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When Grief Knocks You Sideways
Grief doesn’t ask if you’re ready. It arrives and sometimes it knocks you flat.
In this episode, I open up about the death of my brother‑in‑law and how the shock unsettled not just my thoughts but my body, even with years of training as a grief educator and death doula. The point isn’t to prove we’re strong; it’s to learn how to be gentle with ourselves when grief hits.
I share practical ways to create pockets of safety: a few minutes of sunlight on your face or a cup of hot tea.
We also reframe crying as a powerful, biological reset rather than a loss of control. If tears don’t come easily, try a movie that loosens the valve. If tears do come, drop the reflex to stop them or to apologize. Never be ashamed of your tears.
Another thread runs through the caregiver’s dilemma: when you’re the one holding space, what happens when the loss is in your own family? I talk about the surprise I felt about being hit so hard with grief and how strong the fear was. Sometimes we need to step back from being “the strong one.”
Mixed emotions belong here too—joy and sorrow can live in the same breath, the same photo, the same memory.
You are not broken, and you don’t need fixing.
If this lands with you, subscribe, share it with someone who needs permission to feel, and leave a review so more people can find support when the waves hit.
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By FrancesGrief doesn’t ask if you’re ready. It arrives and sometimes it knocks you flat.
In this episode, I open up about the death of my brother‑in‑law and how the shock unsettled not just my thoughts but my body, even with years of training as a grief educator and death doula. The point isn’t to prove we’re strong; it’s to learn how to be gentle with ourselves when grief hits.
I share practical ways to create pockets of safety: a few minutes of sunlight on your face or a cup of hot tea.
We also reframe crying as a powerful, biological reset rather than a loss of control. If tears don’t come easily, try a movie that loosens the valve. If tears do come, drop the reflex to stop them or to apologize. Never be ashamed of your tears.
Another thread runs through the caregiver’s dilemma: when you’re the one holding space, what happens when the loss is in your own family? I talk about the surprise I felt about being hit so hard with grief and how strong the fear was. Sometimes we need to step back from being “the strong one.”
Mixed emotions belong here too—joy and sorrow can live in the same breath, the same photo, the same memory.
You are not broken, and you don’t need fixing.
If this lands with you, subscribe, share it with someone who needs permission to feel, and leave a review so more people can find support when the waves hit.
Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode.
Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: [email protected]
Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula
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IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr