Today's episode is part 2 of What Makes You Great. This conversation stemmed from a phrase my grandpa Glen Stratton always said: "Don't forget how great you is." This is something that has always stuck with me. At times when you need to tap into your strength, remember that your greatness is something that fulfills you, gives you confidence, and allows you to live up to your talents and gifts.

What are you compromising on that's keeping you from being great? Here's a personal example: I love having fake nails, but I can't play the instruments I love to play when I have them, so they are keeping me from my greatness. This is a simple example, but you get the idea.

For you, this might be diet and exercise keeping you from being your physical best. Or it could be self-sabotage habits that keep you from your own emotional well-being. It could be a toxic relationship that drains you rather than serves you.

What is it that you're truly great at? What have you said "yes" to that your heart was a "no" for? These insights can help you figure out not only what makes you great, but how to allow yourself to embrace your greatness.

Each and every one of us has our own unique gifts and abilities, and embracing this allows us to coexist in a beautiful way. You're in your light and truth, and so are others. God made us this way. He wants us to be great, and that is worth celebrating.

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Welcome back to another episode. This month is mental health awareness month, which is the focus of today's episode. Trigger warning: This episode discusses suicide and trauma.

I'm back in therapy, and in that space, I've been exploring shame. I never thought shame was such a culprit in my life until I started doing this work with my friend Joyce. What it's revealed to me is that shame has been both a hindrance and a blessing in my life—and I'm ready to be done with it.

I have used shame as a method of control to be a better mom, better partner, and more. But it's a lie. I don't need to shame myself to have control. The shame game is real, but I'm so thankful for the support I'm receiving right now.

In high school, I went through major depression and was first confronted with suicidal thoughts. I would often use food as a coping mechanism. I was baking all the time and I felt really lonely. I had relationships, but they were all surface relationships. I never made any attempts, but I often had and expressed the dark thoughts I was having.

As time went on, I got married and had kids, and I spent a lot of time just making my family a priority. I spent a lot of time doing, and not a lot of time being. There were some difficult years throughout my fifth pregnancy where those thoughts came up again, but after the birth, I became committed to my healing.

You deserve healing too, whatever that looks like for you. Just taking a step in that direction is a big deal. Grounding every day keeps the darkness away. It recalibrates you into power and possibility. The door out of your worst moments is through your gifts and purpose.

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Today we're joined by special guest Jason Mow, who is the author of four books—three in historical fiction and another as an autobiography. He's a retired first responder and a very strong person. He is also an incredible speaker who knows how to tell stories that will touch your heart.

How can you put yourself out there and feel comfortable with self-promotion? This isn't something that came naturally to Jason. Early in life, he felt drawn to running toward chaos—which led him to become a soldier and police officer. But when this was taken away from him after being wounded, he had to rediscover who he was.

As a result, he began sharing his inspiring story with others. He wanted to reach more people, and the biggest obstacle he had towards promoting himself was simply taking the first step. Just starting is often the most difficult part of the process.

For Jason, going on his first date after divorce was scary. Hugging a woman that was not his wife after 20 years was scary, too. Still, he knew that if he wanted to grow, he had to be willing to take that step. This is true in so many aspects of life; any area where you are approaching the unknown.

You need to have the will to take that first step and be able to accept whatever consequences come of it. Throughout our lives, we have been telling ourselves what we can't do. We've been training ourselves to fail. We have to reprogram our thoughts and our input so we can override the natural tendency to hold ourselves back.

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In this episode, I pose the internal question of "Where to next?". In a moment of not knowing what was coming next, I recorded this vulnerable podcast.

Being in business takes time and money. Publishing this podcast, publishing books, websites, etc all cost money! Is it worth it? Do I keep going? Listen in as I work through it in real-time.

We don't always have to know what is ten steps ahead. We can plan and have dreams. And sometimes it seems futile. God is there waiting for us to keep striving. He will meet us where we are at.

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My husband Aaron Dutcher is back on the podcast again on this episode. We have some things in motion right now, but the path is not clear yet. I am a "gather ideas and then throw them at the wall and see what sticks" person, but I also get analysis paralysis. It's an interesting dichotomy. Still, we are planning on melding some cool ideas together and it's exciting.

A few months ago, we found ourselves busier than we'd been in so long. There were breakdowns on both sides, and as we went through that, we took turns carrying each other. That's what a good partnership is.

I recently expressed where I am in my journey in a particular area to someone. I didn't feel judgment in sharing what I said, but I felt sadness. It made me realize when you share your growth and the other person isn't on the same path, it can be difficult for them to honor you.

When you are leaning into your vision or goal, you tend to stay in your own lane. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing or saying. I'm in my partnership with God, and I can persevere. When you're up to good things, that's your focus.

A sign you might not be staying in your lane is jealousy. Another is feeling like you need to be busy. It's not a light and truth experience, and when control and jealousy come up for me, I know I'm not collaborating with God. I have left the building, and it's time to get back on my path.

