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Grieving More Than a Death
This episode comes from the thick envelope from a lawyer that lands in my mailbox and flips my whole day upside down. Inside is news I never expected to learn this way: my aunt has died, and I don’t even know when it happened.
Shock hits first, then my mind does what it has learned to do for a lifetime it reaches for connection. I want to call my dad. Then I remember I can’t, because he died too. That split second says so much about how grief lives in the body, not just in our thoughts.
I talk honestly about layered bereavement, the kind that shows up when a family member dies and it reopens old family pain. There’s the death itself, and then there’s the silence- why wasn’t I called?- and then there’s ache of realizing you were not included.
When family estrangement, messy dynamics, or a controlling religious group has shaped who stays in touch, grief can carry bitterness and resentment right alongside love. If you’ve ever felt confused by your own reaction to a relative’s death, there is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. You are human.
We also discuss what I do in the moment to steady myself: getting out of the house, taking a long walk, and trying to calm my nervous system when anger starts to surge.
As The Caring Death Doula, I’m not here to polish grief into something pretty. I’m here to tell the truth and to hold space for yours too.
If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs gentle support, and leave a review so more grieving people can find this podcast.
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By FrancesThis episode comes from the thick envelope from a lawyer that lands in my mailbox and flips my whole day upside down. Inside is news I never expected to learn this way: my aunt has died, and I don’t even know when it happened.
Shock hits first, then my mind does what it has learned to do for a lifetime it reaches for connection. I want to call my dad. Then I remember I can’t, because he died too. That split second says so much about how grief lives in the body, not just in our thoughts.
I talk honestly about layered bereavement, the kind that shows up when a family member dies and it reopens old family pain. There’s the death itself, and then there’s the silence- why wasn’t I called?- and then there’s ache of realizing you were not included.
When family estrangement, messy dynamics, or a controlling religious group has shaped who stays in touch, grief can carry bitterness and resentment right alongside love. If you’ve ever felt confused by your own reaction to a relative’s death, there is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. You are human.
We also discuss what I do in the moment to steady myself: getting out of the house, taking a long walk, and trying to calm my nervous system when anger starts to surge.
As The Caring Death Doula, I’m not here to polish grief into something pretty. I’m here to tell the truth and to hold space for yours too.
If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs gentle support, and leave a review so more grieving people can find this podcast.
Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode.
Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: [email protected]
Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula
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Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.
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