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You can fire your financial advisor with a two-sentence email. No meeting, no guilt and no tax bill when the transfer is done right.

What you'll learn:

• The 5 signs it is time to leave your financial advisor
• The ownership rights most advisors never explain
• The exact two-sentence termination email to send
• How an ACAT transfer moves your investments without a forced sale or a tax bill
• Which assets transfer in kind and which need extra care
• How to choose between assets-under-management and fee-only fiduciary advisors

Firing your financial advisor is one of the most intimidating money moves most people ever consider, and it is far simpler than it feels. In this solo episode of Graceful Investor, Tasia gives you the full playbook. She starts with the five signs it is time to go: you do not understand what you own, your advisor pushes back on low-cost ETFs, the market drops and you hear nothing, the fees feel high or your life has changed and your plan has not changed with it.

Then she covers the rights most advisors never explain. Your accounts belong to you. You do not need permission to leave, you do not need permission to get quotes from a competing brokerage firm and most assets transfer in kind, which means no forced sale and no surprise tax bill on your gains.

From there Tasia walks through the four exit steps: open the new account first, request an ACAT transfer (automated customer account transfer), send a short written termination notice and watch for exit fees or surrender fees on annuities, insurance products and private funds. She explains which assets move cleanly, including stocks, ETFs, mutual funds, bonds, US Treasuries and cash, and which ones need extra care, like proprietary mutual funds, alternative investments, futures, crypto and employer 401(k) accounts. Account types have to match, so a Roth IRA moves to a Roth IRA and a traditional IRA moves to a traditional IRA.

The episode closes with how to choose your next advisor, comparing assets-under-management fees with flat-fee and fee-only fiduciaries, the green flags to look for in a first meeting and why you should interview at least two firms before you commit.

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Here are some other videos you might enjoy:

• The Hidden Fees Your Financial Advisor Hopes You Never Ask About: https://youtu.be/4DC2OX1Pz9Y
• What Wall Street Knows About Investing That You Don't: https://youtu.be/W2Il6VPlGWI
• If Your Cash Is Just Sitting in Savings, Do This First: https://youtu.be/N_QXbf8RnRw
• The 60-Day Deadline After Divorce: https://youtu.be/HUKwTj1ZrjA

LINKS AND RESOURCES:

• Graceful Investor weekly newsletter: https://gracefulinvestor.com/
• Find a fee-only fiduciary through the directory Tasia mentions in the episode: napfa.org

DISCLAIMER

This episode is for educational and informational purposes only. It does not constitute financial, legal, or investment advice. The host is not a licensed financial advisor. All investments carry risk, including the potential loss of principal. Please consult a qualified financial professional before making any investment decisions.

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You might be sitting on thousands of dollars — and it's hanging in your closet right now.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• How to view your wardrobe as a legitimate financial asset

• The emotional barriers that keep women from monetizing what they own

• A behind-the-scenes look at Stormwater's digital closet technology

• Why connecting with other women about money builds lasting confidence

• Practical steps to start conversations about personal finance with your peers

In this episode of Graceful Investor, host Tasia sits down with Katie, a successfully exited female founder who previously led investments into female-led fintech companies. Katie is now building Starmoire — a platform that digitizes your closet, assigns resale values to each item, and helps women understand the true worth of what they already own.

Katie walks through a live demo of the platform, showing how it photographs and catalogs clothing, provides estimated resale ranges based on current market data, and identifies trending items that could sell quickly. For one client, the total estimated closet value exceeded $27,000 — money that had been sitting untouched.

But this conversation goes deeper than technology. Tasia and Katie explore the emotional weight clothes carry — memories tied to specific outfits, the "fantasy self" we dress for, and the dopamine hit of shopping. They discuss how seeing your wardrobe as a balance sheet item can shift your entire relationship with spending.

The episode closes with advice for building financial confidence: find women who have walked a similar path, ask questions without shame, and start talking about money with friends. Katie shares specific tools like Addition Wealth and Chime's credit builder for women just starting their financial journey.

TIMESTAMPS

0:00 — Introduction: Meet Katie from Starmoire

1:18 — The "Clueless closet" dream comes to life

3:20 — Why clothes carry emotional weight

5:02 — Live demo: How the digital closet works

6:35 — Value estimates and the resale marketplace

9:20 — Reframing your closet as a financial asset

13:52 — Shopping, emotions, and mindset shifts

15:34 — Building your personal board of advisors

17:51 — Why women need to talk about money together

26:20 — Final advice: Start small, ask questions, use modern tools

If this episode shifted how you think about your closet — or your finances — share it with a woman in your life who needs to hear it. Subscribe to Graceful Investor so you never miss a conversation about building real financial security.

