Good Enough

In this episode, Andrea Burke talks with Rachel Joy Welcher about purity culture, sexual shame, and more.

For more information about Rachel Joy Welcher:

Twitter
Two Funerals, Then Easter
Blue Tarp

Her new book "Talking Back to Purity Culture: Rediscovering Faithful Christian Sexuality " releases from InterVarsity Press in 2020.

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Listen in as we wrap up the first season of Good Enough, talk about what next season will look like, and review some of our favorite episodes!

Find us online:

Lore Wilbert
Website: sayable.net
Instagram: @lorewilbert
Twitter: @lorewilbert

Andrea Burke
Website: andreagburke.com
Instagram: @andreagburke
Twitter: @theandreaburke

Emily and Laura are the co-founders of Risen Motherhood and if you haven’t checked out their podcast, and writing, and resources, well, you probably have because they’re HUGELY popular. They have made it their goal to bring the Gospel straight into the heart of the home to mothers, tackling questions about discipleship, discipline, bible study, you name it. Both of them have a genuinely authentic way of writing about the real stuff of parenting while also weaving in the truth of the Gospel.

Risen Motherhood book —https://www.risenmotherhood.com/book
RM Podcast — https://www.risenmotherhood.com/podcast

NYT Article "The Relentlessness of Modern Parenting" – https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/25/upshot/the-relentlessness-of-modern-parenting.html

Weekly Challenge
Paul Tripp talks about this in his book parenting: “The sin, weakness, rebellion, or failure of your children is never an imposition on your parenting. It is never an interruption. It is never a hassle.  It is always grace. God loves your children. He has put them in a family of faith, and in relentless grace, he will reveal their need to you again and again so that you can be his tool of awareness, conviction, repentance, faith, and change. And because in these moments he asks you to forsake your agenda for his, this opportunity of grace is not just for your children, it’s for you as well.” https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/parenting-its-never-an-interruption/

This week, when you see your children’s sin, ask God how you can be an ambassador of the Gospel in their hearts — to be a tool for him. This applies whether your children are 2 or 25. And if you don’t have children, remember that you’re in the family of God. You will witness the sin of children of God this week. How can you be an ambassador of grace? 

Second challenge, if you’ve bought into the “relentlessness” of modern parenting like the NYT article talks about, how can you step back from the race of society and find ways to do more of what Deuteronomy talks about — recenter your parenting around the Gospel.

Scripture
Deut. 6:6-9
Colossians 3:21
John 19:26-27

Debbie Maloney is the wife of Kevin Maloney, who is my lead pastor here at Grace Road. Kevin was on our episode about diet culture. (Go back and listen to that one. It’s been one of our most loved episodes.) Kevin and Debbie have been married 18 years and they have four kids.

Resources
dwellapp.io/GoodEnough

Scripture
Romans 12:9-21
Proverbs 12:22-23
Ephesians 4:31-32

Weekly Challenge
This week find a few brothers, including your spouse if you’re married, and repent for the way you’ve talked about them in the past, ask them what it would look like to speak life to them, and then endeavor to do so. 

Look for ways to encourage men in their God-given masculine roles. Honor the way they are designed distinctly unique from women. 

We are so happy to welcome as our guest today, Lindsey Carlson, to talk about friendships with other women. Lindsey is a pastor’s wife, and even more so, a church planting pastor’s wife. They planted their church, in Baltimore, MD, four years ago. She’s a mom to 5 kids and she recently released her first book “Growing in Godliness: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Maturing in Christ.” Buy it here.

https://lindseycarlson.net/

Weekly Challenge:
Think of one friendship this week where you would like the Spirit to help you in your weakness. What might repentance to them look like? Or intentionality? Or release? What’s an action you can take in faith to see that friendship changed in submission to God’s best for friendship?

Scripture:
1 Timothy 5:13
Ephesians 5:15-21

Today our guest is Jessica Thompson. Jess is part of the epic podcast, Front Porch With the Fitzes (which you should totally check out) with her mom, Elyse Fitzpatrick, her dad Phil, and her brother Joel. Jess is the author of Give Them Grace, Answering Your Kids Toughest Questions, and Exploring Grace Together. And she and her brother just wrote a book together about sex called, Mom, Dad, What’s Sex? Today we get to talk about Friendship with Guys.

