Get Sexy with Shari

How many decisions in your life have been made to avoid disappointing someone else?

In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with women's guide, photographer, and Wild Woman facilitator Marsha Viktorovna to explore the hidden ways women abandon themselves in pursuit of approval, love, belonging, and safety.

Together, we unpack the conditioning that teaches women to become "good girls"—to stay quiet, people please, ignore their intuition, suppress their rage, and prioritize everyone else's comfort over their own truth.

Marsha shares how her globally recognized Wild Woman circles emerged from a deep longing for freedom and reconnection, and why reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, your intuition, and even your rage can become a powerful pathway back to yourself.

If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, trapped by expectations, or aware that there's a more authentic version of you waiting to emerge, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

•  Why so many women become chronic people pleasers 
•  The hidden ways we abandon ourselves every day
• How to recognize when you're living from conditioning instead of truth
•  Why rage can be a healthy and necessary part of healing 
•  The difference between performing femininity and embodying it 
•  How to strengthen your intuition and trust your inner voice 
•  Why following small whispers often leads to life-changing transformations 
•  The role of sacred celibacy in self-discovery and self-trust 
•  How reclaiming all parts of yourself expands your sexuality and relationships 
•  A simple mirror practice to reconnect with your body and self-worth

Memorable Moments
"The wild woman isn't this Instagrammable polished part of us."
 "Unless a woman has access to her rage, she's still a pushover and a people pleaser."
"Follow the whispers. Follow the path of aliveness."
"The cage is open. Why are you still walking in circles and repeating the pattern?"
"Your sex life isn't limited by technique. It's limited by self-expression."

Resources & Links
Connect with Marsha on Instagram: @marsha.victorovna

or via the World Within Her Instagram: @worldwithinher

Connect with Shari via Instagram: @shari.vandecraen

Apply for 1:1 Coaching via [email protected]

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What if the reason you don't feel sexy has nothing to do with your body?

In this powerful conversation with body image coach Sarah Simpson, also known as "Sarah in Yellow", we unpack why so many women postpone confidence, love, pleasure, photoshoots, dating, and even great sex until they finally lose the weight. Sarah shares her journey from obsessive dieting and eating disorders to discovering that true confidence comes from building a life that excites you—not shrinking yourself to fit someone else's standards.

If you've ever thought, "I'll be happy when...", this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and discover why feeling sexy starts long before your body changes.

In this episode, Sarah and I explore:

• Why so many women tie their worth and attractiveness to a number on the scale
• What happened when Sarah finally achieved her "dream body" and still felt unhappy
• The childhood experiences that quietly shape body image for decades
• Why your belly is probably not the real problem
• The hidden connection between body confidence, self-worth, and sexuality
• How body image affects dating, intimacy, and feeling desirable
• Why women become obsessed with fixing their bodies
• The surprising reason confidence feels easier for some women than others
• How to stop making happiness conditional on your appearance
• Why exciting experiences and a fulfilling life make your appearance matter less
• The role of nervous system safety in confidence and self-love
• How retreats, travel, and new experiences can accelerate healing
• The concept of becoming "the coolest person you know"
• Why fear is not a good enough reason to stay stuck
• The real secret to feeling sexy in the body you have today

Connect with Sarah:

→ Instagram: www.instagram.com/sarahinyellow/
→ Website: www.sarahinyellow.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

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What can a professional dominatrix teach us about power, pleasure, surrender, and feminine embodiment? A lot more than you might think.

In this fascinating episode of Get Sexy With Shari, I sit down with professional dominatrix, embodiment coach, relationship coach, and fellow VITA™ coach Brittany Swanson to explore the often misunderstood world of domination and submission.

What started as a conversation about BDSM quickly evolved into a much deeper discussion about feminine power, communication, self-responsibility, pleasure, and the many archetypes available to us as women.

Together we explore why so many successful women crave surrender, why powerful men often seek submission, and how both dominance and surrender can become pathways toward deeper intimacy and self-discovery.

