GoodLiving Podcast

The red pill gave a lot of heartbroken young men a reason to hit the gym and get their money up. Koke says that’s the good part. The bad part is the resentment it teaches you to keep, and he argues it quietly repels the very women you want. He gets personal about it. He once told a girlfriend he’d be her “workhorse” and still never felt like enough. Later, he applied the red-pill playbook and lost two women who told him “I’m coming over, but nothing is going to happen.” A wise woman he trusts explained what he’d missed, and he built a calmer approach from it: stay relaxed, be fine with nothing happening, keep friends as friends, and learn female perspective from real women instead of from men who claim to explain “female nature.”

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Show Notes

• Why Koke has a problem with many red-pill ideas, while still giving the movement credit for what it got right
• His own “provider” past: telling a girlfriend he’d be her workhorse and still feeling strained
• How heartbreak and betrayal turn into resentment toward a whole gender
• What the red pill gets right: the gym, self-improvement, and getting your money up
• Why acting like you don’t need women works against the attraction you want
• Healing resentment through knowledge, and taking responsibility for who you chose
• His story: two women, two “nothing is going to happen” texts, and two replies of “stay in your house”
• What a wise woman told him about being objectified, and about how the game is played
• The new system: be comfortable with nothing happening, treat friends as friends, stay courteous
• Why to talk to your sisters, cousins, and mother, and to have real female friends
• A closing hope: focus on yourself, and find a partner so you don’t play games for long

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open: the problem with red-pill ideas
2. The “workhorse” years
3. Resentment and the pull of red-pill content
4. What it gets right: gym, money, self-improvement
5. Why it repels the women you want
6. Healing resentment through knowledge and responsibility
7. The story: two women and “stay in your house”
8. What the wise woman explained
9. The new system for “nothing is going to happen”
10. Friends on the fringes: courtesy without obligation
11. Learn female perspective from women
12. Closing hope

Pull Quotes (verbatim)

• “If you give anybody an opportunity to chop you, it is human nature that they will chop you.”
• “A lot of men are well-to-do now because they locked in, because they listen to Red Pill content while recovering from a heartbreak and working.”
• “You have to take responsibility for the fact that you probably chose wrong.”
• “No woman wants to be objectified first.”

Koke opens with a plain announcement: he’s not coming this month. November is No Nut November, and he’s using it to build sexual discipline while he’s young and single. He lays out what the internet says abstinence does for you, including the downsides, and then what he’s actually seen from his own experience. He says it saves money, takes the pressure out of early relationships, and gives him longer, deeper work sessions on editing and writing. He doesn’t pretend it’s easy. He walks through the “banana peels” that trip people up, mainly porn, masturbation, and the habit cycle behind both. He closes with his practical fixes: stay busy, pick one big priority for the month, and don’t do it alone. It’s aimed mostly at men, and he says up front that some listeners may be grossed out.

Show Notes

• The announcement: why he’s not coming this month, and why November is a good time to join the movement
• Why he thinks sexual discipline matters for a man trying to make something of himself, and why it’s easier to build when you’re young
• His own reasons: he’s young, he’s single, and he doesn’t owe anyone sex
• What the internet lists as the benefits of abstinence, including increased semen volume, focus, and personal clarity
• The downsides he read out too: lower sperm quality over long periods, night emissions, and the loss of climax as a natural painkiller
• A quick ask to rate the podcast on Spotify or wherever you listen
• Benefits from experience: it saves money, because the cost of dating and spending to get sex drops away
• How abstaining takes pressure off a new relationship, and gives it time to mature before sex enters it
• Why he gets longer editing and writing sessions during abstinence, and how it fueled the start of the podcast network
• The banana peels: porn and masturbation, and how the habit cycle of cue, trigger, and habit works
• Why he says catching the cycle early beats resisting at the last moment
• Staying busy, and choosing one big priority for the month: for him, finishing production on A Peek Under the Rainbow
• The padlock: why you shouldn’t do this alone, and how the discussion group fits in
• The ring he wears as a reminder, and a picture coming to the discussion group
• Using November to cut other habits too: more exercise, a better diet, more reading, and being kinder
• The closing challenge: be nice to everybody for no reason, enjoy moments, and call your parents