Resources
Why Can't We Be Friends?

Scriptures
Romans 12:10

Weekly Challenge
Think of a trustworthy man in your life (or woman, if you’re a man) you’ve held at arm’s length because of fear in your own heart. What would it look like to, as much as it’s appropriate, extend yourself to them as a sister or brother? How can you close the gap created by culture and fear, and trust the God who designed the family of God to help the family of God flourish? How can you practice the one-anothers toward them?

Today our guest is Minda Corso. Minda is a social and digital media maven living in Michigan by way of DC, by way of Florida, by way of Texas which, she says, will always be home. She’s a Blogger, Twitter-er, Facebook-er, Instagram-er, Perfecter of the art of great conversation over coffee, Minda lives and breathes all things social. 

She’s new to Michigan and, as a southerner, is finding new ways to survive the Michigan winters as well as making homemade pasta, singing, taking an Orange Theory class, or looking for new ways to help people love Jesus just a little bit more. 

Minda got her start in social media 10 years ago working for an international missions organization. Since then, she has managed accounts for national organizations, presidential candidates, authors, and now works in the world of philanthropy working with the WK Kellogg Foundation. You can follow her at Twitter at @mindac and Instagram.

Resources:
dwellapp.io/GoodEnough

Scriptures:
Luke 8:17
James 1:19
Philippians 4:8
Psalm 84:10
1 Corinthians 10:23

Weekly Challenges:
Pay attention to the content you create and absorb on social media this week. Are you listening to those who build up, cheer up, and stir one another on to love and good works? Or those who use their “platform” to tear others down or shame you or others? Pay attention to how you’re doing there. 

Encourage those you know in real life through social media. If you know them outside of SM, engage with their social media and don’t just scroll by. Like, encourage, engage, love well.  If they were standing in the room with you and showed you an image/said something, would you ignore them?

In this episode, Andrea and Lore talk about dating, their own stories, and answer a whole slew of questions they got on this topic.

Weekly Challenges
If you want to date and you’re not, or even if you are, make the cheesy list of what you want in a spouse. Have some friends you trust look over it with you to see if there’s anything that’s not God-honoring. Then bring that before the Lord and ask boldly. 

If you’re married, be intentional to have single people in your home. Be a covert matchmaker. Let your home be a place where people can meet, hang, mingle, and know one another. 

Links
http://www.andreagburke.com/blog/2019/3/4/when-you-make-your-bed-in-hell
http://www.andreagburke.com/blog/2018/3/23/its-been-13-years-since-i-died

Hannah Anderson is the author of Made for More, Humble Roots, and All That’s Good. She’s the wife of a pastor in rural Appalachia, the mother of three, and she, along with Erin Straza, are the hosts of Persuasion, a podcast where “fine ladies, rational minds, and the best kind of company” gather together to discuss pertinent ideas and issues. Hannah is a master of threaded tweets on Twitter mainly because she’s great at thinking out loud and inviting others into her thoughts. Which is what we’re hoping to do with her today as we talk about clean living trends in the world and church today and thinking through these things with minds and hearts centered on Jesus.

Scripture
Job 14:5
Romans 14:20
Acts 10:10-16
Psalm 103:14

Weekly Challenge
Whether you are someone who is concerned with making sure everything is clean or non-toxic, or you are someone who doesn’t have the financial or mental resources to choose those things for you or your family, this week we want to encourage you to before you eat, put makeup on, clean your house, or feed your family, think about 1 Timothy 4:4, “For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving.” Ask yourself: how do I receive this, whatever it is, with thanksgiving? And then simply thank God for what he has given you, and walk in peace, knowing he is good and sovereign.

Resources
https://www.sometimesalight.com/
https://twitter.com/sometimesalight
https://www.instagram.com/hannah_._anderson/
https://www.facebook.com/hannah.anderson1234/