We also dive into sensual domination—a style of dominance centered around presence, anticipation, embodiment, breath, and connection rather than force or control.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How Brittany became a professional dominatrix
• What domination actually is (and what it isn't)
• The biggest misconceptions about BDSM
• Why so many women long to surrender
• Why successful men are often drawn to submission
• The role of communication in creating safety and pleasure
• How to discover what you actually want in the bedroom
• Why your pleasure is your responsibility
• Sensual domination versus humiliation-based domination
• The power of anticipation, presence, and embodiment
• The Queen archetype and how to embody feminine authority
• Practical ways to explore your dominant side as a woman

Connect with Brittaney:

→ Instagram: @alwaysbembodied

Let’s Stay Connected
→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

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“Healthy relationships are not conflict-free relationships. They are relationships that know how to repair.” 

What if the biggest relationship struggles you experience today… are rooted in patterns you learned before the age of 7?

In this deeply honest and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with internationally acclaimed relationship expert, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and founder of Relearn Love, Eri Kardos, to explore the relationship skills most of us were never taught: emotional safety, conflict repair, conscious communication, nervous system awareness, intimacy, and how to stop repeating the same painful cycles in love. 

We dive into:

•  Why couples keep having the same fights
• The hidden patterns underneath conflict
• How childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships
• Emotional triggers, nervous system safety & repair
• Walking on eggshells in relationships
• Conscious communication tools that actually work
• Why your sex life reflects your communication patterns
• The “sandbox vs bench” analogy for navigating triggers
• The importance of proactive relationship check-ins
• How to create deeper intimacy without pressure
• The “Love Lab” practice to transform connection & pleasure

One of my favorite parts of this episode is when Eri explains that most couples are trying to solve the problem before creating emotional safety first and how learning to repair instead of react can completely change your relationship. 

We also talk about:

•  conscious marriage & yearly relationship renewals 
•  how triggers show up in friendships, family, leadership & business 
•  why healthy love is a learnable skill 
•  and how to stop making your partner “the enemy.” 

If you’ve ever:

•  struggled to express your truth 
•  feared conflict 
•  felt emotionally unsafe 
•  repeated the same relationship patterns 
•  walked on eggshells 
•  wanted deeper intimacy & connection 
•  or wondered why love can feel so hard...

…this episode is going to shift something in you.

Connect with Eri Kardos

• Website: https://www.relearnlove.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relearnlove/ 
• Take Eri's free quiz: www.RelearnLove.com/quiz
• Message Eri Kardos via her Instagram to get 50% off a 1:1 session to decode your pattern and get clarity on how to break the pattern.

Let’s Stay Connected
→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

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Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

“The way you make love to yourself is the way you make love to others.”

What if the way you’ve been experiencing pleasure… is only scratching the surface?

Masturbation May is your invitation to completely rewrite the way you relate to pleasure.

In this raw solo episode, I share how rushed, hidden self-pleasure patterns shape your entire sex life—and how to shift into slow, embodied, deeply fulfilling experiences that transform how you show up with lovers.

Here’s the reality about masturbation:

Most of us learned self-pleasure in secrecy: fast, quiet and goal-oriented. And without realizing it we bring those exact same patterns into our sex lives.

In this episode, I share my personal journey: from rushing, and disconnected self-pleasure to slow, embodied, deeply fulfilling experiences and how this shift completely transformed the way I show up as a lover.

This is your invitation to move beyond performance and into real pleasure.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

•  Why the way you touch yourself directly impacts your sex life 
•  How early self-pleasure patterns shape intimacy and connection 
•  The difference between functional “masturbation” and embodied self-pleasure 
•  How to shift from chasing orgasm to experiencing full-body pleasure 
•  The role of breath, sound, and movement in expanding sensation 
•  Why your entire body—not just your genitals—is a source of pleasure 
•  How understanding your “lover type” changes your experience of intimacy 
•  What it means to actively receive pleasure (instead of just “lying there”)

Go Deeper

• Discover your unique pleasure style via this quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/69007dca95bebc00150dc3db
• Explore my offers via www.sharivandecraen.com

If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. Send me a DM on Instagram @shari.vandecraen or share this episode with someone who needs to hear this.

