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Podcast Notes
* As written recently, I’m somewhat fluffy and need to “tighten”.
* So far so good, lifting regularly, doing HIIT
* Hill Sprints
* Norwegian 4x4
* Arm and Leg Day
* Leg day yesterday, and Arm day tomorrow, but wanted to do something, so I went for a swim.
* I’ve always been a strong swimmer, but a while back my friend who swam in high school taught me how to swim like an athlete–great exercise, but…
* I sucked! Ran out of gas way too quick, could only do 100m at a time–used to be able to do 200s and 400s! Also usually do an hour or more, but only did like 40 minutes today. LAME!
* But it was OK–just getting back into it, and starting and sucking is better than not starting at all.
* True of lots of things! Just get going. (Wait til I get going!) Did you listen to my first podcast? That was the fourth recording, and I still said “right?” Too many times, there were too many um’s and ahs, plus some noise when I scrolled, and a bit of echo–which I’ve hopefully reduced for this one (let me know!).
* Three quick questions on that one if you listened:
* Did you like the theme music from that one, or this one better?
* Suggestions on things I can do better, or that you found annoying
* Do you want video? I recorded it, but it’s just literally me talking and it’s a lot of extra work to upload the video–but I will do it if you guys want me to! Did for this one, so you can compare.
* Anyway, it was far from perfect, but have to get started–learned a lot, and will continue to improve the quality of sound and myself as a performer
* Another cliche: don’t make perfect the enemy of good.
* Anytime you start something new, the hardest part is at the beginning–because you suck.
* Movie or book: you don’t understand how the author/director communicates until you’re in there for a bit
* Any skill, for obvious reasons–paddle boarding accidents!
* Working out
* Relationships–dating is the sucky part. Once you get to like the 3rd or 4th date and are really starting to dig each other, that’s when you get to the good stuff.
* What to do if You’re Single
* How to Use Dating Apps Effectively
* Winning the Battle Against Social Anxiety
* Note: this is not new, lots of people have said this–indeed most of my stuff isn’t new. GetBetterSoon is a compilation of original ideas I’ve had combined with stuff I’ve heard from others–I've been obsessed with self-improvement for a long time…and somehow I still suck! Just my riff on things.
* Don’t expect to be an expert from the get go, and don’t let sucking at something stop you from pushing on. The learning curve is flat at the beginning, but the more time you put in, the steeper it gets and eventually goes exponential (for some things).
* Remember the thing Seth Godin says–quoted this on Decision Making 101, but it’s worth restating:
* “We should not deny that games exist. We should learn how games work. And when we make a move in a game that doesn’t seem to work, we should not say we are a bad person. We should say, I made a move that did not work. Those are totally different things. And so the only way you’ve been able to achieve all the things you’ve achieved between the archery, and the dancing, and everything in between, is you make more moves than most people, and you measure them and you don’t do the ones that don’t work again.”
* Giving yourself permission to suck is making a move, or several moves in the game, knowing that you will probably get it wrong, but that you’ll learn what is right by getting it wrong, so that next time you can move further ahead much faster.
* Each time you do this, you start to memorize and internalize the moves that work, and you learn the system of the game you are trying to play, which leads to a massive advantage if you just keep going!
* To dovetail with another common theme on GetBetterSoon, this is a great way to learn to Change Your Mind. Trying new things puts you in a different head space, and that’s really good–it makes you more likely to want to change things in your life patterns.
This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit getbettersoon.substack.com/subscribe
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By J. AllenPodcast Notes
* As written recently, I’m somewhat fluffy and need to “tighten”.
* So far so good, lifting regularly, doing HIIT
* Hill Sprints
* Norwegian 4x4
* Arm and Leg Day
* Leg day yesterday, and Arm day tomorrow, but wanted to do something, so I went for a swim.
* I’ve always been a strong swimmer, but a while back my friend who swam in high school taught me how to swim like an athlete–great exercise, but…
* I sucked! Ran out of gas way too quick, could only do 100m at a time–used to be able to do 200s and 400s! Also usually do an hour or more, but only did like 40 minutes today. LAME!
* But it was OK–just getting back into it, and starting and sucking is better than not starting at all.
* True of lots of things! Just get going. (Wait til I get going!) Did you listen to my first podcast? That was the fourth recording, and I still said “right?” Too many times, there were too many um’s and ahs, plus some noise when I scrolled, and a bit of echo–which I’ve hopefully reduced for this one (let me know!).
* Three quick questions on that one if you listened:
* Did you like the theme music from that one, or this one better?
* Suggestions on things I can do better, or that you found annoying
* Do you want video? I recorded it, but it’s just literally me talking and it’s a lot of extra work to upload the video–but I will do it if you guys want me to! Did for this one, so you can compare.
* Anyway, it was far from perfect, but have to get started–learned a lot, and will continue to improve the quality of sound and myself as a performer
* Another cliche: don’t make perfect the enemy of good.
* Anytime you start something new, the hardest part is at the beginning–because you suck.
* Movie or book: you don’t understand how the author/director communicates until you’re in there for a bit
* Any skill, for obvious reasons–paddle boarding accidents!
* Working out
* Relationships–dating is the sucky part. Once you get to like the 3rd or 4th date and are really starting to dig each other, that’s when you get to the good stuff.
* What to do if You’re Single
* How to Use Dating Apps Effectively
* Winning the Battle Against Social Anxiety
* Note: this is not new, lots of people have said this–indeed most of my stuff isn’t new. GetBetterSoon is a compilation of original ideas I’ve had combined with stuff I’ve heard from others–I've been obsessed with self-improvement for a long time…and somehow I still suck! Just my riff on things.
* Don’t expect to be an expert from the get go, and don’t let sucking at something stop you from pushing on. The learning curve is flat at the beginning, but the more time you put in, the steeper it gets and eventually goes exponential (for some things).
* Remember the thing Seth Godin says–quoted this on Decision Making 101, but it’s worth restating:
* “We should not deny that games exist. We should learn how games work. And when we make a move in a game that doesn’t seem to work, we should not say we are a bad person. We should say, I made a move that did not work. Those are totally different things. And so the only way you’ve been able to achieve all the things you’ve achieved between the archery, and the dancing, and everything in between, is you make more moves than most people, and you measure them and you don’t do the ones that don’t work again.”
* Giving yourself permission to suck is making a move, or several moves in the game, knowing that you will probably get it wrong, but that you’ll learn what is right by getting it wrong, so that next time you can move further ahead much faster.
* Each time you do this, you start to memorize and internalize the moves that work, and you learn the system of the game you are trying to play, which leads to a massive advantage if you just keep going!
* To dovetail with another common theme on GetBetterSoon, this is a great way to learn to Change Your Mind. Trying new things puts you in a different head space, and that’s really good–it makes you more likely to want to change things in your life patterns.
This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit getbettersoon.substack.com/subscribe