Welcome to Episode 16, the powerful conclusion of our special series with the acclaimed Adlerian psychologist, Alyson Schafer! This week, hosts Sandy Inkster and Samantha Ennest-Wallis finalize their deep dive into Family Meetings and the principles of Firm and Friendly parenting.

The discussion focuses on key strategies for managing a relationship with a busy, growing child or young adult. Alyson reinforces the need for confidence to ensure consistency, comparing a parent's approach to a mouse running a maze—if the rules keep changing, the child can't learn.

The hosts explore the practical reality of parenting older kids, where a major step is "reorganizing the respect". This means granting wider boundaries and allowing older children the entire week to complete chores that aren't time-sensitive, such as dusting or mowing the lawn. Alyson shares the "Level Three" technique—a family agreement to call out disrespectful "parent speak" or nagging to maintain a culture of mutual respect.

The episode finishes with the profound realization that "it is the long game". Parents must prioritize the relational part over the managerial part of parenting, trusting that their children will learn and that the ultimate "thank you" will be the quality of the lifelong relationship they build.

To see Alyson's videos of her own family meetings—including all the grace and grit—check out this YouTube playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZco_5s7VkjR5q5KrHdyJSGQIxj_dD0sK

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