Let’s have a chat amongst us middle children…

I didn’t use to believe birth order had any effect on people until I started interacting with a world beyond my bubble.

We see it everyday the bold, loud people who think their voice has to be the most important one in the room and I know some days you almost believe them.

But I’m here to tell you that your voice matters too! So please take up space.

00:00- 02:42: A little bit of yapping

02:42- 06:08: Why do middle children struggle with assertiveness ?

06:08- 10:12: Why assertiveness matters

10:12- 12:34: How I learned to form personal opinions

12:34- 17:21: That time I had the courage to speak up

17:21- 27:55: What even led me to record his episode ?

27:55- 30:10: Archives from my notes + closing remarks

See you in another six months (hopefully not)

Disclaimer: This episode is not about giving an opinion on the value of men vs. women but rather highlighting how detrimental relationship dynamics can get when we view the other person through a single lens.

Please note satirical moments and don’t take anything that is said too seriously I’m only one person.

Today , we’re diving into the commodification of love and its impact on how we perceive and behave in relationships. I really enjoyed recording this and as always don’t hesitate to share your thoughts and feedback on IG.

Chapters

00:00- 01:30: Intro

01:30- 04:07: History lesson based on my imagination

04:07- 11:51: The actors of our love economy

11:51- 15:57: Where are y’all getting money for Valentines ?

15:57- 18:29: Realising how expensive weddings are

18:29- 22:05: Can you even have love as a broke person?

22:05- 29:49: The commodification of love

29:52- 34:01: Unpaid labour of women

34:01- 36:33: Emotional capital & emotional spending

36:33- 38:47: The people still want love

ig: @glowing_soul

Article on Valentine’s Day spending: https://www.finder.com/uk/credit-cards/best-credit-cards/valentines-day-statistics

The title says it all.

I think as a society we have become more and more allergic to any form of inconvenience (physical, mental, emotional, …) and it affects the way we communicate and treat others. I am for the school of thought of bringing back debates: respectful, opposing conversations because there’s is so much value in multiplicity. If this is a topic you find interesting, feel free to comment on Spotify or send me a DM.

ig: @glowing_soul

Trevor Noah X Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie conversation: https://youtu.be/yfNbrC3HJpU?si=oU9uiWl2FISfJpp4

In this episode, I’m tackling a deeply personal and complex question: Should members of the African Diaspora return to the motherland, or is it better to stay and build where we are? It’s a conversation I’ve had with myself countless times. Who do you become once you leave the place you know as “home”? How do we balance our dreams for Africa with the challenges of reintegration?

This isn’t about finding the “right” answer—it’s about unpacking the emotions, opportunities, and struggles tied to this decision. If you’ve ever felt torn between staying and returning, this one’s for you. Let’s talk it out.

Chapters

00:00- 03:26: Introduction

03:26- 05:06: What is the diaspora?

05:06- 10:07: When expectations don’t align

10:07- 15:28: Evolution of my own perspective

15:28- 17:52: The Concept of Identity

17:52- 20:10: The issue with denial of pluri-identities

20:10- 21:52: Finding a balance between being and belonging

21:52-26:35: The Know-it-alls and the Guilty

26:35- 29:09: I’m just frustrated with the whole thing

29:09- 35:15: New Horizons; How do we move forward together?

35:15- 35:38: Outro

ig: @glowing_soul

If you enjoyed this discourse, here is a video suggestion: https://youtu.be/mV0WcD1AgwU?si=pJOde4_jaFCmmmnh