When we remember what is in the future we remember that there is nothing that this world could throw at us that can't be light and momentary when we consider the weigh of glory. 

God is okay with us feeling the pain but He wants us to look past our problems and look the future. Look out and look up! 

You can help someone come to know Jesus by helping them to understand their God question and where there asking this question. Meet them where they are at and go from their to help them understand who they are in Christ. Understanding what question people are asking allows us to break in with the Gospel of Jesus and give them the real answer for that of which they are only finding substitutes.