LINKS & RESOURCES

Learn more about Starmoire: https://www.starmoire.com/

Addition Wealth financial resources: https://www.additionwealth.com/

Chime Credit Builder: https://www.chime.com/credit/credit-builder/

Connect with Graceful Investor: https://gracefulinvestor.com/

DM Tasia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gracefulinvestor/

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What if your closet held thousands of dollars in untapped value? Katie Palencsar went from selling her car to fund her first startup to building a venture capital fund for female founders—and now she's helping women see their wardrobes as real financial assets.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

- How to shift from a "survival savings" mindset to confident investing

- Why starting with just $1 can build your investing muscle

- The real talk on household budgeting when you or your partner are entrepreneurs

- How Katie sold her first company weeks after giving birth

- Why renting (even in NYC) can be a strategic financial choice

- The concept of "closet as asset" and finding hidden value in what you already own

Katie Palencsar grew up in rural Pennsylvania, raised by a single mother, watching every dollar stretch to cover survival. That experience lit a fire: she wanted choices, not constraints. Today, Katie has built and sold a data services company, led a venture capital fund focused on female founders in fintech, and is now creating Starmoire—a platform that treats women's closets as genuine financial assets.

In this conversation, Katie and Tasia explore the mental shift required to move from saving to investing. Katie shares how intimidating finance felt in her twenties—like a "big gray cloud" reserved for Wall Street insiders—and how she discovered that accessibility starts with literally one dollar. She opens up about the entrepreneurial reality of selling her car, carrying credit card debt, and skipping her own paycheck to pay employees during her first venture.

The conversation also dives into household budgeting as a business owner. Katie describes how financial responsibility ebbs and flows between her and her husband depending on who's in a building phase, and why they've chosen to rent in New York City rather than own—freeing up capital for other investments. She explains her approach to outsourcing financial management to advisors, comparing it to hiring any expert professional.

Finally, Katie introduces the idea behind Starmoire: digitizing and valuing women's wardrobes the way men track watches or sports memorabilia. It's a fresh lens on personal finance—recognizing that the handbags and designer pieces sitting in your closet might represent real, liquid value.

TIMESTAMPS

- 0:00 — Introduction: Meet Katie Palencsar

- 2:05 — Growing up with a survival savings mindset

- 4:21 — Making the shift from saving to investing

- 7:20 — Household budgeting as dual entrepreneurs

- 8:56 — Katie's investing approach: advisors, private investments, and renting vs. owning

- 12:27 — Budgeting realities when building a business

- 13:54 — Selling her first company weeks after giving birth

- 15:52 — Breaking down the "complicated" myth of finance

- 18:09 — Imposter syndrome as a sign of growth

- 19:48 — Introducing Starmoire: your closet as a financial asset

If this conversation sparked a new way of thinking about your money, your closet, or your next big leap—subscribe and leave a review. Your support helps more women discover Graceful Investor.

DISCLAIMER

Graceful Investor is for educational and informational purposes only and is not financial, investment, tax, or legal advice. Investing involves risk, including possible loss of principal. Consult a qualified financial professional before making decisions about your money.

LINKS & RESOURCES

- Learn more about Starmoire: https://www.starmoire.com/

- Connect with Katie Palencsar: https://www.instagram.com/damekatiep/

- Follow Graceful Investor: https://www.instagram.com/gracefulinvestor/

RESOURCES (mentioned as examples, not endorsements): Addition Wealth, Chime credit builder

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If your cash is sitting in a savings account earning almost nothing, this episode is for you. Tasia explains why a basic savings account can quietly cost you money as prices rise, and walks through two simple ways to keep your cash liquid while it actually earns: a money market account at an online bank, and a money market fund you can hold in a brokerage or ask your advisor about.

She also covers the question to send your financial advisor, and the tax detail most channels skip. Practical, empowering, and beginner-friendly.

For educational purposes only. Not financial advice. Consult a qualified professional before making investment decisions.

Tasia talks with Brittany Rayburn about giving generously and getting confident with your whole financial picture — how donor-advised funds work, the smarter ways to give, the signs your advisor isn't really listening, and the small steps that build real confidence with your money.

For educational purposes only. Not financial advice. Consult a qualified professional before making investment decisions.

A Vanderbilt heir signed away millions five days before her wedding. Tasia walks through the financial lessons inside Belle Burden's bestselling memoir Strangers — the prenup change, the trust money turned marital property, the $10M account hidden in plain sight, and the slow drift Tasia names acquired financial passivity. Practical takeaways for any woman building or inheriting wealth.

For educational purposes only. Not financial advice. Consult a qualified professional before making investment decisions.

Most women in a marriage breakdown are not financially clueless. They are intelligent women who never had the chance to be involved in the money, and that gap becomes dangerous the moment a marriage ends.

