Most of the pain you keep running into is not betrayal. It is misjudgment. You gave the wrong people access to your emotions. You trusted roles their behavior never proved they could hold. You expected consistency from people who have shown you, over and over, that they will not show up for you.

This episode shows you why the cycle keeps repeating and what to do about it.

In this episode you will learn:

• ​Why you keep expecting loyalty from inconsistent people
• ​How to spot relationships that drain you
• ​How chemistry blinds you to real patterns
• ​How to separate emotional attachment from actual reliability
• ​How to protect your peace by trusting behavior, not words

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There’s a version of you the world calls strong, but she’s not the real you.

She’s the version you built when fear, disappointment, and abandonment made you believe you had to perform to be chosen, stay in control to stay safe, and look strong to be worthy.

These fear-based agreements shaped your identity.

They built the “strong woman” mask you wear today.

And they are the reason you keep repeating cycles you’re tired of living through.

In this teaching, we expose the truth:

• why you cling to chaos even while praying for clarity

• how self-sabotage is rooted in “I don’t deserve real love”

• the agreements that keep you overgiving, overworking, and overstaying

• how pride and image hide the parts of you that feel unworthy

• how survival scripts keep you small, afraid, and double minded

• how to break the lies you made peace with for years

If you’re done performing strength and ready to confront the lie that built your identity, start here.

And if you want help uncovering the lies you’ve been repeating for years, go to PastorAmber.com and download "It Was a Lie".

It will help you expose the beliefs that shaped your false identity so you can finally rebuild from truth.

Life doesn’t just happen...it happens because of you. In this episode, Amber guides you through a 10-year audit so you can stop living reactively and start building legacy on purpose. From generational inheritance (spiritual, emotional, financial) to reverse-engineering your vision into daily routines, you’ll learn how to design the next decade with discipline, faith, and emotional endurance.

You’ll hear Amber share her own journey. Raising Kaiden, moving to Atlanta, choosing boundaries and truth. And why “vision doesn’t fail… people quit.” If you’re ready to trade numb survival for intentional strategy, this is your blueprint.

You’ll learn:

• Reactive vs proactive living: design or default

• The legacy lens: inheritance beyond money (wisdom, wholeness, stewardship)

• The 10-Year Audit: lessons, patterns, people, and non-negotiables

• Reverse-engineering: decade → year → quarter → month → daily habits

• Character over circumstance: bending without breaking

• Emotional endurance: why transformation hurts and how to keep going

Letting go isn’t about not caring anymore. It’s about choosing peace over patterns.

In this powerful episode of Girl & Her Bible, Amber digs deep into what it really means to release someone you still love. When your heart still remembers, but your spirit knows it’s time to move on.

You’ll learn:

• Why love and obedience sometimes can’t coexist

• How to recognize when familiarity is disguised as safety

• The truth about emotional attachments and childhood wounds

• How to rebuild self-trust after toxic or inconsistent relationships

• Why real healing requires structure, not just emotion

This is your permission to stop performing strength and start practicing surrender.

Take the next step:

✨ Text MOVE to 470-256-1199 to take the Validation Detox Quiz and get your free workbook.

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Avoiding pain keeps you stuck in cycles. Pain isn’t punishment. It's preparation. In this episode, Amber breaks down the difference between motion and movement, revealing how emotional numbing, busyness, and distraction keep you looping in resistance instead of growing through transformation. She walks you through the three stages of breakthrough: Separation, Stillness, and Surrender. This episode teaches you how to find peace, purpose, and endurance inside your own cocoon season.

📝If you’ve been scrolling through survival, this one will set you free.

• ​ Scripture References: 1 Peter 5:10, Romans 8:18, Romans 12:2, Jeremiah 12:5
• ​ Key Concepts:
• ​ Looping = emotional avoidance disguised as productivity
• ​ Motion vs. Movement: doing vs. becoming
• ​ The 3 Stages of Transformation → Separation, Stillness, Surrender
• ​ The Cocoon: struggle as strengthening
• ​ Pain as the training ground for power

💡Reflection Questions:

1. ​ What area of your life are you still avoiding pain instead of processing it?
2. ​ Are you in the ant stage (survival), cocoon stage (stillness), or butterfly stage (emergence)?
3. ​ What illusion or identity has God been asking you to surrender?

🎁Take the Validation Detox Quiz to uncover what’s driving your emotional loops. girlandherbible.com/quiz

In today’s episode, Pastor Amber gets real about what it means to stay faithful in your pit season...that tight, uncomfortable middle between promise and promotion. Whether you’re balancing single motherhood, building something from scratch, or just trying not to fold under pressure, this word is for you.

Through the story of Joseph in Genesis, Amber breaks down how God uses waiting, pressure, and isolation to prepare you for elevation. She shares raw moments from her recent speaking engagement, the emotional crash that followed, and what it looks like to keep going when you feel forgotten, even after God has used you to bless others.

You’ll Learn:

✅How to find grace for yourself in seasons that feel like delay

✅Why “the pit” is actually preparation for your next level

✅How to process spiritual exhaustion without guilt

✅What to do when your gift works for everyone else but you

✅How to recognize when God is strengthening your roots

Scripture Reference:

Genesis 40–41 —Joseph’s pit to palace journey

Proverbs 13:12 — “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.”

✨ Ready to go deeper?

Take the Validation Detox Quiz and discover what’s really driving your emotional attachments.

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Transformation isn’t cute, it’s costly. In this raw episode, Pastor Amber unpacks the stages of true transformation and why God allows heartbreak, betrayal, and disruption to protect your destiny. If you’ve been wondering why cycles keep repeating, this message will open your eyes.

You’ll learn:

• The stages of transformation: revelation, sorrow, surrender, pressure, breakthrough

• How trauma patterns keep you shrinking back and sabotaging progress

• Why God allows heartbreak to break you free from settling

• How to discern manipulation, conditional love, and false humility

• Why irritation/envy often reveal your hidden longings, not other people’s flaws

• What it really means to surrender to God..not performance, but covenant loyalty

If you’re tired of cycles and ready for breakthrough, this episode is your wake-up call.

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God is disrupting your patterns, not to punish you, but to position you. In this episode, discover why you can’t numb, run, or hide when you’ve been marked by Him.

You’ll learn:

⚪️Why God slows down your nervous system to detox false validation

⚪️How He exposes hidden control and manipulation to reveal true identity

⚪️The prophetic parallel of Jonah and what it means for your calling

⚪️A practical way to sit in silence and hear God clearly

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In this episode of Girl & Her Bible, Amber shares how working out, small daily habits, and spiritual sensitivity are all part of God’s training ground. Learn why your routines matter, how every choice is a deposit into your future self, and why guarding your gates: your eyes, ears, and time, is the key to walking in authority.

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In this episode of Girl & Her Bible Podcast, Pastor Amber unpacks the tension between Sarah’s voice and God’s word in Genesis 16. When God delays, we often manufacture our own “Ishmaels”, relationships, careers, or ministries built out of fear, impatience, or ambition. But what’s born of the flesh can never replace what’s born of covenant. Learn how to stop settling for temporary fixes, trust God’s timing, and hold fast to His promises, even when the details aren’t clear.

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