We all have that one friend who takes breakups really harshly and finds themselves questioning “What is wrong with me?” when relationships don’t work out. Sometimes we are that friend. Today on the Self Love Breakfast Club, Deb McCollum joins us for another girlfriend chat as we delve into a conversation on the topics of relationships, external validation, and how to be independent in a relationship. Both Deb and Chrystal open up about the role of external validation in their own relationships, as Chrystal explains how she and her now-husband nearly broke up shortly after he moved in with her, and Deb talks about her divorce and how she’s applied the lessons she learned from it to more recent relationships. We chat about how we are often tempted to try to change ourselves or compromise to get a partner back when they’re often not the person we really want to be with anyway. Tuning in, you’ll hear about why sometimes we just have to draw a line in the sand, the value of getting support from the right people, holding friends accountable to their best selves when going through breakups, and the importance of finding validation internally. Tune in today to find out why Deb makes lists of qualities she’s not prepared to settle for in a partner and Chrystal’s new challenge to her.