Tasia sits with divorce attorney Drew Soshnik for part two of their hot takes on the book "Strangers" by Belle Burden, and the focus is one thing: financial agency. Subscribe for more conversations on women, money, and building real financial confidence.

Drew, who practices divorce law in four states including New York, walks through what he does first when a woman arrives at a low ebb. He steadies her confidence, teaches the concepts at a basic level, and builds a team around her, a financial planner or advisor she actually relates to. That sequence matters because confidence, not capability, is usually the thing that has atrophied. Most of these women, in his experience, are more than financially adept once the fear lifts.

The conversation gets concrete about process. Once a separation or divorce petition is filed, the first move is provisional or temporary orders that settle who lives where, who pays which bills, and how the children are handled. Drew explains why the heavy discovery, the long lists of document requests and interrogatories, is a timing and strategy decision, not an automatic first step. He and Tasia name the hardest stretch of all: the year before anything is filed, when a spouse controls the accounts, no court can compel disclosure, and a woman trying to save her marriage has almost no leverage.

They also unpack the parts of Belle's story that drew criticism after a New Yorker article surfaced questions about her trusts. Drew separates a true generation-skipping trust, which a spouse has no right to, from a trust a beneficiary can request distributions from, which changes the legal picture entirely. He clarifies a point many people miss: a prenup can waive temporary spousal maintenance, but it cannot touch child support, custody, or parenting time, and a prenup that tries to may invalidate itself.

The episode closes on the moment Belle agreed to meet her husband alone, with no attorney in the room, hours before settlement. Drew calls that a predictable power move designed to remove her advisors and her leverage, and explains the house-heavy mistake that leaves women with property and no cash. The throughline is empowering, not frightening: there is no shame in not knowing your finances, almost everyone has the ability to learn, and it is never too late to build agency over your money.

This conversation connects to wealth building, financial independence, prenuptial agreements, estate and trust planning, and the financial side of divorce and widowhood.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• The three things a divorce attorney does first to rebuild financial confidence
• Why the year before any filing is the most vulnerable financial stretch
• What a prenup can and cannot waive (child support is protected)
• Why meeting alone with no attorney is almost always a mistake

If this episode helped you think differently about protecting your assets, subscribe to Graceful Investor for more conversations that help you take control of your financial future. Share this with someone who needs to hear it before they make similar decisions.

DISCLAIMER

The content shared on this channel is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered financial, legal, or investment advice. Always consult with a qualified financial professional before making investment decisions. The host is not a licensed financial advisor. All investments carry risk, including the potential loss of principal.

LINKS & RESOURCES

"Strangers" by Belle Burden: https://www.amazon.com/Strangers-Memoir-Marriage-Belle-Burden/dp/0593733312

Drew Soshnik's law practice: https://www.faegredrinker.com/en/professionals/s/soshnick-andrew-z#tab-Overview

Previous episode with Drew Soshnik: https://youtu.be/0HBwm8LeevA

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A 19-year marriage. Two luxury homes purchased with inherited trust money. One prenup signed under pressure five days before the wedding. When divorce attorney Drew Soshnik breaks down the financial decisions in the NYT bestseller "Strangers," the lessons for protecting your wealth become impossible to ignore.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

- Why liquidating a trust to purchase property with your spouse can eliminate your legal protections

- What "coercive financial control" looks like in high-net-worth marriages—and the warning signs to watch for

- How prenuptial agreements can fail to protect you if assets are commingled or retitled

- The critical difference between keeping assets in a trust vs. putting them in joint names

- Why the timing and pressure around signing a prenup matters legally and emotionally

In this episode, Tasia and licensed divorce attorney Drew Soshnik (practicing in four states including New York) examine the financial decisions detailed in Belle Burden's NYT bestselling memoir "Strangers." The book chronicles a high-net-worth divorce after 19 years of marriage, revealing how the author—a former corporate lawyer turned stay-at-home mother—lost access to millions in inherited wealth.

Drew explains the concept of coercive financial control, referencing research from University of Toronto professor Mike Saini, and identifies the warning signs present in the book's narrative: monthly budget monitoring down to smoothie purchases, requests for detailed spending accounting, and complete exclusion from income visibility.

The conversation examines how the author's decision to liquidate two family trusts and purchase a Manhattan apartment ($4M) and Martha's Vineyard home ($5.5M) in joint names converted protected separate property into marital property—despite having a prenuptial agreement. Drew breaks down how prenups work in New York versus other states, why tracing provisions matter, and how pressure to sign or modify agreements close to the wedding date can lead to devastating financial outcomes.

This episode provides an essential perspective for anyone navigating marriage, divorce, or estate planning with significant assets.

