GoalChat

Want to up-level your speaking? Start speaking out of the box. On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling discusses the topic with Bobbie Carlton, Innovation Women; John Chen, Engaging Virtual Meetings; and Shelley Goldstein, Remarkable Speaking. The trio share what they love about speaking and what stops people from getting on stages, as well as tips, strategies, and inspiring examples.

What is Speaking Out of the Box

- John: Technology plus technique

- Shelley: Finding opportunities and seizing them; you do not need permission to speak

- Bobbie: Doing something unexpected, rather than what the audience anticipates you will do. Be surprising, counter-intuitive, while still addressing the topic

What Is Your Counter-Intuitive Pattern Interrupt

- Bobbie: "I am not here to train you in public speaking; I'm here to get you on stages"

- John: "Turn on the damn camera. I help create virtual meetings that don't suck"

- Shelley: The long pause

Goals

- Bobbie: Come up with something counterintuitive you can do during your talk. Ask people what they need and what they expect, and then find a way to surprise them

- John: Find a place to speak, record it, and send it to John; he will give you feedback. Ask others for feedback after you speak; Talkadot is a great resource for that

- Shelley: If you are feeling nervous about speaking, have a conversation. It can be with a neighbor, service provider, anyone.  Take baby steps

Final Thoughts

- John: Everyone has a topic to speak about; if you don't know what that is, take the time to figure it out!

- Shelley: Be yourself

- Bobbie: Speaking out of the box also applies to all different stages

Learn more:

Bobbie Carlton: InnovationWomen.com

John Chen: EngagingVirtualMeetings.com

Shelley Goldstein: RemarkableSpeaking.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling speaks with Jennifer Ballard, Jenny Calcoen, and M.J. Fievre about Life Implosions. Jen Ballard is founder of Joy Scoutz Gen-Xer Adventure Club; Jenny Calcoen is CEO + Founder of Inner Earthquake™, and M.J. Fievre is author of the Badass Black Girl series, among other titles. 

When facing change, by choice or circumstance, it’s best to pause, take a breath, and embrace it. Jen, Jenny, and M.J. discuss how they got - and get - through challenging times, as well as some of their life explosions aka the good things. The trio also shared recommendations for coping with whatever life throws your way, tips for setting boundaries, goals for self care, and more.

What Counts as a Life Implosion

- MJ: A situation that brings you more stress than you think you can endure

- Jenny: It could be minor for one person and major for another. It's something that shakes up your insides, it impacts your identity

- Jen: It's about the loss of control, a major life event, uncertainty, fear

How to Deal With Them

- Jenny: Approach with curiosity

- MJ: Figure out what you can and can't control

- Jen: Look at the big picture

Goals 

- Jenny: If you are living your life based on someone else's expectations, there's a voice inside that you need to listen to. Quiet the noise, pause, trust yourself, develop confidence

- Jen: Have an adventure. Do something that's exciting that takes you outside of yourself. It helps you reset

- MJ: Try journaling. Imagine your perfect life and write it down

Final Thoughts

- Jenny: Believe in Yourself

- Jen: From Lisa Nichols: Fill your own cup and serve others from the overflow in your saucer

- MJ: Create a support system before you need one

Learn More:

Jennifer Ballard: https://Facebook.com/JoyScoutz

Jenny Calcoen: https://JennyCalcoen.com 

M.J. Fievre: https://BadassBlackGirl.com

Debra Eckerling: https://TheDEBMethod.com

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On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling goes full-meta with a conversation about conversations! Her guests are Matt Bailey, a marketing and communications educator, SiteLogic; Pamela Lippitt, a communication conclusions consultant, Hill Street Group; and Leisa Reid, a speaker whisperer/trainer and founder of Get Speaking Gigs Now.

The panel shares their definition of conversations, its value, and their other go-to topics. They also offer a ton of tips, along with anecdotes, on how to approach and make the most of conversations.

Learn More:

Matt Bailey: SiteLogic.com

Pam Lippitt: HillStreetGroup.com

Leisa Reid: GetSpeakingGigsNow/Tips

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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Dreams are power. They can be used for replenishment, insights, and manifestation. On this episode of The DEB Show podcast, host Debra Eckerling speaks with Dr. Michael Lennox and Leslie Marsh about Dreams. Michael is author of "Psychic Dreamer: Exploring the Connection between Dreams and Intuition" among other titles and Leslie is a Shamanic Practitioner and Storyteller.

Michael and Leslie share their connection to dreams, ways to use dreams for insight and growth, and so much more.

