your energy body and use it in intimacy
• How spirituality and sensuality are linked in the fifth body
• Tips to navigate the awkwardness when you start to change

Practice inside:
Stick around until the end for a powerful drop-in guided by Amanda to bring you back into your body, your breath, and your truth. It’s short—but potent.

Connect with Amanda:

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/theamandabiccum/
• Temple of Radiance: www.instagram.com/templeofradiance/
  
  
  

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In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I’m joined by Erotic Blueprints™ coach and sex, love & relationship mentor Sarah Ward to bust one of the biggest myths about desire:
👉 If you’re not in the mood, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It might just mean you’re speaking a different erotic language.

We unpack the 5 Erotic Blueprints™ — a revolutionary framework created by Jaiya - that helps you understand your turn-ons, overcome shame, and stop expecting yourself (or your partner) to fit into a one-size-fits-all sexual script.

What We Dive Into:

• Why your sex drive might feel “off” — and why that’s totally normal
• The 5 Erotic Blueprints™: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky & Shapeshifter
• How partners with different blueprints can stop clashing and start connecting
• What it really means when you shut down, feel too much, or feel not enough in bed
• How to feed your own desire so you’re not waiting for someone else to turn you on

Whether you’re single, in partnership, or somewhere in between — this episode will leave you feeling seen, turned on, and empowered to explore your pleasure in a way that actually works for you.

🔗 Resources & Links

Take the free Erotic Blueprints™ quiz: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=1043477&opid=4
Follow Sarah Ward on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sarahward.co/

Love this episode?

Leave a quick review — it helps the podcast grow and reach more women who are ready to feel sexy, magnetic, and deeply turned on in their own bodies.
And don’t forget to subscribe — next week’s guest is going to blow your mind in all the right ways.

xoxo Shari

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In this raw and radically honest episode, I sit down with conscious dating and empowerment coach Alexa Lynn to explore how to date with intention, embodiment, and confidence—even in a world that constantly rushes us into the next thing.

Together, we unravel what it means to pause after a breakup, stop being the CEO of the story factory, and let your authentic woman drive the car instead of the people-pleasing “nice girl.” We also explore the powerful R-B-D-S-M framework for clear, sexy, and safe communication before becoming intimate.

And yes—there’s a pre-date pleasure ritual to help you shift from “Will they like me?” to “I am the prize.” You’ll want to try this one.

🔥 In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why healing after a breakup is a sacred responsibility to yourself and your next partner
  
  
• How to stop repeating old patterns and start dating from a place of truth
  
  
• Alexa’s signature R-B-D-S-M tool to have intentional, magnetic conversations about intimacy
  
  
• The difference between a “nice girl” and an authentic woman
  
  
• A sensual embodiment practice to ground into your worth before a date
  
  
  

Connect with Alexa Lynn
🔗 Website: www.notanicegirl.com
 📸 Instagram: @alexalynncoaching

💌 Let’s Connect:

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Please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with a friend who needs this. Your support helps the podcast grow and keeps these powerful conversations going.

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In this intimate episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with one of my Tantric Teachers and Communication Queen Arja Hendrikx to talk about one of the most important (and most avoided) skills in intimacy: speaking up in the bedroom.

We dive into why so many women stay silent during sex, how to express what you want without killing the mood, and why real pleasure starts with honest, embodied communication. You’ll walk away with practical tools, mindset shifts, and maybe even the permission you’ve been waiting for.

Whether you're in a long-term relationship or newly dating, this episode will help you feel more confident, connected, and deeply met in your intimate experiences.

🔥 In This Episode, We Talk About:

• Why so many women fake pleasure—and how to stop
• How to communicate before, during, and after sex
• Speaking up without being “too much” or “too needy”
• Using body language when words feel hard
• How your desires can be sexy, playful, and clear
• Turning communication into connection (and foreplay!)

Connect with Arja:
Connect with Arja on Instagram for her latest offerings and courses: @arja_hendrikx or via ww.instagram.com/templeofradiance/

Let’s Connect:

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Please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with a friend who needs this. Your support helps the podcast grow and keeps these powerful conversations going.

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Welcome back to Get Sexy with Shari — the podcast that turns you on to the life, love, and sex you actually crave.

In today’s juicy episode, I sit down with erotic ecstasy and sex & relationship expert Leen S to talk about long-term love, polarity, emotional safety, and what it really means to stay sexy and connected — even when your partner isn’t “doing the work.”

Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off… or you’ve been told you’re “too much”… or you’re just tired of doing all the emotional labor — this episode is your permission slip to drop the pressure and come back home to your body.

We explore:

• What to do when your partner isn’t growing with you (without nagging or shrinking)
• How to inspire change in your relationship through embodiment, not force
• Why polarity (Alpha & Omega energy) is the missing link in long-term attraction
• The power of slow, sacred sex — and how to unlock your cervix for cosmic pleasure
• What it means to become your own best mother, father, and lover
  
  

PS: stay tuned until the end where Leen guides you through a gorgeous embodiment practice to feel your Alpha and Omega energies inside of you.

Connect with Leen:
🌹 Instagram: /www.instagram.com/leen.s.coaching/
🌹 Join her program “Unstoppable Lovers”: a 4 months deep and sexy journey for couples: https://leen-s.com/unstoppable-lovers/

🌹 Catch her free free masterclass for couples “Deeper” : https://leen-s.com/deeper/ 

🌹Sensational Love Night - a tantric date night for couples: https://leen-s.com/sensational-love-night/

Want more? Here’s how to dive deeper with me:
 Feel alive and turned-on by embracing and awakening your sensual side through “Sensual Reclamation for just 21 euros: https://www.sharivandecraen.com/sensual-reclamation 

Let’s stay sexy together.
Leave a review, share the love, and tag me on IG @shari.vandecraen when you listen — I LOVE hearing your takeaways.

xoxo

Shari 💋

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In this powerful first episode, I pull back the curtain on my own sensual awakening—how I went from shame, disconnection, and performative sex… to full-body pleasure, body confidence, and unapologetic turn-on.

I share the real, raw moments that changed everything:

• The day I realized I’d lived 27 years in my body without knowing what that actually meant
• Why I used to fake orgasms (and how I stopped performing)
• How slowing down through self-pleasure became a doorway to reclaiming my feminine power
• What it really means to become a sensual woman—one who leads with embodiment instead of approval-seeking
• And why you’re not broken—you’ve just been taught to disconnect from your body

If you’ve ever thought “something’s wrong with me” or “I should just try harder”… this episode will hit you straight in the soul.

💋 In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why your body isn’t the problem—the pressure is
• How to begin feeling sexy again, without needing to “fix” yourself
• The truth about performance vs. presence in intimacy
• How self-pleasure can reconnect you to your truth, your power, and your voice

🔗 Links & Resources

• Follow me on Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
• Visit my website: www.sharivandecraen.com
• Explore your Sensual self with just 21 euros: www.sharivandecraen.com/sensual-reclamation

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If this episode stirred something in you, please take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share with a friend who needs to hear this.
 This is how we unleash a generation of turned-on women together.

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