Have you noticed how sometimes we feel drawn to someone (or pushed away) before we know anything real about them?

We’ve all felt it:

• That instant “home” sensation with someone we barely know

• The quiet hope that a new connection might repair something old in us

• The whisper after betrayal: Please be safe. Please be different

• Confusing quick rapport with real trust, or trusting charisma over character

Our first impressions aren’t neutral. They arrive carrying projection, aspiration, desire, and the stories our body remembers before we do.

There’s one question that changes everything: Do I feel more me next to this person… or slightly distorted?

My new episode explores this with depth and clarity. The Law of Educated Guesses: Why We Misread People, and Why It Feels So Real. 

We all know that moment when we walk away from a conversation and feel our whole body tighten — replaying every word, worrying we were too much, wishing we had stayed smaller.

That isn’t modesty. It’s the earliest form of shame, pulling us back into the roles we learned to survive.

This episode unpacks why we shrink to stay safe… and how we slowly grow back into our full emotional size.

We talk about:

• the first moment we learn to be “less”

• how shame speaks through the body, not the mind

• the roles we adopt to stay inside the field (Caretaker, Solver, Quiet One, Performer)

• the sensory experience of unshrinking

• and how autonomy grows when shame stops being the boss

It’s not about reinvention. It’s reunion ..with the parts of us we hid to stay loved.

If you want the short version, here’s what this conversation asks you to consider:

👉 Are you connecting… or disappearing?

👉 What part of you deserves to be in the room with you today?

👉 What would “standing in your full size” feel like today?

👉 What if shame was just information — not your identity?

👉 And what relationships would remain if you stopped shrinking?

If any of this hits somewhere real, listen in.

And if you know someone living at the edge of their own life, share this episode with them — let it reach anyone ready to grow back into their full size.

Did you notice? When talking about betrayal, most conversations focus on the lie, the affair, the secret. In this episode, Dr Lia Roth talks about that quiet split that comes before: the moment our body says no and we say maybe later.

That tiny inner crack changes everything. It shapes the roles we step into — the Fixer, the Martyr, the Ghost, the Magnet — and it explains why the real shock of betrayal hits the body before the mind.

This episode isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity: how we lose our rhythm, why we miss the signs, and what it takes to stand again without splitting from ourselves.

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀? 

1. The first betrayal isn’t the lie

2. Self-betrayal is not weakness 

3. The way forward isn’t repair, it’s reconnection with ourselves.

If someone in your life has been moving through the day a little too quietly, share this episode with them. It might be the words they didn’t know they needed.

Waking up at 3:17 a.m. isn’t random. It’s the moment when the mind and body stop pretending to be on the same page. The room is quiet, but inside, something is active — stress, anxiety, mood shifts, or an emotional load we didn’t process during the day.

In this episode, we look at the clinical side of these wake-ups:

why the nervous system alerts us at this hour, what early-morning awakenings can signal, and how depression, anxiety, and trauma each shape the way we sleep.

We break down nightmares vs. night terrors, and that strange state where you feel awake but your body hasn’t caught up yet.

It’s not about adding drama to sleep problems.

It’s about understanding what the body is communicating when it interrupts rest.

If you’re waking up wired, flat, restless, or simply confused by your nights… this episode brings clarity to what’s actually going on underneath.

Any ideas where does shame come from?

Sometimes it starts when we are spotlighted without consent. When a comment, a look, or a laugh suddenly makes our body or our voice feel too much.

We think we’re just adapting:  softening our tone, dressing to blend in, keeping it safe. But is it really just that? 

Check this brilliant episode, packed with info and tools.

🎧FFreud. Shrink me? I am just waking up 👉

What happens when your dermatologist assumes you came for Botox, ...but you came to check on scars?

What starts as a funny visit turns into a reflection on ego, shame, and the risk of letting others define our worth.

Because yes—Botox might ease depression.

But maybe depression also begins when we drift too far from our own mission,

too scared to embody what we were actually born to do.

What You’ll Take Away:

– The hidden link between frowning, perception, and belonging

– Why confidence has nothing to do with being seen

– How autonomy begins where approval ends

– A creative exercise to find your true north

Listen—and find out what happens when we stop asking for mirrors.

Everyone’s talking about autonomy lately. But do we actually know what it is?

We love to call ourselves independent in work, in love, in life. But most of what we call independence is really reaction. We are proving, rebelling, performing for a system we still orbit around.

Autonomy is different. It’s not about pulling away. It’s the calm that comes when you no longer need a wink, a nod, or permission to be yourself.

In this episode of Fuck Freud. Shrink Me? I share a story about a seven-year-old who thought he was free, and what he taught me about belonging, confidence, and true leadership.

What You’ll Gain:

Clarity: Why independence is a phase, and autonomy is a state, the highest level of maturity.

Perspective: How rebellion and obedience are two sides of the same dependency coin.

Practical Insight: What leaders and families share when they foster true autonomy.

Emotional Skill: How to stop running for validation and start listening inward.

Creative Edge: Why real innovation grows from autonomy.

From the author of the Amazon bestseller Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle

In business and in love, timing is everything. Some of us measure progress by what gets done: emails sent, deals closed, numbers hit. Others measure time in presence... silence, listening, meaning. But not everyone functions at the same speed

✨ What you’ll get from this episode:

• A fresh framework for understanding mismatched rhythms in work and relationships

• How tempo clashes play out in business, sales, and financial advising

• A way to recognize when you’re collapsing into someone else’s rhythm—and what that costs you

🎧 Listen in and discover why syncing tempos isn’t the answer

From the author of the Amazon bestseller Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle

In every relationship—personal or professional—there’s a razor-thin line between patience and tolerance. We often treat them as synonyms, but they create very different dynamics.

This week, I’m unpacking the hidden difference between patience and tolerance—and why they are the backbone of love that bends without breaking.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why patience and tolerance aren’t the same (and how to spot the difference)

• What happens in relationships when we rush past both

• How practicing both leads to real connection

Shame doesn’t scream—it whispers, “Don’t mess this up.”

In this episode, Dr. Lia Roth breaks down the psychology of shame, self-betrayal, and the exhausting trap of people-pleasing.

Learn why belonging starts with you, not them—and how to stop hovering in the freakin’ middle.

🔹 Shame vs. self-worth

🔹 Projection, perception, and Binary Relationship Theory

🔹 Why we stay stuck—and how to finally step in

You’re not here to be tolerated. You’re here to take up space.