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open: “I’m not coming this month”
2. Why sexual discipline, and why start young
3. His own reasons for doing it now
4. What the internet says: the benefits
5. The downsides
6. Benefit from experience: saving money
7. Benefit from experience: building relationships without sex pressure
8. Benefit from experience: focus and deep work
9. The banana peels: porn, masturbation, and the habit cycle
10. Staying busy and picking one priority for the month
11. The padlock: community and the discussion group
12. The ring
13. Cutting other habits, and the closing challenge

Pull Quotes (verbatim)

• “It’s easy to build a tree when it’s young.”
• “You save money when you don’t need sex.”
• “Don’t do it alone.”
• “Let it be a time that you are nice to everybody for no reason.”

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Discussion Group

Imagine you can’t get a National Identification Number, and without one, you can’t open a bank account, keep your SIM active, or get a passport. For many disabled Nigerians, that is how it works. This episode opens with an excerpt from an Instagram video by Funmi Yakubu on how disabled people are shut out of the NIN system. Koke picks up from there. He asks what Nigeria has actually adjusted for disabled people beyond the occasional ramp, and argues the country is optimized for one standard body and one standard process. He brings in a story from his NYSC CDS days about a corps member whose fingerprints never scanned, India’s simple fix of accepting three kinds of biometric capture, and the Apple principle of designing for the end user first. He also asks who charity actually serves. He closes with what ordinary people can do, and a plain reminder to be kind to the disabled because you may become disabled yourself.

Show Notes

• The opening excerpt from Funmi Yakubu’s Instagram video, which inspired this episode, on disabled Nigerians being shut out of the NIN, banking, and other systems
• Why Koke thinks Nigeria lacks even basic empathy toward disabled people, down to using them for comic relief
• A ramp is not inclusion: how the country is set up around one standard process
• A story from NYSC CDS: a corps member whose fingerprints never scanned, and the hours he spent waiting every week
• What a simple alternative process could look like, and why disabled people should get shorter lines, not longer ones
• A hard digression: how some people think about the cost of raising a child with a disability
• The accessibility mandate that exists on paper, and why nobody enforces it
• What India did: approving iris, fingerprint, and facial recognition so that if one fails, another works
• Screen readers and accessible websites for blind users
• The Apple principle: building around the end user’s experience, down to how a charger cord is wound
• A thought experiment: a blind entrepreneur in Norway versus an able-bodied one in Nigeria, and who gets their business running first
• Charity as performance: who benefits from institutions, awards, and photo-ops, and what changes afterward
• What you can do: show concern, speak up when you see someone struggling in a queue, and vote
• Why people are “living like zombies,” and why obvious fixes don’t occur to decision-makers
• The closing reminder: be kind to the disabled because you may also become one

Chapter Markers

1. Opening excerpt: Funmi Yakubu’s Instagram video on disability and the NIN
2. Koke’s reaction: the empathy gap
3. Beyond the ramp: a country optimized for one standard
4. An NYSC CDS story: the fingerprint that wouldn’t scan
5. A hard digression: the cost of raising a child with a disability
6. The accessibility mandate nobody enforces
7. India’s fix: three capture systems
8. Accessible websites and screen readers
9. The Apple principle: designing for the end user
10. Thought experiment: a blind entrepreneur in Norway vs an able-bodied one in Nigeria
11. Charity as performance
12. What you can do
13. Closing: be kind to the disabled because you may become one

Pull Quotes 

• “We are optimized to do one standard.”
• “People are living like zombies in this country.”
• “It’s funny how many obvious things don’t even cross people’s heads.”
• “Be kind to the disabled because you may also become one.”

