Who are you when you remove the titles, responsibilities, accomplishments, and everything you produce?
In this episode of the Girl Organize That Life Podcast, I’m joined by Jasmyne Cole, a wife, mother of four, homeschooling mom, new author, and budding entrepreneur, for a conversation about something so many high-performing women quietly struggle with:
Learning to separate who we are from everything we do.
Jasmyne shares how she has learned to appreciate the woman underneath all of the roles and responsibilities. When everything attached to her is stripped away, she still has to know who Jasmyne is at her core: caring, grateful, growing, and worthy outside of what she accomplishes.
And that is where this conversation gets real.
So many of us have turned productivity into identity.
We tell ourselves:
I have to do this.
I have to carry that.
I have to take care of everyone.
I have to keep everything moving.
But what happens when all of that “have to” becomes heavy?
Jasmyne reminds us to shift from “I have to” to “I get to.” Because when our lives become completely duty-bound, the joy can disappear and the weight can begin to change how we show up for ourselves and the people we love.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Untangling your identity from productivity and performance
- Remembering who you are beyond motherhood, marriage, business, and responsibilities
- Recognizing when carrying everything has become too heavy
- Asking yourself, “Who told me I had to carry this?”
- Learning to name what you are feeling instead of excusing it
- Creating space to breathe, journal, pray, and reset
- Allowing yourself to apologize and begin again
- The importance of self-awareness
- Receiving correction and encouragement from people who genuinely love you
- Why having a trusted village matters
- Navigating the tension between confidence and fear
- Giving yourself permission to be vulnerable while you are still becoming
One of my favorite moments in this conversation came when Jasmyne said:
If I don’t name it, I can excuse it.
That one will sit with you.
Because sometimes healing and alignment begin with simply telling the truth about what is happening inside of us.
Jasmyne also reminds us that becoming more self-aware does not mean becoming perfect.
Sometimes it means stepping outside and breathing.
Sometimes it means journaling.
Sometimes it means apologizing to your children.
Sometimes it means being honest with your spouse.
Sometimes it means admitting to yourself that the way you are showing up is not who you want to be.
And then choosing differently.
This conversation also highlights the power of having people around you who can encourage you and lovingly correct you. Jasmyne shares how her husband, family, friends, and faith community have helped her navigate moments where confidence and fear exist at the same time.
Sis, you are more than what you produce.
You are more than the work.
More than the business.
More than the children.
More than the responsibilities.
More than the title.
Your worth is not determined by how much you can carry.
🎧 Listen to Episode 9 and share this conversation with another woman who needs the reminder that she is allowed to exist beyond everything she does for everyone else.
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