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This time I'm here in the studio with Hollie Warnick, and we decided to take a little time to hit record. Hollie is an author who created a dream journal, a podcaster, and a mom of four. She's also a fun, playful person who exudes vibrancy. She's felt free to let that authentic part of herself out more and more over the years.

If you haven't read "Healing Through Broken Relationships" yet, I highly recommend it—and not just because I collaborated on it. These stories are phenomenal. It's so significant and moving to hear the stories right from the people who experienced them. It really highlights various types of relationships too.

Recently I've noticed a validity to consistency. Actually, this was highlighted by my husband who noted that I didn't crash before a recent podcast. When you keep at something, it helps you expand outside what you're used to. It helps you get out of your own box.

Hollie is right in it with me. She also sees the excitement of being on the edge; the precipice of what's next. When she's at the Grand Canyon, she gets this sense she wants to jump off and fly (but promises that she always remembers gravity isn't on her side). There's a sense that with this expansion comes a proliferating love and joy.

It's gravity versus freedom versus movement. They can all exist at once. What's most interesting is that when we are expanding into a new space, we don't even know what's there yet. I know what I don't know, but in this transformative space, you can ask to be shown.

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Keira Brinton joins as a guest today on this episode of Going Dutch. We had just recorded her chapter in our upcoming book. Keira is a newly divorced mother with five kids and also runs a business. At times, she doubts she will be able to do it all: raise five kids, be present in their lives, and do the work she feels called to do.

For her, every day is a day of crazy, ferocious risk. She's jumping and trusting God will be there. She's been purposefully making changes that fit the vibration she wants, and has decided to approach life unafraid and demand what she is willing to work for.

Making change feels risky, but it's important to stay in a space where you feel uncomfortable if you want to grow. For Keira, she keeps pushing that edge. The more risk she takes, the more comfortable she gets. She has to keep pushing herself for more.

No matter what, you have to follow what you feel called to do. Creations decay in the body, so you have to get them out. What you feel called to do has the capacity to help so many people. Putting parameters and dates on your results will help you realize your goals.

Keira has an event coming up called Activate the Creator. Anybody who's a creator—content creator, podcast host, entrepreneur—can have their magic unlocked at this event. You will also be given space to create while being supported by a breathwork facilitator. It's going to be very activating and inspiring.

Randa has opened up the Shine Bright Momentum Masterimind "SHABOOM", a four month instensive coaching program. Group and individual coaching and a retreat at the end to seal up all that you'll learn and celebrate all of your growth!

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In this episode, I didn't let my day being thwarted stop me from sharing this message. Recorded during my morning cold plunge because it assists me in being great. In the world, compromise is generally considered a good thing. I challenge you to consider the compromises you make. Do they sacrifice your greatness?

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My guest today is Gina Trimmer from Revitalized Womanhood. She is going to talk to us about how Revitalized Womanhood began, helping women find their vision, and what it's like to create a community.

Gina's journey started a long time ago. Even as a young girl, she was creating visions of her future with her friends. Now she realizes the full circle connection between what she does now and her youthful dreams. Family life got in the way for a while, but Gina soon found her purpose in leading this movement for women.

The idea came in June, and it was already growing by the end of that month. Her podcast began in August with the official community launching in October. While the growth is exciting, there is also sadness in losing the one-on-one connections a small community has forged.

We are all together in this life, and that is what Revitalized Womanhood is based on. A community you can go to and share your life, goals, and dreams without judgment. There is accountability, support, and safety, but there is also reflection and evaluation. Women can do hard things. It is time for the victim mentality to be left behind.

Each day, take a tiny bite. Move closer to your goal one piece at a time, and ask yourself if what you are doing is moving you toward your goal. Always check in with yourself. You don't have to be a put-upon woman. You can follow your passions. You do not have to do every little thing in your home. Teach your kids how to handle things. Level up yourself and those around you. Be you, love you.

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Today I want to talk about breaking down perceptions and telling the future. You can't possibly know what the outcome of something will be, so don't fall into that trap. You have the ability to change the end result. Life isn't a foregone conclusion.

In life, you have an almost certain future. It means that you are stuck in a self-fulfilling prophecy if you always think you know what will happen based on the past. You create the experiences over and over.

Recently I had a breakdown, believing I knew how something was going to go. I retreated into the darkness and stopped using the tools I know to work for me. I went down the rabbit hole of why. Why am I doing this? Why am I here? I took some time to work on myself. Was this feeling purely emotional? Was it a self-fulfilling prophecy? Was it something physical? In truth, it was everything.

I tried some supplements that helped to pull me out of the blackest depths. I went on a girls' weekend to the Unstoppable Biz Conference. I was still in the midst of the darkness, but I realized that there is a part of me that doesn't know how to communicate my needs. Instead, I hid in shame, dishonesty, and fear.

Continuing to live in that space is contradictory to everything I believe. I believe in God, the Heavenly Mother, and Christ. I believe in atonement. I am here today to ask you, is there something you are holding on to? Let it go. There is nothing you can do to change the past.

At the end of this episode, I share my morning song using my sound bowl. I hope it will bring you rest and peace as you listen.

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