DISCUSSION GROUP
Where did you first learn what love is supposed to look like? Koke traces it back to childhood crushes and the Disney princess story: a damsel in distress, a dragon, and a prince whose reward for saving her is happily ever after. He calls it the “simp industrial complex,” a theory that the template teaches men to sacrifice themselves for women, and that the companies funding our media profit when they do. He follows it into real dating: why the savior formula wears people out, why it doesn’t work for either person, and what he calls the “pink mist,” the early rush that makes you glaze over red flags and drop your standards. He is clear that this isn’t a red-pill episode, and he argues it hurts everyone. The way out, he says, is to notice the mist and get clear on your standards before the excitement decides for you.

Show Notes

• What the “simp industrial complex” is, and how a childhood crush plays into it
• How Disney princess stories and games like Super Mario teach the damsel-and-dragon template for love
• The reward the story promises: the love and affection of the princess, then happily ever after
• Koke’s theory of who benefits: media funded by companies that sell to a market of mostly female shoppers
• Why he says this is not red-pill content, and why he argues it hurts everyone
• How the savior formula plays out when a young man starts dating, and why the dragons never run out
• Why doing everything at her bidding backfires: the pink mist fades and attraction goes with it
• The pink mist: the early burst of excitement that makes you drop standards and ignore red flags
• A tangent on why mainstream advice on love, marriage, and health can’t always be trusted
• Why simply being aware of the pink mist helps you avoid its worst effects
• Getting clear on your standards and long-term goals before excitement takes over
• The recommendation to listen to Real Matters Only, a sister podcast on the GoodLiving Network

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open: defining the simp industrial complex
2. Childhood crushes and the question of the endgame
3. The Disney princess template: damsel, dragon, prince
4. The reward: love, affection, and happily ever after
5. The theory: who profits from the template
6. Why he says it affects everyone, not just men
7. A tangent on trusting mainstream sources
8. How the template plays out when a young man starts dating
9. Why the formula fails both people
10. The pink mist
11. Standards before excitement
12. Closing: start Real Matters Only next

DISCUSSION GROUP

Koke walks to the gym, which takes 17 minutes on foot, and uses the time to give the update he promised after his earlier trip: how the podcast network and his December event are actually going. The original plan was five shows with a 12-episode season each. After reading how other networks stumbled by launching too many shows too early, he scaled back to three running at once and held the rest for later. A few months in, he gives an honest read on where each show stands, what the first day of a new launch taught him, and why his motivation isn’t what it was when he started. It’s a candid look at what happens when plans meet reality, plus a confession about why the episode he announced isn’t the one you’re getting this week.

Show Notes

• Recording on a 17-minute walk to the gym to give the update he promised on the December event and the podcast network
• The original plan: five podcasts, one 12-episode season each
• Why he scaled back after researching other networks: starting with too many shows too early is a common mistake
• The revised rollout: three shows first, the rest to follow
• Ideas still on the table for later shows, including a series that talks with people near the end of life about mortality and a niche-community series
• Where the shows stand: GoodLiving Podcast weekly, Real Matters Only’s season fully recorded with episode 11 out that day and episode 12 the following week, and A Peek Under the Rainbow airing around episode eight or nine with some episodes still unrecorded
• What a new show’s first day taught him: 100-plus plays in the first 24 hours, and a repeatable plan for it
• Amplifying the work beyond audio, including an ebook version of the Real Matters Only episodes
• The December event: progress tied to sponsor funding, social media getting started, and early posts coming soon
• Why motivation dips once the boring parts of the work arrive
• Whether he overestimated demand for niche shows, or whether it’s simply not their time yet
• Manifestation and why it works without a timeline
• The confession: why this week’s announced episode was held back and this walk became the episode

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open: the 17-minute walk and the update he promised
2. The original plan: five podcasts, 12 episodes each
3. Why he scaled back: the mistake other networks make
4. The revised plan: three shows first, plus ideas still on the table
5. The launch schedule and where each show stands now
6. What the first-day numbers taught him
7. Amplifying the work: the ebook idea
8. The December event: funding, sponsors, and social media
9. When motivation fades and plans meet reality
10. Manifestation, timing, and planting the seed
11. The confession: why this week’s announced episode was held back

DISCUSSION GROUP

What if being single isn't a waiting room for your next relationship, but one of the most important periods of your life?

