In this interview I speak with Yvette Troublefield who is currently a Mortgage Specialist with State Employees' Credit Union at the Grandover Village branch in Greensboro, NC. She has been employed by SECU for 9 years. She is also the Political Action chairperson of the Montgomery County Branch NAACP. Her goal is to bring financial literacy to all persons and age groups to promote God's calling for all of his children to live in the land of abundance. She graduated from Fayetteville State University with a Bachelor of Science in Psychology and has come to the podcast to answer the questions that I had about mortgages, politics and financial literacy.

3 things that we discussed during this interview are:

1) The difference between prequalifying and preapproval.

2) What an escrow is.

3) How to find out who holds which office in your town or county and what that person's responsibility is.

You can contact Yvette at:

Facebook - Yvette Troublefield

Instagram - iammisstrouble1

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In this solo episode I talk about why I think kids should be able to explore having a boyfriend or girlfriend. I mean isn’t that how people figure out relationships? By actually having those relationships. I feel like girls have it the hardest because people want to protect the girls from whatever bad things that they think is going to happen. Whole time somebody else is raising their son to be the perfect gentleman for a girl that can’t even have a boyfriend yet. And to be honest with you, having a boyfriend isn’t something that you want your daughter to navigate through on her own when she is older and almost an adult. There are so many important points that have to be made and so many conversations that have to be had and so many moments that parents should be around to witness, correct and explain.

Boys need to be able to have a girlfriend if that is what they want. Of course most of them may still be wrapped up in electronics and that is fine, considering a lot of girls are gamers too. However, that is a common interest that they both might have and their boyfriend/girlfriend relationship may solely be based on getting together whether in person or their favorite online game and just spending time enjoying gaming. Either way that is a form of compatibility.

If kids are allowed to figure out friendships, adult relationships with teachers, mentors, older family members, their friend’s parents, employers and with animals or insects, then they should be able to learn the ins and outs of having a boyfriend or girlfriend. After you listen to this episode, let me know what you think.

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In this solo episode Coach Tasha talks about why women should dress like they have somewhere to go when they show up to a booty call. If you want more out of the visit than just sex, then you have to carry yourself like you want more than sex. Do you know how many booty calls have turned into marriages? Yeah, me neither, but I'm sure it has happened before. If I were you I wouldn't even show up to a booty call or agree to a quick pull up or even engage in a supposed one-night-stand unless I was dressed and looking like a whole snack. Just think about it. Have you ever worn a bad ass outfit and after you've done all that you need to do, you think to yourself, "I need to go to a few more places because I'm not finished showing off?" Well, isn't that how you want somebody to feel about you when you go to their house or when they come to your house? Like, they have to take you somewhere and show you off or at least show you one hell of a good time because you look too good to leave alone. And be ready for anything when you go. Bring a bag. Can you shower and change into a different outfit? Can you adjust your hair style? Are you prepared to go out of town at the last minute? What does your clothes, hair and spinnanight bag say about you? I hope it screams, "Yes, I want to have sex and yes I want to do something afterwards." Don't say I didn't warn you.

Today's episode is sponsored by Coached by Tasha. Where single mothers go to get help with building healthy co-parenting relationships.

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In this solo episode I talk about when I lit a pile of pine straw on fire a couple of nights ago. From the time I finished raking the pine straw up until the moment I sprayed the fire out with the water hose, I was having revelation after revelation and I could apply every moment to my own life. It was as if the fire and water were both talking to me and I was listening.

The fire represents the purpose and passion that we all have for something. The water reminded me of the people and things that will make you consider changing your mind about what you’re going after. Listen to this whole episode as I go into greater detail of what this moment meant for me. 

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In this solo episode I talk about the time that I was car shopping. I was so desperate to stop having to ride the city bus, that I was almost willing to buy whatever vehicle I could approved for. I had a vehicle in mind, that I ended up buying, but if it had not been for my cousin pushing me to be patient and wait for what I really wanted, I know that I would have been very regretful the morning after the purchase.  There are other times when I felt like I couldn't wait or I shouldn't wait because I didn't think that I could have what I wanted. There have also been times when I got carried away trying to prove something to someone when there was actually nothing to prove. Listen to this episode to hear what I mean.

Today's episode is sponsored by Coached by Tasha. Where single mothers go to get help with building healthy co-parenting relationships.