And if you loved it: don’t forget to leave a review, love.

xoxo Your Pleasure Expert
Shari Van de Craen 💋

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

What if your genitals were never just physical, but a gateway to deeper connection, aliveness, and even consciousness?

In this episode, I sit down with Simon Paul Sutton to explore the true power of being comfortable with your own sexual center and the power of self pleasure.

Because instead of feeling, we’ve been conditioned to perform in the bedroom.

This conversation is a deep dive into what happens when you move beyond technique, beyond pressure, and start relating to your body as something alive, intelligent, and deeply powerful.

I don’t just guide this conversation. I also open up about my own experiences with dating, vulnerability, and the moments where I catch myself disconnecting from my body.

In This Episode, We Explore:

•  Why your genitals are not just physical, but an access point to deeper awareness and connection
•  The difference between performance-based intimacy vs. embodied intimacy
•  How conditioning and shame disconnect you from your natural pleasure response
•  The overlooked power of softness, slowness, and subtle sensation
•  Why many people are chasing intensity instead of true aliveness
•  The pressure on men to perform—and how it impacts both partners 
•  How your body communicates through sensation, energy, and presence
•  Why real intimacy starts with honest communication and emotional safety
•  The role of your inner patterns (inner girl/boy) in intimacy and dating 
• "Shifting Awareness" practice starting as of 01:01:11

Personal Shares From Me In this Episode:

•  My own experience of dating and going into my head instead of my body
•  The moment of realizing: “There’s attraction… but no safety”
•  How lack of clarity creates tension and disconnection in intimacy
•  The courage it takes to ask: “What is this actually?”
•  My growing compassion for men and the pressure they carry to perform
•  Why I believe true intimacy requires both safety + self-expression

Key Takeaways

•  Your body is not a tool—it’s an intelligent system of sensation and awareness
•  Pleasure expands when you shift from doing → feeling
•  The real power of your genitals lies in connection, not performance
•  Slowness and presence unlock levels of intimacy most people never reach 
•  Communication is what allows your body to fully relax and open

🔗 Connect with Simon Paul Sutton:

• Follow Simon on Instagram: @simonpaulsutton
• Check out all of his Events here: https://simonpaulsutton.com/
• Simon's retreats and events: https://nakedsoul.life/

Let’s Stay Connected
→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

What if your genitals were never just physical, but a gateway to deeper connection, aliveness, and even consciousness?

In this episode, I sit down with Simon Paul Sutton to explore the true power of being comfortable with your own sexual center and the power of self pleasure.

Because instead of feeling, we’ve been conditioned to perform in the bedroom.

This conversation is a deep dive into what happens when you move beyond technique, beyond pressure, and start relating to your body as something alive, intelligent, and deeply powerful.

I don’t just guide this conversation. I also open up about my own experiences with dating, vulnerability, and the moments where I catch myself disconnecting from my body.

In This Episode, We Explore:

•  Why your genitals are not just physical, but an access point to deeper awareness and connection
•  The difference between performance-based intimacy vs. embodied intimacy
•  How conditioning and shame disconnect you from your natural pleasure response
•  The overlooked power of softness, slowness, and subtle sensation
•  Why many people are chasing intensity instead of true aliveness
•  The pressure on men to perform—and how it impacts both partners 
•  How your body communicates through sensation, energy, and presence
•  Why real intimacy starts with honest communication and emotional safety
•  The role of your inner patterns (inner girl/boy) in intimacy and dating 

Personal Shares From Me In this Episode:

•  My own experience of dating and going into my head instead of my body
•  The moment of realizing: “There’s attraction… but no safety”
•  How lack of clarity creates tension and disconnection in intimacy
•  The courage it takes to ask: “What is this actually?”
•  My growing compassion for men and the pressure they carry to perform
•  Why I believe true intimacy requires both safety + self-expression

Key Takeaways

•  Your body is not a tool—it’s an intelligent system of sensation and awareness
•  Pleasure expands when you shift from doing → feeling
•  The real power of your genitals lies in connection, not performance
•  Slowness and presence unlock levels of intimacy most people never reach 
•  Communication is what allows your body to fully relax and open

🔗 Connect with Simon Paul Sutton:

• Follow Simon on Instagram: @simonpaulsutton
• Check out all of his Events here: https://simonpaulsutton.com/

Let’s Stay Connected
→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

You don’t need to fix your sex life — you just need to expand it.
 In this episode, Shari dives into what it really means to broaden your sexual range: moving from performance and people-pleasing into authentic exploration, curiosity, and connection. She shares vulnerable personal stories (including her journey with anal and kink) and offers tangible tools to communicate, de-armor shame, and turn on curiosity as your compass.

