So much grief content tells us that grief is just “love with nowhere to go”. But what happens when the relationship wasn’t loving - or wasn’t only loving?

In this episode of Death on the Daily, I explore the often unspoken experience of grieving someone who you had a complicated, painful, distant or unfinished relationship with. 

When grief our holds anger, relief, guilt, numbness, apathy or confusion alongside, or instead of, love.

This is an episode for you if you’re wondering:

• Do I even get to grieve them?
• Is my grief valid?
• Should I not speak ill of the dead? 
• Why do I feel relieved… or angry… or nothing at all?
• How do I mourn someone without rewriting the truth of the relationship?

You’ll hear gentle reflections on:

• why complicated grief can feel so isolating
• grieving both the relationship you had and the one you never got
• letting go of the pressure to forgive, resolve, or find closure
• why mixed emotions are not a betrayal

I also share practical, compassionate ways to support yourself when grief doesn’t fit the usual narrative - including how to make space for complexity, honour your truth, and care for what your body is holding.

If your grief feels messy, contradictory, or hard to name - this episode is for you.

Are you journeying with grief?

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This episode is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: [email protected]

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. 

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