Those who have not grieved deeply are often disturbed during the holidays by those who have, since the latter sometimes seem to refuse to participate in the jollity of the season. This notion—that the joy, lights, and merriment of Christmas ought to raise the spirits of those who have lost loved ones—betrays a shallow view of grief, which cannot be alleviated by mere happiness.

In addition, Christmas is frequently a reminder of Christmases past where the lost loved one was present.

Because of this, Christians should be aware of two things: first, the presence and power of the grief some experience at the holidays, not becoming frustrated at it or ignoring it. Second, they should be willing to walk with those who grieve, not in an attempt to make them feel better, but as a way to model and embody the presence of the God who grieves with and walks with us.