Inspired by Karen Uzo's book How to Be Single, this episode explores what the host has learned from several periods of solitude throughout his life. From the heartbreak of his first university relationship in 2017, to the curiosity and self-education that followed a later breakup, and finally to a deeper period of introspection in recent years, each season of solitude brought a different kind of growth.

The episode explores how being alone can push you to develop your skills, discover your capacity to create money independently, become more curious about the world, understand your identity, confront difficult parts of yourself, and ultimately become less dependent on external validation.

It also gets deeply personal, examining childhood experiences, ADHD, the fear of being a "one-hit wonder," patterns in past relationships, and the ways self-knowledge can change the kind of partner you choose.

The central question isn't simply "How do you become comfortable being single?" It's: What happens when you use solitude to actually get to know yourself?

Show Notes

In this episode, I talk about what I've learned during the different periods of solitude I've experienced throughout my life.

The first came after my university relationship ended in 2017. At first, it was painful, but that period eventually pushed me toward football, creativity, drawing, and discovering that I could make money from my own skills.

A later breakup in 2023 led to a completely different kind of solitude. I already had a business, a house, a car, and a relatively stable life, so instead of rebuilding from scratch, I became deeply curious about the world. I consumed lectures, history, ideas, and information from Ivy League universities and other sources, and built a much larger knowledge base.

The current period of solitude has been different again. The focus has shifted inward.

I've spent more time examining my identity, my tendencies, my relationship patterns, my childhood, my insecurities, and the things I didn't previously understand about myself.

One of the biggest realizations has been that knowing yourself deeply changes what you need from other people. Instead of looking for someone to complete you or provide your sense of worth, self-knowledge can move you toward self-sufficiency.

I also discuss my ADHD diagnosis and how it helped me reinterpret parts of my childhood — including the recurring fear that I might initially impress people but eventually disappoint them once they discovered more about me.

Ultimately, solitude can become an opportunity to ask difficult questions:

Who are you when nobody is validating you?

What patterns keep appearing in your relationships?

What parts of yourself have you avoided examining?

And perhaps most importantly:

How well do you actually know yourself?

DISCUSSION GROUP

A gubernatorial candidate in Lagos gets asked a question in Yoruba and can't answer fluently — and overnight it becomes a referendum on who actually "owns" Lagos. Koke and a friend (unplanned, mic-still-warm energy throughout) unpack the Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour language controversy, then pull the thread further: is this really about language, or a convenient distraction engineered to keep people arguing about identity instead of policy? From there the conversation widens into a bigger question — does voting even work, or is democracy fundamentally broken. Asked how leaders were chosen in Africa before democracy existed, Koke's answer is one word: competence — and he makes the case that a system built around producing and installing capable leaders, rather than winning popularity contests, is closer to what real leadership should look like.

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open — catching up on the day, football/coaching talk
2. The GRV Yoruba fluency controversy enters the conversation
3. The argument that the controversy is a manufactured distraction tied to the governorship race
4. Widening out: is democracy actually working?
5. The case against voting as a system
6. Pivot: how were African leaders chosen before the 1700s, before democracy? Koke's answer — competence
7. Closing — acknowledgment this was unplanned/off-the-cuff

Pull Quotes (verbatim)

• "The whole democracy thing is not working here, bro."
• "Democracy is a big sham."
• "Let leaders lead. People that are born to be leaders should lead."
• "Competence. That's what communism is all about. The system that produces these people."

