In this episode of Grandparenting Unscripted, “Caught in the Middle — When Everyone Needs You,” we explore the unique challenges faced by grandparents who find themselves balancing the needs of both their grandchildren, their adult children and aging parents. You may be helping an aging parent with appointments, medications, finances, housing, or simply keeping an eye on them. Your adult children may still need emotional, financial, or practical support. And then there are the grandchildren—rides, school events, babysitting, emergencies, and all the wonderful everyday things you want to be part of.
Somewhere in the middle of all those people you love… is you. f I go help Mom, I'm missing the grandchild's event. If I take the grandchild, I'm not available to my adult child. If I choose my spouse—or heaven forbid, myself—I feel as though I'm letting everybody down.
And there's a really important piece about marriage and your own life. You're not merely the connective tissue holding three generations together. Grandparents still have marriages, friendships, work, interests, plans—and limited energy. Being the person everyone can count on is a wonderful thing. But being dependable doesn't mean being infinitely available. You are part of the family you're trying so hard to take care of. Your needs belong in the equation, too. How do you balance the demands without losing yourself?