My guest today, Shely Esses, is such a refreshing human! I was taken back by her level of comfort talking about all things sex.

Shely believes in the importance of getting to know our body parts as a way of creating a deeper connection with ourselves.

She's very passionate about dissolving all of the shame that's intrinsically associated with sex and helping people heal their own sexual shame due to a number of reasons such as: lack of sexual education, lack of exploration of their own body and lack of conversations around sex and their sexual needs.

Topics we discuss:

- Shely sexual experience growing up in a religious Jewish background.  - Redifining the concept of "losing your virginity." - The impact of the lack of in depth sexual education for children and teenagers. - How our mind impacts our sexual experience and the connection between the mind and our sex organs - How Shely helps patients with sexual conditions such as pelvic floor dysfunction or erectile dysfunction. - The fears that show up for many men around hurting women that impact their sex. - The changes being created by orthodox therapist that are out to transform how sex is viewed in orthodox communities.

Shely Esses is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that works as a Sex and Relationship Therapist and Post-Partum doula that helps people unblock honest emotional expression and feel comfortable in their own skin and bodies. 

Connect with Shely on Instagram @shelyrachel.lpmft