We all know that moment when we walk away from a conversation and feel our whole body tighten — replaying every word, worrying we were too much, wishing we had stayed smaller.

That isn’t modesty. It’s the earliest form of shame, pulling us back into the roles we learned to survive.

This episode unpacks why we shrink to stay safe… and how we slowly grow back into our full emotional size.

We talk about:

• the first moment we learn to be “less”

• how shame speaks through the body, not the mind

• the roles we adopt to stay inside the field (Caretaker, Solver, Quiet One, Performer)

• the sensory experience of unshrinking

• and how autonomy grows when shame stops being the boss

It’s not about reinvention. It’s reunion ..with the parts of us we hid to stay loved.

If you want the short version, here’s what this conversation asks you to consider:

👉 Are you connecting… or disappearing?

👉 What part of you deserves to be in the room with you today?

👉 What would “standing in your full size” feel like today?

👉 What if shame was just information — not your identity?

👉 And what relationships would remain if you stopped shrinking?

If any of this hits somewhere real, listen in.

And if you know someone living at the edge of their own life, share this episode with them — let it reach anyone ready to grow back into their full size.