 🎧 The free Cosmic Menu of Pleasure is available around the 7th of November. Drop me a DM on Instagram with "MENU" or email me on [email protected] to be the first one to receive it.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
💋 The real reason many women feel “numb” or disconnected from desire
💋 Why curiosity is more powerful than confidence in bed
💋 How communication creates deeper erotic safety
💋 A free tool — The Cosmic Menu of Pleasure — to map your desires

Connect with me on Instagram: @shari.vandecraen

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Most people think being a better lover means learning new positions, lasting longer, or performing better.
But the truth?
Epic lovemaking starts long before you’re naked.

In this solo episode, Shari takes you back to a moment that changed everything — a conversation in a sun-soaked jungle cabin in Nicaragua that sparked the very idea for this podcast.
 When a fellow traveler asked her, “What would you tell me if I wanted to be a better lover?” … she realized it’s not about technique. It’s about connection — with yourself, your body, and the person in front of you.

Inside this juicy, heart-opening episode, you’ll learn:
 ✨ Why being an epic lover begins with how you love yourself
✨ The 5 bodies that come together during true intimacy — physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and spiritual
✨ How to communicate your desires and create emotional safety in bed
✨ The secret to rewiring shame around your genitals and feeling confident in your pleasure
✨ Why following the path of pleasure leads to more connection, deeper orgasms, and pure embodiment

This isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.
 It’s about bringing your full self — body, heart, and energy — into every moment of intimacy.

So if you’ve ever wondered how to become a more connected, magnetic, and unforgettable lover… this episode is your invitation to slow down, feel more, and fall back in love with your own body.

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LINKS

I have 2 coaching opportunities open starting as of mid-November: send me an email with your desire to [email protected] and let's see if there is a match.

If you're interested in the course on How to Pleasure the Penis, click here: https://sharivandecraen.plugandpay.nl/checkout/secrets-of-sensual-touch

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Connect with Shari

Follow @shari.vandecraen on Instagram for sensual tools, embodiment practices, and weekly turn-on inspo.
 Listen to more episodes, explore workshops, and download your pleasure guides at → www.sharivandecraen.com

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

Most of us grew up learning that sex was either dangerous, shameful, or mechanical. But what if sex could be healing? Empowering? A path to deep embodiment?

In this powerful episode, Shari is joined by Dr. Saida Désilets, a pioneer in feminine embodiment and sexual sovereignty, and Aaron Michael, co-founder of Suction Sex and Embodied Love University, to explore the truth about the kind of sexuality education we actually need.

Together, they unravel the myths around “normal” sex, break down the difference between friction sex vs. suction sex, and invite us into a new paradigm of relaxed arousal, co-regulation, and embodied love.

You’ll learn:

• Why most sex education is missing the most important piece—pleasure
• The mechanics of suction sex and why it leads to deeper intimacy
• How to move from stress or numbness into turn-on through your breath and body
• The difference between sexual literacy, sexuality education, and sexual embodiment
• Why your body deserves to be led by pleasure, not pressure
• A powerful guided practice to help you feel connected to your heart, genitals, and nervous system
  
  

This isn’t just another conversation about sex. It’s a reclamation of your erotic power, your body’s wisdom, and your right to feel fully alive.

🔗 Mentioned in This Episode:

• Embodied Love University – Free Foundational Videos: https://www.embodiedloveuniversity.com/
• Follow Dr. Saida Désilets on Instagram: @drsaidadesilets
• Follow Aaron Michael on Instagram: @suctionsex

Let’s Stay Connected
→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review—it helps more women find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

Follow my sensual photography account on instagram: www.instagram.com/project.radiance

Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com