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In this episode I talk about realistic, personal reasons for not wanting to deal with someone any more. This is not a complete list of reasons, but instead this episode is an addition to any lists that exist. Physical abuse, cheating and lying may be the most common reasons to want to end a relationship of any kind, but there are comparable reasons for someone who has called it quits for their own good. Have you ever had someone that you spend a lot of time talking to or someone that you sit with in person or someone that you share your thoughts and dreams with and then in those moments you feel like, why am I entertaining this person? Even though you think it to yourself and don't say it out loud, you still come up with an answer or you can't get that thought out of your head because you need answers. Maybe this person makes you feel exhausted. Maybe the interaction drains you. Maybe their presence sets you back in your plans and you are at a stand still because you have taken on their grief or their lack of motivation. One of you are rubbing off on the other and it seems like you are the one being depleted. So not you have a decision or two to make. Staying in contact with people who make you neglect the boundaries that you set for yourself can have you accepting any and everything from anyone because your standards have lowered. When though? You can't even put your finger on the moment that it happened. Walking away from people and the situations that include can help you heal in a way that you need the most. Who are you holding on to? Better yet, why are you holding on to them?

Today's episode is sponsored by Coached by Tasha. Where single mothers go to get help with building healthy co-parenting relationships.

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On today's episode I talk about how some of us like to put on a show when we know that someone is watching. You've never argued so good or cursed so bad than when someone was there to witness it or when someone was waiting to hear about it. The stories got "badder and badder" as you talked about how you were the bad guy until a time came when your story didn't go as planned. Have you ever tried to be on your worst behavior and the cards didn't fall in your favor? When that happens, we have to alter the story a little bit and sometimes we go from being the villain to being the victim. You know, we leave out a few details until further notice. (Guilty) So, this episode is dedicated to the times when we were not-so-good but we were so very proud of it. And it's also dedicated to those times when we knew better but just didn't care.

Today's episode is sponsored by Coached by Tasha. Where single mothers go to get help with building healthy co-parenting relationships.

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In today's episode I talk about the thoughts that went through my head when I saw Will Smith slap Chris Rock on national television. That slap, whether anyone agrees with it or not, reminded me of some situations that I have dealt with in my life where someone started something and was not happy when I decided to help finish it. There are too many times when people are given a pass for bothering other people. There are also too many times when there is more focus on the reaction rather than what lead up to the reaction. I saw so much emotion and relevance in Will Smith's face and I saw some realization in Chris Rock's face too. So I decided to share my thoughts on what I saw that maybe someone else saw too because if you've ever been through something then you can look at someone else and immediately be triggered to something that has happened to you and it makes the situation that much more understandable. When you listen to this episode, you will hear me cover at least these three points:

1. How disappointed I am in the women who commented about Will and Jada's marriage in support of Chris Rock.

2. Why Will's facial expressions and reaction reminds me of when I have had to distance myself from certain people.

3. No one can please everyone so just know that no matter what you do or how you do it, you will get talked about. There will be people who stand in your favor and people who stand in your way.

Today's episode is sponsored by Coached by Tasha. Where single mothers go to get help with building healthy co-parenting relationships.

You can visit my website CoachedByTasha.com and join my emailing list. You will get a free download of how to have a great day as an adult. 

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Today's episode is for the single mothers who have been called crazy baby mamas or the single mothers who feel totally misunderstood. If you have tried to be cordial with your child's father but it always seems to turn into an argument then this episode is for you. If you've ever cried because being a single mother seems dang near impossible some days, then this episode is for you. If you feel like you aren't doing enough things to make co-parenting work simply because people keep talking about you, then this episode is for you.

Believe me when I say that there is going to be some level of stress when we become mothers and you can also believe that because we are single mothers, some of that stress is unnecessarily caused by our own actions. We are not going to take all of the blame for what we go through but we are going to face it head on and acknowledge that we can do a better job of controlling how we feel about certain situations.

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I don't know who needs to hear this episode, but I recorded it just for you. In today's episode, I talk about the times when we pick and choose who we listen to when we are being told about ourselves. No one is perfect and for that reason, there will be someone who wants to tell you how they see you and what they think will make you a better employee, sister, friend, business owner, mother, teacher and what ever other roles you may have. And they are only going to tell you so many times before they stop telling you anything at all. That's just the people who don't mind talking to you. Did you know that you do not come off as someone who can be approached by some people? That's right. It could be that you seem sensitive, easily offended, rude or irritated. Either way, when it comes to the point where no one can talk to you, you better believe that they are talking about you. To who, you ask? They will talk about you to anyone who will listen. And sometimes they end up talking to people who want to use your services, or date you, or hire you, or work with you on a project, or invite you on a girl's trip or maybe even just plan a play date. But something about you makes them say, no don't choose her because X,Y,Z. So be mindful of who you ignore because that person could be trying to help you and not hurt you. 

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