If this episode helped you think differently about protecting your assets, subscribe to Graceful Investor for more conversations that help you take control of your financial future.

Share this with someone who needs to hear it before they make similar decisions.

LINKS & RESOURCES

"Strangers" by Belle Burden: https://www.amazon.com/Strangers-Memoir-Marriage-Belle-Burden/dp/0593733312

Drew Soshnik's law practice: https://www.faegredrinker.com/en/professionals/s/soshnick-andrew-z#tab-Overview

Previous episode with Drew Soshnik: https://youtu.be/4tKyCIeYTa4

Professor Mike Saini's research on coercive control: https://discover.research.utoronto.ca/9702-michael-saini/publications

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Did you know you only have 60 days after a divorce or loss to secure new health insurance—or risk months without coverage? In this episode, Tasia breaks down the health insurance blind spots that catch people off guard during major life transitions.

• The 60-day qualifying event window and why missing it can leave you uninsured for nearly a year
• COBRA coverage: the real costs and the 18-month trap most people don't see coming
• Healthcare.gov options: bronze, silver, and gold plans explained
• Why HSA accounts may be more valuable than 401(k)s during asset division
• The January 2026 HSA rule change and what it means for your healthcare strategy

Health insurance is one of the most overlooked financial blind spots during divorce or widowhood. While you're navigating grief, brain fog, and rebuilding your life, the government gives you just 60 days to find a new plan—and missing that window can mean months without coverage.

Tasia walks through the three main options available during this critical window: COBRA continuation coverage, enrolling in your own employer's plan, or shopping on healthcare.gov. She explains why COBRA's 18-month coverage period can create a dangerous gap if it expires outside of open enrollment season—something most people discover far too late.

The episode also covers a strategic consideration for anyone negotiating asset division: HSA accounts may deserve special attention. Unlike 401(k) funds locked until retirement age, HSA dollars can cover immediate medical expenses tax-free. And with the January 2026 rule change allowing contributions to HSA accounts through bronze marketplace plans even without earned income, understanding this tool becomes even more important.

Whether you're currently navigating a transition or planning ahead, this episode provides the awareness you need to protect yourself financially.

If this episode helped you understand something new about health insurance during transitions, subscribe to Graceful Investor for more financial clarity. Share this with someone navigating divorce or loss—they need to know about the 60-day window.

• Healthcare.gov Marketplace: https://www.healthcare.gov
• COBRA Information (DOL): https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/health-plans/cobra
• HSA Contribution Limits 2026: https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/smart-money/hsa-contribution-limits
• Connect with Tasia: https://www.instagram.com/gracefulinvestor/

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Greg Friedman has made over 800 private investments. In this episode, he shares the exact questions every woman should ask before trusting anyone with her money—and the red flags that signal it's time to walk away.

• How to evaluate whether a sponsor is trustworthy before investing
• The difference between committed capital and called capital
• What "preferred return" actually means and how it affects your money
• Why your gut feeling matters more than impressive credentials
• How to ask about fees without feeling intimidated
• When to get second and third opinions on financial advice

Greg Friedman, CEO and founder of Peachtree Group, joins Tasia to demystify private investing for women who want to understand what's really happening with their money. With nearly 25 years of experience in banking and private equity, Greg breaks down complex concepts like waterfalls, promotes, and preferred returns into language anyone can understand.

The conversation covers how Greg made his first private investment at 25, why he now has 75-80% of his net worth in private deals, and the critical mistake he made by trusting a friend's recommendation without doing his own due diligence. Greg explains that when evaluating any investment opportunity, you're really evaluating the person behind it—the "jockey," not just the asset.

Tasia and Greg discuss the importance of reading the Private Placement Memorandum (PPM) before investing, understanding fee structures, and recognizing that liquidity promises in private investments are rarely guaranteed. Greg shares advice he would give his own daughter: expect private investment capital to be locked up for three to seven years, never invest more than you're comfortable losing, and always get multiple opinions before making major financial decisions.

The episode also addresses how to approach meetings with financial advisors, especially for women who may feel intimidated or confused. Greg emphasizes that confusion is a red flag—a good advisor should make you feel informed, not overwhelmed. He encourages women to treat these relationships as business transactions and to never hesitate to make a change if something feels off.

If this episode helped you feel more confident about asking questions, share it with a woman in your life who needs to hear this. Subscribe to Graceful Investor for more conversations that put your financial wellbeing first.

• BrokerCheck.com – Research your advisor's background and disclosures
• Peachtree Group – Greg Friedman's private equity firm
• gracefulinvestor.com – Graceful Investor website
• instagram.com/gracefulinvestor – Connect with Tasia

Important Note: This episode is for educational purposes only and does not constitute financial advice. Please consult with a qualified financial professional before making investment decisions.

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