What Are Dreams

- Michael: Profound stories and takes of our infinite reality

- Leslie: It begins with nothingness. We dream ourselves into being

The Value of Dreams

- Leslie: It's good for our mental health and wellbeing

- Michael: They enable us to go places we cannot go in our waking life; you cannot draw something to you that, below the surface, you don't think you can have

- Michael: Dreams help you know who you are

- Leslie: And your purpose

Manifestation

- Michael: Petition your dreams for information.

- Leslie: Get in touch with your universal mind on purpose. Start with gratitude (thanks, universal mind)

Goals

- Michael: To remember your dreams more readily... Set intentions first. Put the dream journal next to your bed. Write something down even if you don't have a memory, as it will work as a trigger

- Leslie: Make a "going on a date with yourself" ritual before sleep and dreaming

Final Thoughts

- Leslie: Take small bites. Don't guzzle

- Michael: Given the fact that world has gone mad, remember the resilience of the human organism. Focus on the good

Learn more:

Michael Lennox: MichaelLennox.com

Leslie Marsh: Spiralheartscotland.wordpress.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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Professional and Personal goals go hand in hand. On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling dives into Personal Goals with Erik Fisher, Nona Prather, and Michaele Weissman. Erik is the host and producer of the Beyond the ToDo List podcast, Nona is an author and speaker-booker, and Michaele is author of "The Rye Bread Marriage," as well as other books and articles.

The panel shares their takes on personal goals, what stops people from prioritizing them, tips for finding that all-elusive work-life balance, and more.

What Are Personal Goals

- Erik: Checking in with yourself

- Nona: Quality of life

- Michaele: Managing work and family effectively

Prioritizing

- Erik: Opportunity cost. Know what you will give your "yes" to

- Nona: Calendaring

- Erik: Use a journal/journaling app

- Michaele: Know that you can't be two places at once

Goals 

- Michaele: Beyond networking, find your core group of supporters. And let them know/show how much you appreciate them

- Erik: Get more and better sleep

- Nona: Do at least 3 things per day that stretches you a little

Final Thoughts

- Nona: Don't let your goals scare you. There's never a perfect time to do the things you want to do

- Michaele: Now is the time

- Erik: Maybe now isn't the time. But still write down the things. Soon may be the time

Learn more:

Erik Fisher: BeyondtheToDoList.com

Nona Prather: Prather-Marketing.com

Michael Weissman: MichaeleWeissmanWrites.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

Get Links: TheDEBMethod.com/personal-goals-erik-fisher-nona-prather-and-michaele-weissman

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Happy New Year 2024 Goal Getters! On this episode of The Deb Show, host Debra Eckerling is joined by Influencer Marketing Consultant Gordon Glenister, Creative Director Seth Goldstein, and Systems Architect Evelyn Pacitti to ring in the new year. The panel shared their 2023 wins and challenges, their 2024 aspirations, and inspiration and advice for the new year!

Learn More:

Gordon Glenister: GordonGlenister.com

Seth Goldstein: SethGoldstein.me

Evelyn Pacitti: MeasureableWellness.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling talks about winning with Aime Card, Annie Korzen, and Liz Lachman. Aime is author of "The Tigerbelles," Annie is an 85-year-old TikTok influencer and author of "The Book of Annie," and Liz is a filmmaker, whose documentary "Susan Feniger FORKED" is currently on the film festival circuit. All three have pursued projects that define what it means to win. The trio share their thoughts on winning, perseverance, and failure; how to maintain a winning and creative spirit, and more.

What Does Winning Mean to You

- Liz: The last few years, I've been trusting my gut and my instinct more. Rather than saying, what will others like? I say, what do I like? The thing that means winning to me is when I get thrilled when people are impacted by my work

- Annie: Finally have the gratification of being appreciated for qualities I always suspected I might possess, but always apologized for (being too talkative, honest, opinionated, etc.). Young people are responding to me in a way that my own peers never did

- Aime: When something I have worked on resonates with someone else. For instance, when I get feedback from anyone who reads the book and I know my writing got through the page and reached somebody

Words to Live By

- Aime: "I'm tired is not the time to quit."

- Annie: "Yeah, why not"

- Liz: "Leave me alone"

Goals

- Annie: Phone a friend who doesn't realize you feel like they are neglecting you

- Aime: Get out of your comfort zone

- Liz: Literally jump for joy

Final Thoughts

- Annie: To appreciate what you've got, make the best of what you've got

- Aime: Gratitude goes a long way

- Liz: Another therapist told me. Your head is the secretary. The gut is the boss. The gut says, here's what I want to do. The brain makes it happen. Don't confuse the two. Don't let the brain start making the decisions.

