In this episode, I share the news of a dear friend losing her son arriving like a punch to the chest, and how it raised a question many of us carry: how do you show up when the worst happens and you’re not even sure you’re “close enough” anymore? 

I open up about such a  moment and share the small, steady acts that help someone breathe when the ground falls away—because grief is personal, but it should never be carried alone.

We walk through compassionate, practical support that anyone can offer from near or far: sending a text when you don’t have the right words, leaving a voice note that says “I’m here,” arranging a meal delivery or takeout when cooking isn’t your thing, and picking items that can be heated later on the family’s timeline.

I talk about the difference between vague offers and specific help, how to respect boundaries while staying present, and why using the child’s name honors love that does not end. We also explore the power of ongoing check-ins—on the month mark, birthdays, and holidays—so care doesn’t fade when everyone else moves on.

You’ll hear gentle guidance on listening without fixing, witnessing without comparison, and offering presence that holds more than advice ever could. Whether you have a phone number, a social media connection, or just a shared memory, there’s a way to reach out today.

 If your heart is asking how to help, trust that quiet pull and take one small step.

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And if you’re grieving, know this: you’re seen, you’re loved, and you don’t have to stand alone.

~ Frances, The Caring Death Doula

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In this episode, Frances, The Caring Death Doula, speaks to those entering a new year with fresh grief and no desire to plan beyond today. She offers permission to slow down, ignore unhelpful comments, and focus on small steps.

• naming fresh grief as numb and foggy
• granting permission to feel and cry
• narrowing focus to the next hour or day
• releasing pressure to plan the month or year
• setting boundaries around unhelpful comments
• reassurance that support and space remain

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Here in the first episode of our second year, we restate this as a safe space to come if you are grieving. We name losses that don’t fit tidy boxes and reject rigid rules about how grief should look. We affirm that grief is love we carry forward and that no one gets to set our  pace.

Join Frances, The Caring Death Doula as she discusses:

• naming grief beyond death, including pets, retirement and lost dreams or  identity
• rejecting timelines and social scripts for mourning
• giving yourself permission to rest, say no and choose rituals
• asking others to speak names and sit with silence
• understanding grief as love that changes form
• finding support that validates rather than polices

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We close a season and a year by naming a simple truth: grief has no rules, and love doesn’t end. We offer permission to feel, encouragement to say their names, and practical ways to show up for one another.

• ending the season with gratitude and care
• no right or wrong way to grieve
• rejecting social timelines and pressure
• showing up with meals, calls, presence
• listening more than fixing
• saying their names to honor love
• carrying memories into a new year
• leaving shame and guilt behind
• choosing personal pace

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Christmas morning can hurt when grief is close. I speak softly to anyone carrying loss today, offering permission to feel, simple ways to cope, and the steady reminder that being seen can help you get through the hours.

• holding space for listeners grieving on a holiday
• naming both fresh grief and long-ago loss
• recognizing pressure to perform joy and host
• inviting boundaries, rest, and small steps
• affirming tears, quiet moments, and consented hugs
• reminding those alone that being witnessed matters
• repeating one breath at a time as a guide

May you know you are seen. 

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A birthday arrives, the phone stays silent, and what lingers is not just absence but the weight of everything left unsaid. 

In this episode I share a personal story about my birthdays and my dad. We didn’t have the closest relationship, but  he always called first thing in the early hours to wish me a happy birthday. That simple ritual—quiet, consistent, and unspectacular—became a compass for what love looked like in an imperfect relationship. When the calls stop, the mind rushes to guilt: I should have said more, visited more, made more of an effort. 

We discuss the pull of self-blame in grief.  Instead of hunting for perfect closure, we focus on how care hides in patterns: the check-ins, the remembered dates, the small gestures that repeat over time. I share how a hard day arrived before the birthday itself and how tears came early. Together we explore how two truths can live side by side: a relationship didn’t meet the dream, and there were real acts of love that mattered.

If you’re wrestling with unsaid words or a bond that never had time, this episode offers compassion.  

Grief is heavy enough without the extra weight of guilt and regret. 

Join me to honor relationship complexities, to recognize love in its quieter forms, and to extend grace—to your loved one and to yourself. 

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Today, in this episode, I speak to those carrying fresh or long-held grief during this season. I offer calm words, gentle practices, and a reminder that one step; one breath at a time is all you need to focus on today. 

• simple sensory self-care
• journaling and breathing practices
• choosing quiet
• asking what you need today
• moving forward without letting go of love

If you are grieving today, this is for you. I’m holding space for you. You are not alone. 

I am The Caring Death Doula,  and I am here for you. 

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In this episode, we reaffirm this podcast as a  space for people who are grieving and affirm that there is no right or wrong way to mourn. You are other to stand firm against shame, hold to your pace, and see tears as proof of love, not failure.

• no judgment and no guilt while grieving
• grief has no time limit or rulebook
• standing firm in your own pace and boundaries
• accepting waves that arrive out of the blue
• tears as evidence of love and bond
• body awareness and simple care during loss
• language that fits your experience and needs
• this space as support when you feel unseen

If you are needing to be seen and feel accepted, this is your place. Here there is no shame in tears. Please share with someone who needs gentleness today and their grief honored. 

I am Frances, The Caring Death Doula, and I am here for you.

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In this episode, I share with you how grief can resurface after a decade and why that does not mean we failed to heal. A small moment online triggers a wave of memory, and we choose compassion over judgment while inviting space to speak names out loud.

• how a simple reel reopens deep memories
• permission to feel grief many years later
• longing for the life that could have been
• the silence culture places on the bereaved
• speaking their names as an act of love
• reassurance that feeling is not failure

“Know that you can always send me an email. Tell me about your loved one. Tell me their name.”

This is The Caring Death Doula, and I am here for you. 

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In this episode, I speak directly to you who are carrying fresh or lingering grief, offering a steady reminder that there is no timeline and no approval needed to feel what you feel.

 I hold space, affirm your worth, and invite simple acts of care guided by your body and heart.

• holding space and witnessing grief 
• no timeline, no rules, no right way 
• listening to body and heart for cues 
• choosing rest, solitude, or connection as needed 
• releasing others’ approval and expectations 
• your grief is love
• reaching out for help when needed 
• remembering personal worth and value

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