Corrections Note (for the listener)

A quick correction on a couple of things discussed in this episode: the candidate's name is Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour. Also, the system described in this conversation — competent, ideologically trained people leading rather than the general public voting — is more accurately described as a vanguardist strand of socialism (associated with Leninist theory), not communism as classically defined. Communism, properly speaking, refers to collective ownership and an eventual classless, stateless society — it doesn't itself include a mechanism for "the most competent rising to the top." Most other forms of socialism, including the more commonly known democratic socialism, still retain elections.

Corrections Note 

A quick correction on a couple of things said in this episode:

The strait referred to as "Al-Hammud" or "Al-Hermon" is actually the Bab-el-Mandeb Strait, and the "Sea West Canal" mentioned alongside it is the Suez Canal — both real waterways along the Red Sea shipping corridor.

Also, the account of the Pentagon memo naming seven countries for regime change was attributed to "a former general who worked in the CIA." That quote actually comes from General Wesley Clark, a retired U.S. Army four-star general and former NATO Supreme Allied Commander, from a widely-circulated 2007 interview.

Why did the U.S. actually go to war with Iraq — and does it explain what's happening with Iran right now? Koke traces a chain of events from the assassination of Iran's Ayatollah, through the Strait of Hormuz blockade and the resulting pressure on the Bab-el-Mandeb Strait and Suez Canal, to a 1996 document called the Clean Break Memo, arguing that decades of U.S. Middle East policy trace back to a long-term plan tied to Israeli interests. He brings in General Wesley Clark's widely-circulated account of a Pentagon memo naming seven countries slated for regime change, connects it to the economics of oil, and closes with a challenge to the listener: do your own research, and figure out where you actually stand.

Corrections applied here: the strait/canal names (Bab-el-Mandeb Strait, Suez Canal) and the Wesley Clark attribution are corrected from the original recording per confirmed research. The transcript's claim tying that route to Hezbollah/Lebanon is left as spoken — that appears to conflate Hezbollah (Lebanon) with the Houthis (Yemen, the group actually positioned near Bab-el-Mandeb), but that's a substantive claim, not a name error, so it's flagged for Koke rather than changed here.

Show Notes

• The "decapitation method" — why killing a country's leader doesn't always work, and how it played out with Iran
• How the Strait of Hormuz blockade created ripple effects across oil-dependent economies in the Middle East
• The U.S. and Israel's workaround through a second shipping route, and how Iran retaliated through regional proxies
• Backing up to 1996: the Clean Break Memo and the shift away from a negotiated Middle East peace
• A general's account of a Pentagon memo naming seven countries slated for regime change, starting with Iraq
• The Zionist belief system behind the push to control the region, according to Koke's explanation
• Why he thinks this could escalate toward a larger global conflict, and where Russia and China fit in
• On oil — why it underpins nearly everything, from medicine to plastics to transportation
• Closing challenge: do your own research and decide where you stand

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open — the assassination and the "decapitation method"
2. The Strait of Hormuz blockade and its economic ripple effects
3. The U.S./Israel workaround through a second shipping route
4. Iran's retaliation through regional proxies (Hezbollah)
5. Backing up: 1996 and the Clean Break Memo
6. The Zionist belief system, as he explains it
7. The Pentagon "seven countries in five years" account
8. Speculation on U.S.-Israel relations
9. Why this could escalate into a larger global conflict
10. On oil and why it underpins nearly everything
11. Closing challenge to the listener

This one didn't come with a plan. Koke steps outside his own compound — a full-circle moment from where he used to record during the NYSC series — to just talk through three days of feeling off: a stalled business he's poured money and pitches into with nothing to show for it, a meditation practice that was going well until it suddenly wasn't, and the quiet guilt of a day where he did literally nothing. No neat conclusion here, no lesson packaged up at the end — just him thinking out loud in real time, and feeling lighter for having said it.