Learn More:

Aime Card: AimeCard.com

Annie Korzen: Annie Korzen.com

Liz Lachman: LizLachman.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling continues the #DEBcember inspiration. She talks about creating your Mission, Motto, and Theme Song with Reginald Ferguson, founder of New York Fashion Geek; Ilene Marcus, CEO of Aligned Workplace; and Viveka von Rosen, founder of Beyond the Dream Board. When you get a running start into the new year, it really helps you make the most of it.

The panel shares their backstories, as well as their missions and mottos, and what keeps them going. Reg, Ilene, and Viv also offer insights for breaking through blocks, claiming the life you want, and more.

Missions/Mottos

Reg: To take men from fashion confused to fashion confident

Ilene: To help people feng shui their emotions to manage themselves

Viv: Women's words change the world

Theme Songs

Ilene: "Eye of the Tiger" to get pumped up; "The Gambler" by Kenny Rogers for introspection

Viv: "A Little Less Conversation" by Elvis Presley is a reminder to take action

Reg: "Don't Give Up" by Peter Gabriel featuring Kate Bush for inspiration and "Lord Help Me" by the late Donny Hathaway when exasperated

Goals

Viv: Find a stretch goal for the new year: jumping off a mountain, monetary, personal. Make a commitment to yourself to do the thing that you know is holding you back

Ilene: Teach something new every day

Learn more:

Reginald Ferguson: NYashionGeek.com

Ilene Marcus: AlignedWorkplace.com

Viveka von Rosen: BeyondtheDreamBoard.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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On this episode of The DEB Show, Christopher Cherian, co-founder of Gatherly; Annie P. Ruggles, founder of Quirk Works Consulting and the Non-Sleazy Sales Academy; and business strategist and community builder Keith Spiro once again join host Debra Eckerling for her annual #Start2024Now Party!

Debra likes to start the new year in DEBcember! That way, you get motivation to finish the calendar year strong, as well as inspiration to get a running start into the new year!

The conversation kicked off with a discussion of the rollercoaster ride that was 2023, before Chris, Annie, and Keith discussed their challenges, wins, and "joy" projects from the year. The trio also shared their goals for the end of this year, priorities for the next one, and goals gifted to the audience.

Guests' Themes from 2023

Chris: Adaptability

Keith: Being present

Annie: Finding balance between tenacity and self-care

Guests' Themes for 2024

Chris: Reconnection

Keith: Teaching

Annie: The year of Annie

Gifted Goals

Chris: Set a personal goal, as well as professional ones

Annie: Dismantle the "shoulds" in your life as you wind down this year. Next year, don't pick up any new ones. Thou should not should and do not be should upon

Keith: Choose a passion, choose a person, and double down in giving them your attention

Final Thoughts

Keith: When you meet a new person, spend time exploring each other's worlds. And let your worlds explode as a result

Chris: Everybody you meet has something to teach you. Be open minded and curious

Annie: Don't nod on a podcast. Be present, be bold, and reach out to the new people you meet

Learn More:

Chris Cherian:Gathery.io

Annie P. Ruggles: AnniePRuggles.com

Keith Spiro: KeithSpiroMedia.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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On this episode of The DEB Show, host Debra Eckerling talks about Giving with Carol Hink, founder of True Wind Culture; Brenda Knight, author of Random Acts of Kindness; and Harri James-O’Kelley, founder of The O’Kelley Lab. Carol, Brenda, and Harri are all advocates for others; they are also examples of kindness personified.

The trio talked about their connection to the subject, as well as their thoughts how and what to give. Carol, Brenda, and Harri also shared their favorite acts of kindness, giving goals, and more.

What is Giving?

- Carol: It’s what makes my heart grow

- Harri: Reflecting, being there for others, and staying positive

- Brenda: Awareness and emotional intelligence (sensing what someone else needs. Sometimes it’s a smile, holding the door for someone, or checking in with people you see every day

How to Be Better at Giving

- Brenda: Stay in the moment and be true to yourself

- Carol: Overthinking is a barrier to giving; it becomes overwhelming. Just do it

- Harri: Time is a barrier. And people think giving only has to be a certain way. Shift your mindset and get creative with how and when you give

Goals

- Carol: When you meet someone, ask them “What gives you joy?”

- Harri: Offer to be part of someone’s team

- Brenda: Put your cellphone down and make eye contact when you talk to people

- Brenda: Give compliments. Acknowledge others – it makes a difference

Final Thoughts

- Harri: Give of yourself

- Brenda: Encourage people in your life to read, especially kids

- Carol: If you know a veteran who is going through trauma, who would like to be in nature, on the water, reach out to learn about her Sail it Forward program

Learn more:

Carol Hink: TrueWindCulture.com

Brenda Knight: Mango.bz

Harri James-O'Kelley: TheOKelleyLab.com

Debra Eckerling: TheDEBMethod.com

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