Show Notes

• Recording from outside his own compound — an echo of where he used to record during the NYSC series
• On feeling off internally without a clear reason, even with good company around all week
• Worrying he's lost some of the podcast's early rawness now that the audience has grown
• His work history — the office job he quit after two months, commissioned drawing, remote gigs, video editing
• Why he decided to consolidate everything into one business
• The setbacks — ad spend with zero clients, pitches to a celebrity and a former employer that went nowhere
• On why he refuses to chase or be persistent when pitching himself
• A full day of doing nothing — no content, no gym, not even brushing his teeth
• The relief of just saying all of it out loud
• On his meditation streak breaking on day three, right when he expected it to click
• Closing — ending the episode the way it usually ends, regardless

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open — recording from outside his own compound, an echo of the NYSC series
2. On feeling off without a clear reason, even with good company around
3. Worrying he's lost some rawness now that the audience has grown
4. His work history — the office job he quit, drawing commissions, remote gigs, video editing
5. Deciding to consolidate everything into one business
6. The business setbacks — ad spend with no clients, pitches that went nowhere
7. On why he won't chase or be persistent when pitching himself
8. A full day of doing nothing — no content, no gym, no teeth brushed
9. The relief of just saying it out loud
10. The meditation streak that broke on day three
11. Closing — ending the episode the way it usually ends

Pull Quotes 

• "I know in my mind that I'm a serious-minded motherfucker. I work hard. I chase what I want down."
• "When something is right, it is going to be effortless. When something is for you, it's going to be effortless."
• "Sometimes you just need to open your mouth and say what the fuck is wrong and throw all that negative energy out in the open so it doesn't just stay inside you."
• "I haven't even brushed my teeth today."

DISCUSSION GROUP

Koke sat down to cook a simple Sunday lunch and realized he couldn't fully trust a single ingredient in it — the chicken, the salad cream, the seasoning, none of it. In this episode, he walks through just how deep Nigeria's fake-goods problem actually runs: adulterated meat and fish, counterfeit alcohol quietly damaging livers in the east, fake toothpaste, eggs, even tap water sitting in carcinogenic plastic before it reaches you. But this isn't just a problem episode — he pivots into a real, practical plan: chewing sticks and charcoal instead of toothpaste, sourcing chicken and fish directly instead of frozen, growing your own tomatoes and peppers, and buying raw spices from local sellers instead of packaged seasoning cubes. It's an honest, occasionally funny, ultimately actionable case for going back to how things were done before industrialization made almost everything harder to trust.

Chapter Markers

1. Cold open — "eat as close to nature as possible" and the Sunday lunch that started this
2. His own health journey — the plant-based diet attempt from three years ago
3. The scale of the problem: fake meat, fish, and counterfeit alcohol (Apulka)
4. A day in the life of fake goods — toothpaste, eggs, water, regulatory failure
5. Even fruit isn't safe from chemical adulteration
6. The pivot — moving from problem to solution
7. Solution: teeth — chewing sticks and charcoal
8. Solution: bathing soap — still an open question
9. Solution: sourcing chicken and fish directly
10. Solution: growing your own tomatoes, peppers, and inspecting produce for warning signs
11. Solution: replacing packaged seasoning cubes and spices with raw ingredients
12. Quick recap of every substitute
13. Outro — next episode preview

Show Notes

• Why he couldn't fully trust a single ingredient in his own Sunday lunch
• The scale of Nigeria's fake-goods problem — counterfeit meat, fish, and alcohol (Apulka), and the health damage it's quietly causing
• A day-in-the-life walkthrough of how fake goods show up everywhere — toothpaste, eggs, drinking water, spices
• Why even "healthy" choices like fruit aren't fully safe from adulteration
• The pivot to solutions: what he's actually changing in his own life
• Ditching toothpaste for chewing sticks and charcoal
• Why he hasn't found a soap alternative yet — and how you can help
• Sourcing chicken and fish directly instead of buying frozen
• Growing your own tomatoes and peppers, and what black spots on onions actually mean
• Replacing packaged seasoning cubes and spices with raw, traceable ingredients
• A full recap of every substitute mentioned in the episode